Here Is A List Of Books For The Spouses Of M>f Transgender Individuals."Head over Heels" by Virginia Erhardt, phd wives who stay with x-dressers and Transsexuals.
"She's not the man I married" by Helen Boyd -- my life with a transgender husband (on HRT but no surgeries. my story and I believe yours as well)
Helen also wrote "My husband Betty" which I have not yet read but I hear it is a very well written book.
"My husband wears my clothes" by Peggy J Rudd -- Crossdressing from the wife's perspective.
"Who is really from Mars and Venus > -- by Peggy J Rudd -- the tale of 2 genders in one body.
"Crossing Sexual Boundaries -- by J Ari kane0DeMaios and Vern L Bullough -- transgender journeys and uncharted paths. *This is several studies and testimonies, Igot a lot out of this book.)
"The Bliss of becoming one!" by Rachel Miller -- on integrating Feminine feelings into the male psyche .
Here is my list, I hope they do as much for you as they have done for me. I was able to find most at Amazon, and found a few cheaper on ebay.
Hugs and let me know if this helps.