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My eldest daughter who is 12 got a spanking yesterday.she is at the age where she will answer back,i won't tolerate back chat in any form & she knows this yet she continued to do so.I don't even have to warn her what will happen if she does cos she got spanked for something similar last week.I also won't ask for something to be done more than once so this combined with the back chat saw her get a very sore backside.I have 4 kids 2 boys,2 girls & they all get spanked but just lately over the last 6 months or so my eldest has gotton it more than others.I do realise this is her age & i was exactly the same as she is when i was her age,yep i got spanked as well.Anyway she knew by the look on my face what was coming & ran to her room, when i caught up with her she apologised,i don't get any begging from my kids not to spank them they have no choice,so over my knee she went & was spanked extremely hard on her bare bottom,i only use my hand,i can say she was glowing,she was then made to go downstairs to the dining room & stand in the corner for 30 minutes with her butt on show.I know this may sound extreme to some people but i am very strict & my kids have been spanked like this since they were 3-4.I never ever spank them when i'm angry & they know spankings are for their own good.
steveslittlehelper steveslittlehelper 36-40, F 42 Responses Jun 28, 2011

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No 12 year old girl deserves her butt to be shown. She is going through the process of puberty, talking back and all is normal and that's not the way to punish her. SPANKING IS OKAY BUT SHE DOES NOT NEED HER BARE BUTT TO BE SHOWN THATS HUMILIATING AND YOUR A ******* HORNY FATHER.

U gave her exactly what she needed good bare bottom spanking that left her with a red glowing sore backside,great job mom !

You're right!

OK, this adds to my theory that teenage girls gets spanks
later in their teenage life. My last (male) spanking was 14.
My girl cousins got spanked at 17 and 19.
Is it possible that girls bottoms don't see the severity of their miss deeds. My bottom don't have that padding and it
causes me to straighten up earlier in life.

Glad to hear that you are a mom that only uses her hand for a spanking. An implement should never be used on a child.

I agree wth you, she needs a butt spanking.

yes oh yes i want you to be my mommy! this is what i need, my parents should still do this forever ad ever

I think you are in for quite a battle. The physical punishments will only add to the emotional issues (i.e. the need to talk back and protest your every argument). The public embarrassment might end up really becoming a problem for her when she's in her 40's. Here's why I say all that. Only a real expert will be able to predict her emotional completeness as she hits her 20's. If she develops a strange emotional response to the physical discipline, it will cause significant gyrations into some very serious psychosis. I'm simply stating that you need to grow along side your daughter and really work hard to understand why she is treating you like you are the enemy. Yes, I have seen 14 year old women take off away from their families because the physical discipline was too severe, too much for them to take. Couple that with public humiliation and you might be going down a road that will be very hard to reverse.

In private, bare hands, for total disregard and disrespect of you, I understand. I personally still would not, but I understand....

The way you handle your kids is horrible. If you did that to another adult it would be ASSAULT!!! To call it discipline, punishment, or parenting is rationalizing, Hitting children to make them behave they way we want them to is abusive. grounding, taking something the kid enjoys for a period of time does work. Baring her and have her on display is disgusting. A parent should use his/her hand for patting the child on the back, wipe away tears, and to give hugs. Did you ever talk to your kids and let them know how much you love them, and it upsets you and disappoints your when they misbehave? learning is painful enough, without inflicting physical pain.

That's not assault. If she did that in school she would get an in school suspension. If her siblings are all younger an it's just her siblings, it's fine. I wouldn't do that in front of just anyone.

Also, many adults do that to each other. Domestic Dicipline. It's also wonderful foreplay


I think if you spank them with only your hand and with their clothes on that's ok and how it should be done

Good job spanking mom keep spanking spnkbooty

If I was your daughter, I would of told you to **** off and straight out the front door I'd go. Simples.

tough guy

What part of Idaho do you live in?

I'm not certain your spankings are for their own good, it seems more like you want to turn them into servile, obediant sub-humans than responsible adults. Quite pathetic.

Well this is one servile sub-human speaking. I am also a graduate (this term since you ask, with a First). I dance, sing, act, play netball, ride, work for two voluntary charities. I have an amazing family and a thousand friends. I got my butt smacked (spanked, if you like) for about a decade of my growing up years. Not too hard, just enough to make me think. Boy do I feel subhuman. Not.

