Bed Wetter At 28

I'm a female and I've wet the bed 28yrs now I was in a long term relationship for 8yrs and I thought he understood about my problem but then when he broke up with me it was the first thing he threw in my face...I'm afraid that it will never end and I'm afraid that I won't find a guy to accept me for who I am ...I'm afraid to be alone for the rest of my life it puts a damper on my self esteem I lack it very much and it makes life very hard there anything out there to fix it?
Lifetimebedwetter Lifetimebedwetter 26-30 9 Responses Feb 1, 2013

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It gets on my **** that those without such a problem seem to think that because it doesn't happen to them that they somehow have the right to belittle and humiliate those who find it a very real problem.
The truth be known it is far more common than most people realise.They also seem to forget that they A)Did it as a child,and B) Will have similar problems in their old age.They don't seem to get it into their minute minds that there might be those who suffer from it either periodically or permanently in the intervening years.
How many times have these people gone out,gotten drunk and awoke the next morning to a sodden crotch and bedsheets? Quite a few I bet (I had this happen to me numerous times before the problem became a regular occurrence,though I began suffering with bowel problems long before the bladder joined in).
I still wonder why those,to whom it is not a problem,find it such a problem that someone else should suffer with such issues and as to why they take upon themselves to ridicule the sufferer for something that is beyond their control?
With the adult diapers,pads and (sometime,though they aren't great) pullup's we have today it's not a major issue.It's a change before bed and in the morning you get up,take it off,wash,apply Siopel or cavilon and don another one and your good to go.What's the problem?Why the fuss?Why the need to be belittling and nasty?
I sometimes wonder if it is not the sufferer that has the issue/problem but them instead.

I think he just threw that in your face as an excuse. Obviously before he cared about you a lot and he didn't mind if you wet the bed. He obviously stayed with you 8 years in spite of your incontinence. I think he broke up with you for other reasons and was too much of a ***** to man up to the real reasons. And he knew you were sensitive about the subject and tried to make you feel the worse possible. Don't worry about finding a guy. Many guys even find it kinky and like it.

If he knew about your problem you didnt say if it was 24/7 or just nightly, I have been married 47 years now, and I told my wife about my night time problem ie pants and pads, she didnt seem to care about it, as long as it didnt interfere with our sex life, the trouble is things and moods change over the years ,and some people have itchy feet, and still want to try out the field whilst they can, our problem cant be readily hidden from view, I am now wearing plastic pants and nappy pads 24/7, so my wife helps me by washing my pants out for me.
Remember there is someone for everybody out there, somewhere just keeep on looking, you will find somebody, you are young enough, good luck.

u know its his problem if he couldnt accept u for u it took me a long while before i was comfertable to tell my girlfriend that i like wearing diapers but u know what now she even wears and loves it maybe he wasnt comfertable with u finding out that maybe he enjoyed it

I am sorry to see that my bf is a bed wetter too so he is ok with it

It is ok I understand but I am worried as well about how my friends will react. I wet the bed and have I had very high stress problems and I used bedwetting as a stress relief program. Most of the stress was social pressure so I have very very very low self esteem

wetting all ways sucks it is never easy
but I have been told it is easer yo live with

My advice is to accept your bedwetting is just part of who you are. Still wetting at 28 it is likely that you always will. I wet the bed, I always have. Accepting this was the best thing I could have ever done. Bedwetting is only a problem if you make it one.

Hey. I'm almost 28 too and I'm also a bedwetter. I totally understand how you feel. The hardest thing in the world is sharing our secret with someone else and then hoping they'll accept it and never hold it against us. I'm sorry your boyfriend was such a jerk to you. He just didn't deserve you.

yes he was a ***

Try visiting a doctor or a therapist, there has a reason for it.