I Spank My Wife
My wife and I were married for 3 horrible years and were heading for divorce. I was sick and tired of her lies, disrespect, etc. She told me off one day in front of my boss and he commented that she needed a good spanking. I thought he was joking at first, but then a month later he told me he spanked his wife and that was the secret to his good marriage.
I went by a leather store and picked up a broad leather strap that I felt would sting but not bruise or mark her. I found her sitting in front of the TV set and the house a mess when I arrived home.
Instead of our usual shouting & throwing match, I went upstairs and created a list of her chores that I expected to be done daily. I also wrote down the behaviors that I would no longer tolerate.
Then I went down stairs and firmly but gently took her hand and told her that things could not continue the way they were. I handed her the list of what I expected of her. I told her that my intentions were to take her upstairs and give her a spanking when she failed to obey me in the future. She rolled her eyes and I could tell she did not believe me.
I then pulled her over my lap and pulled down her pants. In retrospect, I think she was so taken by surprise that she failed to resist. I then spanked her with the belt until she was genuinely sobbing and her buns were bright red. She was quite relieved to have the spanking over and immediately went into the kitchen to make supper (which was on the list of chores I expected of her).
That was 21 years ago. My wife and I just celebrated our 24th anniversary. We have a wonderful loving marriage and a peaceful home. I do not subscribe to the theory of "maintenance" spankings weekly. My wife is only spanked when she needs it. She fr
Some advise I would give:
1. Do NOT spank your wife for making mistakes such as accidently burning a meal, etc. This causes your wife to become dishonest and try to hide things from you. She needs and wants to rely on you to love her when things don't work out for her when she is doing her best.
2. When you do spank your wife, spank her until she is genuinely repentant - no more and not less. Less means she will be angry at you instead of repentant, more means she will fear you. I can tell when my wife is at this point because she is sobbing (as opposed to crying/screaming) and is no longer tightening her buttocks to resist the strap. This is why I feel you must always spank a bare bottom not a covered one. You need to be able to see when she is no longer fighting the discipline but actively accepting it. I generally spank 3-5 swats beyond this point. I used to do over the knee, but I found it easier for me for her to lay face down flat at the end of the bed. In this position you can tell when she is no longer resisting easier because her buttocks isn't stretched from being bent over. I also have her ***** naked as it allows me to guage more accurately when she has stopped fighting. The biggest mistake men make is to not spank long enough thinking they have spanked hard enough.
3. It is NO ONE's business but yours and your wife's when you must discipline her. Do not do so in public as it humiliates her. I am sure you do not want her to disrespect you in public and she deserves the same consideration. Even our children did not know when I had to discipline their mom. I never did so in front of them, in fact, I never ever raised my voice or my hand to my wife in front of them.
4. If you are angry, DO NOT spank your wife. Have her stand facing the corner while you cool off. There are times when I have had to have her stand in the corner for several hours until I could spank her without anger.
5. Wetting the strap makes for more sting with less marks. My wife's buns have never been bruised or marked after even the worst spanking I have ever given her. Leaving a mark on your wife shows that you were out of control. Her buns look sunburned after a spanking not bruised and they never have the hard welts you see pictured on the internet.
6. My wife often kisses my hands after I have had to discipline her and she wants to cuddle right after the spanking or time out. This is an important time for her so that she feels loved. Don't "whip & run". A properly disciplined wife feels loved by you. My son's wife doesn't want to cuddle after a spanking. He finds that a combination of a spanking followed by a time in the corner works best for her. So I suppose you need to feel out your wife for what works. You can tell this by the fact that your wife's behavior improves. No improvement means you are not disciplining her sufficiently.
7. Distance sex from punishment. I want and get sex every morning when I wake up. Your wife is vulnerable after being punished. Be careful to not take advantage of that vulnerablity to get sex. After a few months you will find your wife will no longer withhold sex from you because she wants to please you, you will get it as often as you want - but not if you take advantage of her when she is vulnerable.
8. Never fail to spank her when she disobeys. If you want to rely on her obedience then she needs to know you WILL spank her when she disobeys or breaks your rules.
9. Give your wife some allowance for days when she is menstruating, pregnant or otherwise not feeling well. By this I do not mean she is allowed to break rules. My wife calls me and asks permission to not do some household chores. I then can relax the rules for her on her bad days.
10. When your wife is pregnant or mensturating and spanking is not appropriate, you can still discipline her by using a softer strap on her calves and/or having her sit in the corner. Do not think that sitting your wife in a corner with a timer is not discipline. My wife has often asked to be spanked to get the punishment over with rather than endure the corner.
11. She needs to feel the discipline of the spanking long enough to actually change her mind and spirit. A devise that offers severe correction doesn't allow you to spank her long enough to actually change her heart. I strongly recommend a soft leather strap, 3" wide with a lot of holes in it. This stings her, especially if you wet it prior to spanking her, and allows you to continue spanking her until she is sobbing and has stopped resisting the punishment by tightening her buttocks. A ping pong paddle also works well but the strap is less work for me. My wife usually requires at least 1 minute and sometimes as much as 3 minutes of spanking to reach the point where the punishment is effective.
12. This last piece of advise is very important. If something new makes you mad, you talk to your wife and tell her of the new rule. In the beginning I would spank my wife for making me mad. When you do this it hardens her against you. I was a moran and it wasn't until I was driving home and mad at my wife for talking so long after church that I waited on her fuming. When she got in the car she realized I was mad and started sobbing because she knew she was getting a whipping. I did not want my wife living in fear of making me mad. I told her that night that from now on she was to inform me when she wanted to gab with the girls and I was no longer going to spank her for something not on her list. She later told me that that night was when she began to feel safe and began to obey me out of love not fear.
My wife honors me and treats me like a king when I come home. My house is spotlessly clean. There are no shouting matches, no thrown ob
The last time my wife required a spanking was over 3 months ago. I did have to set her in the corner twice this year, once for not obeying her budget and the other time was because she was snapping at the grandkids after I told her to let their parents discipline them. Our home is peaceful and a pleasure to come home to.
I strongly advise men to become the Head of the Household to have the perfect wife and marriage. Women actually become more feminine and loving when disciplined in the way I have described.