Thousands of friends... you are delusional, but you're already lost, what do I care. The point is the poster hit a child in order to shut her up, showing him that authority is not to be questioned. So later, when his child's rights are trampled, and their dignity is abused, they'll just take it without saying a word. That is what a sub-human is.

I have a girl whose close in age. Sarha's mouthyness tends to be her worst freind. Her mouthyness has earned her a few bare bottom spankings. I prefer to ground rather than spank yet she doesn't mind being grounded she does mind me spanking her more. I have used cornertime yes I make each one stand there bare bottom. For some reason: my kids remember facing the corner with bottoms exposed much longer than the stinging.

Ha ha, I hated that bit too, it's embarrassing that's why you're bare bum being on show!. I especially HATED boys seeing my bare bottom but they sometimes did *red faced*.

Well my three are all grown now but I did find particularly with my youngest daughter that from about 12/13 there was an increse in the number of spankings earned. This levelled off by mid teens so it can, in part, be an age thing. Hand on bare bottom should still be sufficient for that age but this might change later.

Our daughter graduated from a smacked bare bottom to the slipper in her mid teens.

I will congratulate you steveslittlehelper, as you are setting boundaries for your children. Boundaries let a child know that they can only step so far without their being consequences to pay for their mistakes, and that is how the world works, you commit a crime and you will be punished. You don't spank when your angry, which is the mistake a lot of parents make. You should always approach discipline with a calm mind, as there only needs to be one child in the room, not two.

thats ******* weird, 12 year old and you saw her *** you ******* pervert she's going to have weird *** sexual fetishes and loose her virginity too young have you wife do it you freak what the hell is your problem!!!!!

thats kinda creapy that its bare, like you like to stare at you 12 year olds bare red ***.. its weird just saying i understand spanking, but she's too old for bare.. she's going to be getting her period if she hasn't already and thats just awkward, shell be tequnicall physically not mentally ready to have sex, and believe me she will think about it and already does i recommending stopping with the bare soon before she gets some real messed up sexual fettish my parents did this to me, and I'm sexual ****** up in the head.. just saying

It hurts bad!!!!!!!!!!!

well come talk to me maybe I can help you

Yall seem pretty honest, I'm 11 and last night my daddy took my phone for yelling at my sister, after he took my pho I yelled at him and smacked him. he usually wets my butt and spanks me bare butt, but this time he did it with my cloths on and only 3 hits. He stopped himself and said "no. I know that you know you have done wrong, so I'm going to give you 3 days to think a good punishment" so can yall help me? What would you do to your child?<br />
Oh a I cursed at him.

I wish more parents would do the right thing thanks for sharing Please add me Glen

You guys who says dont Spank her BULL****to you!Im 36yo and made arrangements with a 55yo male to Spank me!monthend for past regrets!My sentence=6with a plastic Cane and 6with a Real Paddle!AND,I DESERVE IT.Would even let Steveslittlehelper Spank me herself!Its biblical to get it:Dont spare the Rods and let the child go wrotten!!!

My parents also had guidlines for us kids and rules we knew what they were and if we broke then we were punished sometimes grounded sometimes spanked. We didn't do that again at least for a long time like lying. My freinds who's parents didn't care or set rules were out of control 2 are heavy into drugs one just had a baby out of wedlock at age 18 so spanking and discpline was good for me and my sisters we don't do any of that From about 12 to 15 i was very out of control often and spanked a lot as well as grounded

Maintance Spankings for Teens is Not Abuse. Daily may be too much? If done correct Maintence Spankings might need to be done each Week Month or Every 6Months?

By the looks of things there needs to be more bare bottom spanking going on I applaud her for disciplining her children -most of my spankings were for mouthiness too and yes I was made to bare my bottom for it and stand in the corner afterwards-every spanking I got was completely warranted We stopped spanking and now these kids are awful-delinquents pregnant at 13 or 14 bringing the next undisciplined generation into the world-there's not a time I dont go shopping or whatever and see at least 2 or 3 children acting up in public. Its disgusting the world we live in where we cant discipline our children as we see fit

By the looks of things there needs to be more bare bottom spanking going on I applaud her for disciplining her children -most of my spankings were for mouthiness too and yes I was made to bare my bottom for it and stand in the corner afterwards-every spanking I got was completely warranted We stopped spanking and now these kids are awful-delinquents pregnant at 13 or 14 bringing the next undisciplined generation into the world-there's not a time I dont go shopping or whatever and see at least 2 or 3 children acting up in public. Its disgusting the world we live in where we cant discipline our children as we see fit

