Daydreaming - A Gift Or A CurseHello fellow dreamers! I discovered that I am likely to have maladaptive daydreaming.(And I was suprized too!) While I see that many of the shared stories include problems caused by the lack of controll over it my experience tends to be a little different. I hope I can help someone out by sharing it.
It all started when I was a very young girl (probably 3-5 years old). I used to watch a lot of cartoons and I was fascinated by stories (folk tales, sci-fi, fantasy) And I started creating extra characters/ adding myself as a character to an already existing story or I made up my own stories using the collected information. While doing this I whould pace around my room and act out certain motions while talking and making sounds.
Later I developed a "main" story I whould follow and change over time. My daydreaming started changing too - I stopped making noises, I didn't talk anymore, turning the entire process into a thought one. Eventually I stopped pacing too. As I grew older my story became more complex and the daydreaming more flexible. In my early teens it was only recodnisible by my inadequate facial ex
Now I can pretty much controll it. I happen to drift away mainly when I am either bored, stressed, tired, excited by a thought I am having/music or I simply feel like daydreaming. But in most cases I am able to prevent it if I chose to.
The process itself is very similar to the ones I ran across - fictional world with many characters (improved/different version of me being one of them) and uncommon events like time and space travel, exploration of new worlds inhabited by different known and unknown to us creatures. However it is not the only thing I dream about I can make up a story for a writing task, I dream about my future, the world's future, I make up pictures, song lyrics, poems, music videos, choreography etc.
I am interested in art,music and writing aswell. And daydreaming is really helping me. Which is mainly why I see controlled daydreaming as a rather positive thing, even if it gets out of hand from time to time, I can easily call it a blessing and it truly is one of the best things I ever had.
I don't really know how exactly it became controllable, it simply changed as time went by without any other effort than the "Maybe I should try to do this while I am standing still and quiet, it whould be more convenient." kind of thoughts. I can suggest you to try standing still and daydream on purpose while making sure you don't make any involuntary body movements in the meanwhile. Repeating that several times a day could make a connection between you commanding your body to stand still and the dreaming process. If you are having a hard time staying focused on something (like reading) try doing it for a limited amount of time. You could reward yourself if you are done in time for motivation. If circumstances do not allow this you could try to avoid doing things that trigger your daydreaming state or if you prefer not to, try to prevent yourself from thinking about anything that isn't related to the topic you are supposed to think about. You could also try meditation in order to controll your thoughts easyer.
(I havent tested all of these methods personally and I cannot guarantee that they will work for you.)
Feel free to ask me any questions on the subject. Good luck, I hope I was helpfull.
P.S. I am sorry for any possible errors in this post , English is not my primary language.
Smilingcrescentmoon 16-17, F 4 Responses 2 Jan 23, 2013