My StoryI am a 20 year old female.. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and 7 months and living together for almost a year. He has a 5 year old son that lives with us. At first everything was okay, but as time goes by his son and I don't get along so good. He has no manners, his dad doesn't discipline him and he always gets what he wants. Some days we are good and others he purposely is trying to **** me off. When he miss behaves I give him time outs because I believe he shouldn't get away with things. I refuse to spank him as I feel uncomfortable with it. I love my boyfriend with all my heart but being young and helping someone raise a kid that's already 5 is a lot to deal with. I often get asked by friends and family how I can do it, I just tell them take it one day at a time and they all say they couldn't do it. Nobody I know that is my age deals with the same things that I do so I don't really have anyone to talk to, no one that can relate to me and give me advice. I find it stressful when you don't have anyone to talk to about it.
The child's mom is... I like to say the word useless or ridiculous for the fact that she can't be bothered to be in his life. I have spent more money on him then his own mother has. In the time that I have been dating my boyfriend she has maybe seen her kid a total of 2 or 3 times. She's never gotten him a birthday gift or Christmas gifts, she doesn't even call him, nothing. I guess she also has a handful of other kids and most are in foster care.
Lately we have been talking about buying a house together and also having a child. I do want a child one day, so I guess we will see what happens in the future..