I have to wonder what kind of person would make a child pull down her pants and bend over a knee so she can be slapped "extremely hard on her bare bottom"! Then, as if that isn't enough, you, (the adult) has her stand in a corner for 30 minutes, butt showing, apparently to display "the glowing." All the while, you seem to think that the child knows it's for her own good.<br />
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What is this supposed to teach your daughter? Respect...what a joke; would you respect someone who did that to you? You even say in your post that you know part of her problem is her age, but apparently that doesn't matter. Why would you humiliate your own daughter this way? <br />
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Yes I'm a mom, my children are now 21 & 18 and they had attitude problems and skipped school and all kinds of things. I never believed that hitting was helpful, (I did it once when my daughter was 5, I spanked her butt one time and she was wearing pants but it felt horrible having her look at me with such shock and fear...never did it again). If hitting worked I don't think that you would still need to do it to a 12-year-old, shouldn't she be obedient by then. <br />
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Every parent who spanks says the same thing, "I was spanked as a child and I turned out ok." hit children, how is that turning out ok. I think that rather then looking back on your childhood and "rewriting" it so that all the spankings you got were good for you; perhaps you should try to remember it as it happened, from your view as the child getting hit and then realize that you are now the one doing the hitting.

Share some more stories please

i have never been spanked and im18 seeing these comments make me sick its like all of you enjoy hitting your kids. but i must confess reading this made me interested in getting a spanking to bad i dont anyone one. hmmm maybe my boyfriend will.

My daughter has an attitude and a bad mouth. If you ground her it don't work. Just today she got er little hinen busted good fo showing off and acting up in public. When you do corner time something j do, is 1 minute per each year of age you could try that and also after corner time, ny kids get 3-5 hard hand smacks on their sore hinen and that seems to tie the message together.

I think that 30minutes in the corner is a bit extreme.I totally agree with the spanking because of her naughty behaviour.But maybe you should try grounding or something like that.Now that she is that age.I just think that corner time is juvenile for a 12 year old.....x

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I've tried grounding her,shes not in the least bit bothered by it!

well do you find that maybe it is not working with you eldest daughter because she has not stop the swearing and back talk maybe it's time for somthing else. do give your kids money on a weekly basic stop that for a while iphone ipods and all that electroinic stuff take that away grounding have you ever tried that. If you still want to spank how many spanks do you give maybe it's not enought just because the bum is red does not mean it's getting threw. we should talk.

Dont just insult each other, Becky Romero is not totally wrong altho of course none of us know each others full facts and situations. Of course Im not a parent but when I am I hope I will try to know how my kid or kids feel about when they are punished. First of all no child shud be humiliated, we (saying this cos I was a child not long ago lol) we have got our dignity and so Becky is right if shes suggesting the child will react in later life, to having been humiliated. I dont just mean upset, a child can be upset when they are punished including spanked, that is part of learning, but if they know they also loved then they will accept what the parent does. And Becky dont forget this daughter in storythat started the thread is only 12, that is no way too old for getting her bum spanked. If she gets older then the parent can adjust. (As it happens I did get spankings way older than that but that was just cos it seemed to work for me lol and cos our family doesnt do groundings thank God, but most kids have an age when they leave the spanks behind) If the parent knows their child is getting resentfull of the punishment, that is when they might need to think again. BUT this can also be true of other ways of punishing, Ive got one girlfriend who spent her whole child hood being humiliated by her mum, shouting at her in front of friends, putting her down all the time, she would often be in tears and YET her mum never ever gave her a single smack. Where as in my case I got masses of spankings which were never terrible altho they bloody stung lol ! I didnt ever get stood naked in the corner or stuff like that (eww bit dodgy, some stories here are just strange people having their lil fantasies...) and I never resented having the slipper, lol we have still got it and it works, just ask my lil sister lol who still is in line ofr it ! BUT I love my parents to bits, Im a normal girl that knows how to behave, so Becky you are not totally right, you need to know there is life after spanking lol <br />
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(And btw if you dont know me, I PROMISE Im 100% real, Im a second year student Drama and Education, every single smack that I got was real and I still know exactly which drawer my mum keeps her slipper in lol, long story how I joined here but if you look you will see I DONT post sex stories and thanks all same but I dont want creepy messages, I probly have some people on my friends list that shudnt be there but I didnt look hard enough when I accepted them lol)

