Cheating With A Married Man

it seems like you both are doingh the same thing so i guess it dosnt matter. He is screwing around and you are screwing around. Dot worry your self.. as long as you both know and understand each other

He plays World of Warcraft. Enough said. You clearly have 2 children and you are the only adult.

He doesn't believe in divorce and how about YOU?? It sounds like your husband is very disconnected to everything in your family's life. Might be time to pick up and go. What you are doing is exciting and naughty BUT.. it's not right for you OR the officer. YOU will be termed the family wrecker/**** when his wife finds out. As for the officer.. well he is just "a guy".. and that's what guys do...That's the way it works right?? So you need to wonder if the immediate sexual satisfaction is worth the inevitable consequences. Maybe it is worth it (it sure sounds exciting) however be prepared to pay the price.. Sorry I couldn't be more supportative..

No it's not okay you are a ****,and even if you saw those emails at least he still has morale and isn't cheating on you, you are a degenerated person, marriage is a sacred bond that should never be broken.

Gamers ***deserve*** to be cheated on.

haha you should tell him how good the cop is to **** and watch the expression on his face lol

It seems obvious you and your husband are not compatible and your needs are not being met. With no children in the picture your path would seem clear, however you do have a child to consider. My folks divorced when I was in grade school. Mom was cheating on dad (I did not know until after I was in college) and I ended up living with mom. If dad had stayed in the same town or even the same state I don't think the divorce wouldn't have effected me as negatively. But then there are the step-parents that came along and made things worse. Then the summers with dad away from my friends - I loved being with dad but hated being where he lived. Then on into adulthood there are the holidays - which parent do you want to have feel bad? These days I hardly ever see mom as I can't stand being around my step-dad. There are relationships where staying in the marriage is more detrimental to the child than separating so something to think about but I am sure you already have...

I hold nothing against mom for meeting her needs but I'm sure not all children are as forgiving as I am.

add me! No guilt to feel he sounds like such a loser and not worthy of you so good for you!

you know, hardworkingmom, I don't think this is what gangster rappers NWA had in mind with their song, Fkuc the police. but its your party, babe. lol

Get a divorce.

No you should be able to take a lover if you wish, but perhaps it would be more fun to let your husband know you have found someone bigger and better. You say he doesn't believe in divorce so what could he do?

Wow people calm down! Such rudness! She is hurting and looking to us for support and advice! Instead of beating her up we should be a lil more compassionate! The old adage still applies ... If you can't say anything nice then don't say anything at all!

Yes you are absolutely correct Karma always comes back... In all forms!!

Including reaching out in your time of need and being rudely shot down.



@ Hardworkingmom ... Im sorry you have to live with your sorry-*** husband but thankfully you've found a way to cope! The thing people don't understand is that your policeman would have most likely cheated with someone else had you not come along. If he is gonna cheat anyways and you have a great time when you are together ... then i feel there is nothing wrong with your arrangement. Please make sure to guard your heart. I hope everything works out in your favor! :-) If you need someone who won't judge and just listen ... feel free to msg me anytime.

If you don't feel guilty about "cheating" and it's not affecting the other areas of your life, then I'd say you'll be fine. My wife and both have had sex with others who are married but need a little extra and it has worked out just fine. The thing people have to do in these situations is to look at sex in two different ways: "making love" and "******* i n g" (pardon my French). For instance, my wife and I "make love"; we "*******" other people for the fun of it.



The better thing for you and your husband to do is discuss with each other what each of you would like. Maybe he's afraid to talk about being more adventurous in your sex life, whereas he can talk like that with anonymous women. Don't admit the relationship you're already having. Simple see if he's open to the two of you being more open sexually and saying what you need. Next, you could see how he feels about the two of you together having sex with others. If he's like most men, he'll certainly give it serious consideration. Be careful, because too many of us men get really possessive when it comes to another man being inside "our woman"! lol



I had a discussion with one of my sons a few years ago when he and his wife were having issues. He knew she was fooling around when he was at work. He admitted that he knew a couple of women he would like to *******. He said he and his wife had gone to a bar one evening, not knowing it catered to swingers. It wasn't an on-site club and they didn't play with anyone afterward. I suggested that they consider playing with others together. I don't know what happened, but I haven't heard of as many issues anymore.

no...he gave up on his family already. You are just trying to find happienss. No reason for guilt. DP

I'm always amazed by the people who are willing to betray, and subsequently justify, everything that we should hold sacred in our society. If you are willing to betray and deceive your own family, what won't you betray? What is left of your soul? Short answer: nothing.



I agree with the reply above -- karma always plays itself out, and when it does, it comes back on you tenfold. So when it does, don't be surprised.



And people wonder why there is so much pain and suffering in this world? People themselves cause 90% + of it by their own actions, such as the original poster.

