We Have A Special Bond

My mother is not yet elderly (she's 56 and I'm 38), but I plan on being the one in my family who will care for her in her later years.

My story is that I am a gay man who is no longer out there looking for a partner, and seemingly no-one is looking for me. Perhaps Mr. Right is on the other side of the world and we'll never cross paths. Anyhow, I'm not holding my breath anymore, and haven't been for a few years now. I've had a lot of bad luck in the love department, not that I think I'm unique in that regard: I certainly know many have problems.

My two brothers have their own lives, one with wife and one with partner, so it is fair and right they devote most of their attention to their little families. Without that in my own life, as well as being the eldest son, it seems appropriate that I should be the one with the responsibility of caring for our mother.

It has taken a long time to reach the point where I am comfortable with this whole situation. That's not to say I didn't want to care for my mother, just that I wanted to find love, but that has not happened. The further down this path I walk, the more comfortable I become with it. I have accepted it as what one might call "my lot in life", and acceptance with a situation brings some inner peace.

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1 Response Feb 24, 2010

Oh honey - i feel exactly the same. It's weird , isnt it - love - trying to find it. I'm a 40 year old woman and , as the years have gone by, I've also come to accept that marraige and kids may not feature in my future. I used to model and work as a TV presenter - and my friends always say that ~I've a warm heart and I'm great fun but, somehow, love too have passed me by. Never say never but- like you - I'm not holding my breath . Through all my relationship and career issues my Mum has always been there for me offering me her unconditional love and I adore the woman . We have an amazing relationship and there's a lot of fun and laughter. I love to brighten up her day by taking her out to dinner or away on a spa break. she has been such an amazing support to me that I could NEVER leave her in the care of strangers or see her frightened and alone in her old age. I may find a partner and i may not - but if I do - they'll get me with a fat white cat ...and my Mum.