Talk to Mysel

Sometimes it is the only intelligent conversation that I have.

retiredfather retiredfather
61-65, M
2 Responses Mar 22, 2009

I am talking to myself today... so sad. Help out there.<br />
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I believe our feelings should be acknowledged so Im trying to analyze mine to dismiss what is not servign me well. I feel insecure witnessing my husbands adoration and concern for his 18 and half yo beautiful daughter. I have always liked her well enough, no trouble, nice girl. When I thought she had nowhere to turn, she came to live with us at my invitation. I thought she could be one of us. That my hisband of 5 yrs would treat her the same as my teen boys, 15, and 17. He is their only father figure at present and they share a decent relationship.<br />
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I am harboring negative thoughts about the relationship between he and his daughter. She is a sweet, pretty 18 and 1/2 year old girl. Well, to him she's an innocent baby girl who needs her daddy. I see her as a young woman of age. She comes and goes as she pleases, but no license yet, so often this means daddy takes and picks up at her will. No questions asked. <br />
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One time there was a little friction about chores, her feelings got hurt, she ran to daddy and I took the blunt of it. It worked out nice in the end. But Maybe that factors in to my lingering uneasiness about the whole thing. <br />
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He was sure she was a virgin when she moved in. I know better, but he doesnt want to know. Any evidence I have not pushed at him because why betray her confidence, and make it bad between us,. Im not out to hurt her. Its that I am hurt to see hwo much he loves her and when I invited her here of open heart I thought she would be one of us, not a special princess in the house who doesnt do windows or toilets. Im the queen of the castle and I guess I do those things, go figure. <br />
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Their relationship is getting very sweet, a lot of confidential talk, she calls him daddy a lot because of course she enojys the sweetness of daddys protection. I feel my boys (15, and 17) are held to a stricter standard. He says its because they r boys they need to be tough. He is extra sweet to her so she knows she can count on her daddy, he says. <br />
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He emulates Bl Cosby he says, in his approach to her and is what he wants with her. That is beautful right. But am I to have no feelings of anvy here? Any jealousy I express calmly is so he could offer me reassurance I need that I am #1 to him. I do not expect him to disregard her needs to be with me, but even when she doesnt "need" him he wants to be there seeing about her every thought, like a good trusted friend, filling a place in her heart. <br />
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Im so jealous I want to get as far away as possible. I cant keep witnessing the only man I have ever deeply loved, love someone else as much as he loves me. What do I do>? Help!! <br />
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He was not very present in her life for several years and now hes very focused on making up for that. I see sometimes he's even jealous when

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