Keep going.. Its simple today cop, tomorrow lawyer and next .One day you will be on roads with no husband and no boyfriend..enjoy till you are not caught..LOL

add me

only wear wedding rings when at family afairs?? maybe he cheating to? or knows don t care? i love my wife but i would cheat if get chance cause she lost her sex drive and boaring always same way same place like doing me favor so? that the only thing i miss most in my marrage

Good for you!!! Lol... It does'nt sound like your husband is giving you what you need so why not let someone else give it to you!!!! Hell, we all deserve to be pleased!!!!

I love my married man. He has been my emotional support and I don't know how i would have made it thru many things without him. It has been 3 years for us this year. He is nurturing..we have a very special bond. My current husband I have been married to for 18 years and am now going thru a divorce because I am fed up with his emotional abuse and making me feel like I don't deserve to feel like a woman or be a woman. I would not change anything about my decision with my married man. I do not interfere with his family. Don't cross that line, I don't care what is going on. I am pro for affairs that involve two people..not just sleeping around irresponsibly, but I mean a deep relationship you have perhaps developed. He is good to me and is my best friend. I am thankful for him coming into my life to show me how to love myself and that I am a Queen in his eyes but should be that to myself foremost. I have a excellent relationship with him and don't regret it.

oh i don't knw...but if agree ur husband having affair with another woman , then it's fine...

I have been married for 3 years. I lost my first husband in an accident and very soon after his death I started dating my current husband. I have recently started talking with an old flame from high school. He is married now and lives in a different state as me. He has expressed a great deal of interest in me and we are thinking of hooking up. There is no real emotional attachment other than the thrill of being together after so long. I am happliy married but I feel a little lost sometimes with wether I should have waited to date and if it was a rebound type of thing. I do love my husband who is totally aginst cheating. But I really really want to have sex with my friend. Confused :(

I have been married for 3 years. I lost my first husband in an accident and very soon after his death I started dating my current husband. I have recently started talking with an old flame from high school. He is married now and lives in a different state as me. He has expressed a great deal of interest in me and we are thinking of hooking up. There is no real emotional attachment other than the thrill of being together after so long. I am happliy married but I feel a little lost sometimes with wether I should have waited to date and if it was a rebound type of thing. I do love my husband who is totally aginst cheating. But I really really want to have sex with my friend. Confused :(

The kind of affair ur describing with the cop has an average life expectancy of about 2 years.

What r u gonna do then? The problems with hubby will continue and u will seek the arms of another man, then another.?

READ THIS.....ok he plays world of warcraft? Your husband must definitely be a total nerd. Second, he might e-mail chicks pictures or whatever but that just fulfills a type of cyberfantasy, i doubt he would actually have the balls to mack other women. 3rd if he cant please you then just divorce the guy and let him find some asian chick to play world of warcraft with him

It cracks me up a little bit. He doesn't believe in divorce? What does his belief system say about being unfaithful or sending and receiving ****. Don't get me wrong my belief system is do what you want. But don't give me some crap about strong beliefs and then behave in a way that compromises the institution that you claim is so dear to you.

You shouldn't feel guilty. The love that you once had with your husband is gone. But you should be honest with him about how you do feel about this other man and confront him about the e-mails. It will be hard, I'm not going to lie, but being honest and upfront with each other will help in heartache and bitter feelings in the end.

World of Warcraft is a horrible game!! I know of three people that have split because of the endless playing of that game!!

I don't blame you. I am in the same boat. The guy I was sleeping with is in a relationship and it really hot. We just met at a park yesterday and had fun before going back to work.

Is your husband not belief of no divorce religious or not? If it is, then I don't think he or you are doing the right thing either way, so why not just leave each other instead or commiting these actions.

What in the world????? Ok..... This story just blew my mind for a second. Not about the cheating.... because their are enough stories on this site about married people cheating with other married people. First and foremost. When you found those emails , did you mention anything to him? Like basically he got caught. I am sure that he is doing more than just sending pictures. We all know thats how it starts. Eventually someone will bite... and he will entertain the thought , if he hasnt already.



I think like you said the reason you started the cheating is because you felt betrayed. usually as woman, we can be very vindictive. I think this affair is distracting your mind from your husband betraying you. Also it just so happens you hit the jackpot with someone who is fulfilling your sexual desires. This other man is married... so don't get emotionally attached. He will never leave his wife for you , not matter what kinds of crazy sex you guys have....



You need to sit with your husband, and F- this ... " My husband doesn't believe in divorce".... Ok... that's what he believes,. That is not written in stone. You are living in a very toxic marriage. showing face to everyone else pretending you guys are fine, might work for now... But you know the real truth.... I would ask him if wants to stay married.... because your already cheating, and will continue to cheat.... You put the quarter in to play the game already... When is enough ENOUGH?



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