I Kind Of Feel Bad Making Him CryI’m glad I found this group. I wanted some advice here.
I have two boys, one is 16 and the other is 14. I haven’t spanked the oldest in 2 year, the youngest in about the same. They have continually missed curfew. So my youngest (with my oldest present) was told if he gets out of hand again, that I was going to take it old school and bring out my father’s old razor strap again. They didn’t believe me.
So a week goes by and my oldest decided to stay out past curfew and he got an attitude when I lectured him. I was going to ground him and then my wife reminds me of what I said, so I told my son to go his room and wait for me. I figured I was making it less embarrassing for him by doing it in private. I went in his room made him drop his jeans so he was in boxers and put his hands on the side of the bed. He did what I told him to do, but kept on begging me not to spank him and that he would keep curfew. I didn’t really want to. He was crying by that point and just saying “Dad I won’t do it again”, a reaction I didn’t really expect from a kid of his age. I went through with it though. I didn’t go easy on him, but I wasn’t beating him or anything either. The only place I hit him was on the butt.
After maybe 8 swats I really felt bad about how much he was crying. I told him to pull his jeans up. He just sat on his bed with his head down, wiping his face and sniffing.
Did I do the wrong thing? I think it makes me think about how I felt getting spanked at that age, though my dad would have gave us a second round for crying like that. Is he too old for this and was I really wrong here? Advice?