I Want My Mom!!!

MY TEN YEAR OLD SON, WENT AWAY, FOR TWO WEEKS, HE WAS LOOKING FORWARD TO IT, AND PERSONALLY SO WAS I.
UNTIL HE CALLED AFTER ONLY TWO DAYS, CRYING THAT HE WANTED TO COME HOME.  IT BECAME UNBEARABLE , SO
OF COURSE I WENT AND GOT HIM.

HE WAS BEING PICKED ON, AND COULD'NT HANDLE IT.

YOU SEE.....IT'S JUST THE TWO OF US IN THE HOME, I BEING A SINGLE MOM, DON'T HAVE MALES AROUND, AND OTHER
THAN HIS OLDER BROTHER, WHO SPARES HIM A DAY HERE AND THERE, WHEN HE HAS THE TIME
THERE IS NO FATHER FIGURE TO TEACH MY CHILD HOW TO BE STRONG.

I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!! I JUST KNOW THAT I DON'T WANT HIM TO SPEND THE REST OF HIS LIFE GOING THROUGH
THIS, WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP BUILD HIS CONFIDENCE IN HIMSELF, AND TEACH HIM TO STAND UP FOR HIMSELF.
 

lildawn lildawn
46-50, F
3 Responses Jul 22, 2010

I don't know if this will help but I grew up with no father ( and my mother was houdini when it came to dating because I NEVER even saw a man in our apartment!) and 3 sisters (2 older). My mom kind of let me go my own way as I grew. Don't get me wrong, she ALWAYS knew where I was and who I was with and I had curfews and all but my point is....she let me make choices as to what I wanted to do and encouraged my choice if not always agreeing with it. She would not "put" me in anything but rather dig around (in that way only a mom can!!) and kind of let me make the "decision" or at least the illusion of it! I made many mistakes and broke a few bones and scared the poor woman half to death on many days. But, she taught me NOT to be afraid to grow and make choices, even if they hurt (physically and emotionally) and before I knew it....I was on my way to being a man. Believe me, you ( as a MOM) have already made a zillion RIGHT decisions for your son and you will continue to do so ( I swear it's magic) and part of that decision making process is to ACCEPT that it is ok to need/want some down time. Heck, he does too!! I sincerely hope that this does not sound "preachy" ( I do not have any children!!) or mean-spirited, it is not the intention at all. I just remembered!! My first time going to church sponsored summer camp was a nightmare!!! I wanted to go home from day one!! I could not believe that I actually missed my sisters!! Everyone wants to go home!!! Have a great day!

Thank you for your comment, dreamsalive<br />
Karate is something I have thought about, and will get him into asap<br />
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Thank you

I would recommend joining him into a karate group. This can teach him so much! As well as every week being around adult male figures that can teach him so much and guide his strengths.