My (ex)-boyfriend Has Dp And Really Want To Help Him =(

Hello ! Please read this =(
I'm from portugal , so if my english isn't very good i will ask you to understand :s
I have read almost all that people wrote here, so I'll wrote too and wish to have luck.

 The guy that i love has depersonalization for almost one year, or even more , and he is getting worse =( We dated 3 months and then he told me that he couldn't trust and love , he said that he really liked me and i disorve his love but i just couldn't trust me and love me even that he wanted to . I know that having no emotions is part of DP (depersonalization) so i told him that it was better for us to broke up and I would always be by his side.
Now, 3 months later we still talk , and everytime he feels bad he says to me and I try to help him, but what i can do is telling him something like "you're right" , "you will get better" and things like that. But he is getting worse , after we broke up he smoked weed and no he has more panick attacks , he feels very very anxious all the time and he even can't sleep well . The only place that he felt safe was at home and now even at some he can't feel safe . He wants to get better so much !

So plz , i will ask for your help , even that you only say me one thing =( i'm so sad for him =(
Help me so i can help him , please , he his only a teen just like me =(
I will wait for something , I will always help him !
Thank you so much if you read this .. 

and GOOD LUCK to everyone that suffers from dp too, i wish you all of you to get better 
deny09 deny09
4 Responses Dec 20, 2011

hey how are you doing
you dont know me but i decided to come back and read about people going through depersonalization , why ?
1 year ago it happened to me and i felt the same way you are feeling right now i literary though i was dying and i felt i had no feeling and i was numb did not feel anything i was like a robot , i saw my face in the mirror and i was like who the hell is that guy in that mirror
when i looked at people i just saw i bunch of bag filled with bones inside i lost the perception of life and i saw no purpose to it i was in a hole without escape........ i had to work night shirt and sometimes i would wake up and just stare at the wall for like 24 hours i was fired from my work i lost friends and everything ...
but then i though about it and i said to my self God created us perfect i was perfect till that happened to me, and then i realized that the human body has its capacity to recover against anything, the human body its like a super machine and it has an incredible healing capacity i dont even imagen how powerful it can be.
i started reading and researching about my problem i told my self you are notttttt crazy im healthy and i will be perfect as i was months ago i would repeat that to my self 24/7 i said noooooooooooooo to any pills noooooooooooooooooo to any drugs my body its powerful enough to heal it self
and guess what ???? after all my research and all the time iput into this i found the problem
it was depersonalization and desocialization and mayor anxiety i wasnt able to sit with more than 2 people or even watch tv because it woudl freak me out hahahahahahaha it was badddd i felt like jumping off a bridge i was in a veryyyy bad shape i could barley see and my neck was sooo heavy
right now im 1000000 % better i feel amazing i love life im inlove with myself everything around me its wonderful and 1000000000000 % recovered and i can tell you that in order for you to be better and feel better you have to tell your self that its only a state of mind what you have and even though you dont know me im gonna tell you right now what worked for me and what brought me back to life, and im telling you this because i feel your pain and i felt what you are feeling right now ...
*first you most have to be in peace with your self , do not listen to any music only listen to peaceful instrumental music nothing else go in a room once or twice a day and just sit there close your eyes and listen to meditation music and clear your mind do not watch tv or even go on the computer because it will affect you negatively be in peace and clear your mind from all the bad stuff, your body its giving you a signal that needs to rest
*second you most try to reject bad thoughts because thoughts are more powerful than what you think , everytime a bad thought come to your mind concentrate on something else
and remember do not analyze life dont do it try not to think about the problem always try to get your mind onto something else
*third get a good multivitamin not a cheap one for 20 box if you have to spend 100 on a great multivitamin do it its for your own health also get vitamin b you dont understand how important vitamin b 12 is when it comes to this google it ..... also a good omega 3 and 6
because what you have its a chemical imbalance in your brain and the only way to fix it its by having a good diet ,
* you most go for a run or try to workout so that you can oxygenate your brain and your body
working out also helps your body on the production of endorphins and dopamine those are neurotransmitters that helps you feel good so you better start working out ;)
* take plenty of sun shine because it has a huge impact in the production of serotonin in the body another neurotrasmitter that makes you feeling good
* get a neck massage and a body massage once a week if you can
i hope this information help you i know it will and im sure you will be better and happy as you were before
this is my email if you want to talk to someone
and dont worry you willl feel like brand new but its a matter of time it take quite a few months
do not expect fast results because its a whole process that your body has to go through in order to heal and to get better
take care :)

hey hey, when i saw this i was like, "that's her" , but ur not. I have depersonalization too, and I am from portugal so, if u want I can give u some advices (;

Does anyone here have the book "Depersonalization: a recovered sufferer's guide to total recovery"?

hmm well take charge in his life tell him that its bothering him. get him 2 stop smoking and make sure you are there 4 him. It seems that he really needs some one by his side. Dont give up hope help each other

thank you very much for your support ..
i already do that and i'll continue to do that ! even that stop smoking is very difficult , but i will never give up =)
thank you one more time

Never give up on him dont give up on hope. He needs you as much as u need him. Hope is all you got now Dont give up on it please.

he is going to do a psychotherapy , and he really believes that it will help him. and he really believes that it will help him why ? because he only can feel "ok" (it isn't ok , but he feels a little bit better) if he thinks that psychotherapy will make him better . I said to him that he has to believe that he is going to be ok ! That it was one of the most important things , and you have to believe too , everyone who has dp will be better ! But he psychotherapy could be good or bad to him s: but he really thinks that it will help him , so i'm SO afraid that psychotherapy doesn't work :x if that won't make him better i really don't know what he is gonna do :x
He feels worse but now he stars thinking that he will be better :)

Thank you so much enriq ! :)

If things go great:) that will make everything so much better 4 both. If things dont go well :/... still dont give up on him ok hope got u guys this far and it can take u even further. Thanks 4 letting me know how things are going:)

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