When Will The Pain Go Away. . .

I find myself here after nearly 3 months with a broken heart. More then 3 years ago I meet the love of my life. After never really having a long term relationship I was ejoying every minute. He always knew how to make me laugh and feel special. After a year of dating we moved in together and our relationship remain fabulous. A year later he asked me to marry him. One of the happiest day of my life. But now a year later 3 months before our wedding he has lefted me, for his mother none the less. I was heart broken and I don't know how I will ever be able to love a man again. After a month off from crying the tears have come back. I am scared to run into him, but want to talk to him. He knows me so well and I feel like I need my best friend.
divajay divajay
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5 Responses Jul 19, 2010

I am in the same situation with someone I have been with for seven years. People love differently and stay in love differently. I can't give you a word of advice and make it go away. I can tell you there is nothing wrong with how you feel. How we react to someone dying we react to love dying the same way. We grieve, then accept it and eventually we move on. Some people that takes a very long time. You decide how long that takes.

I kept the ring

Hello, I had something very similar happen to me. I moved to ny, and happened to meet someone that initially wasn't my type, but we started dating and after a while I realized he was amazing.... Worley, smart, cultured, very courteous and seemingly very into me. Once I noticed him seeming a little distant upon a visit I made back home, so I backed off. He came back wondering why I was being so distant and our relationship continued to flourish. We travelled to many places together, he insisted on introducing me to his family, and then a few months later he proposed! His family ( namely mother) insisted my family host a Traditinal engagement party ( courtesy of my dads wallet of course) and 1 month after the gathering he breaks up with me over email. I called his mother begging asking why he is doing this and she just proclaimed"my son hasn't signed any contract with you."<br />
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He blocked me from fb, blocked me from entering his building from getting my things, was incredibly cruel, like his mom, and was already active on a dTing website even before he ended things with me.<br />
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I went back home, trying to heal, and after a month he calls me crying.<br />
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We tried to work things out again, but again his mom convinced him otherwise ( because I'm a diff religion, and neither of us are even religious). I was also married briefly in my early 20s and I know that was killing her. I'm an articulate, intelligent, very attractive female from a great background, but the mom just wanted it to break.<br />
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This was the hardest thing I've ever gone through. I'm 31' we dated for 2 years, I thought he was my soulmate....best friend, and best love. He changed.<br />
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I still miss him everyday, and think aBout him every time I have a moment to think. The reading I've been doing does help. I've learned since then that my ex was likely a narcissist. He idealized me, built me up, his mom devalued me. And they both just discarded me like an ob<x>ject, twice!<br />
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I wish I never met him, yet miss our good times because I have yet to meet someone who gave me that same good feeling. Yet I know a person with narcissistic personality disorder is poison for my future.<br />
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It's a ying yang of my existence.I'm glad I found out now, but I sad he's gone.<br />
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Sometimes, we just need to be ok with leaving it at that, life must go on.<br />
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Sandy<br />
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I know in my heart he is not the person I thought he was, but I miss what we had so much,

Hi Exmiss - I was also married in my early 20's and now going through a broken engagement...makes you feel pretty horrible. My relationship was wonderful as well and i can't see past how i will ever feel like this about someone again...it's terrifying. Have no idea where to go and what to do. Hope you are doing well...

Hello. I know exactly how you feel and can relate. I feel as if I have lost my best friend as well and yes, it is very hard and not easy to deal with. I'm sorry I am looking for advice and help as well as to how to cope with the same issue so I do not have a lot of words of advice, but please know you are not alone and there are others out there that are going through the same thing.

Hi, hold on, hold on. Stop crying. Your heart will hurt for awhile because of no explanation, but you can't control that. I wish someone had been around to pick me up off the floor but after 2 mos i realized i only had me. Ask yourself the questions, what was said? what wasn't? what was Mom's role? there are a lot of stories here that relate so well, you can email me if you like ..

Hi, hold on, hold on. Stop crying. Your heart will hurt for awhile because of no explanation, but you can't control that. I wish someone had been around to pick me up off the floor but after 2 mos i realized i only had me. Ask yourself the questions, what was said? what wasn't? what was Mom's role? there are a lot of stories here that relate so well, you can email me if you like ..