even thro I disagree in how Becky was punished.there was nothing wrong in giving her the spanking even if it was bare bum. She knew the rules and she should have followed them where the punishment went totaly wrong when her stepfather riped of her bra removing the bra was wrong wrong no matter what she was doing protecting her bum with her hand that could of been solved by a few good hard swats and the threate of more if the hand comes back and that could of been used for the squirmming to. But for some reason her stepfather got kicks out of spanking her this way because all her spanking were that way. When you first start spanking your child need to know the rules in what happens in a spanking. Meaning squirmming kicking begging and putting the hands on the bum is not allowed when you are told to do something jurying the spanking it's done right away. If kids know what to do jurying a spanking it is better for everyone and if you think about it the bottomis less spanked because there's no fighting there's for less spanking.

I hope you don't think that people who want to be your friends because you post about spankings are creepy. We ARE maybe a bit kinky and some have a spanking fetish, but most (well, really I can only speak for myself) are interested because we like to hear only the TRUE stories. None of the made up, crazy fantasies of 6th grade girls being paddled naked by men in showers. This NEVER happens! On the other hand, I know there are paddlings in schools every day. The state I live in uses CP, and I dated 3 girls who were paddled in school at one time or another--and told me every detail! Naturally. boys seemed to bein the office for paddling offences more often than girls, but back in the 70s, it wasn't that large a majority. And since we had NO female principals, men often paddled young ladies. Not all the time---in one instance I know of, there were two female PE Teachers who did the honors at a mass paddling in the auditoirium, but that was an anomaly. And back then, ANY teacher could use a paddle--they didn't have to wait for the principal, so since we had more female teachers than male (about 8 -to -1 through junior high school), it wasn't uincommon for Miss Lynch to take Rebecca out in the hall herself for disturbing class and you'd hear the indisputable WHAPWHAPWHAPWHAPWHAP!! Five times really fast, and you knew Rebecca had met the Cobra. (each teacher seemed to have some drawing or engraving on their paddle.) The only problem I had,and still do, is the potential for abuse. I believe most school personnel use paddling as a last resort and use it without overdoing it. But it would not be difficult (especially back then) for a ********* to use his or her position to get away with really leaving some marks on a few teenaged, and younger, rear ends.

I agree with you. Light up that rear. Make it anywhere from a shade of pink to cherry red.

in deed if you don't like spanking then you should not be on this site. so take your no spanking thoughts and " make like a bird and flock off"

Becky has every right to be on EP and every right to express her opinions here. Obviously, not everybody is going to agree with your viewpoint, and as far as I know free speech is promoted on Experience Project. If you want to silence those who disagree with you, I'd suggest starting up your own group; that way you'll have the power to block anyone who doesn't support your worldview.

There will likely be a day not too far in the future when your daughter gets married.<br />
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When that day comes, and if you see someone ELSE walking her down the aisle (assuming you're even invited to her wedding, that is), I hope you remember the humiliation and shame you caused her on June 27, 2011.

Go give your moralistic views to someone who cares

Sounds like you are a spoiled brat like most young people who's parents give them materaill things rather then limits and guidlines you have no clue


Nice story but I just don't get the "not in anger" part. That was the only way my mom and dad ever spanked us. It was immediate feedback and let me tell you it worked! I didn't get beaten and they weren't raving maniacs, but they definitely were angry and determined if not passionate that our little butts were going to suffer the consequences.

yep i see your point,what i should've said is i never spank them in temper,which is someting completely different to anger.I'm always very annoyed with them when i spank them otherwise i would'nt be spanking them.Like today,i was really annoyed when i spanked her today.

I was that way. good you wont go soft cause as soon as you do they walk all over. I have a daughter she was also spnaked the same I was. my mom blistered me as well zero tolerance with bad and rude behavior. like you mom has only spanked me twice in anger but not abuse. she always almost wait till she cooled off when she was angry.

an that is how you should od it spank her <br />
i have spank my girls also that is the way they learn disrespect

You absolutely did right to spank her,if any of my boys back chat they get their bare butts spanked.There is nothing worse than a child who has got too much to say to their parents,i got bare bottom spankings for answering back to my parents.