I Cheated and Will Probably Do It Again

I cheated on my husband.  What started out as fun and flirty emails from a co-worker turned into us meeting up after work.  We have been together on 3 different occasions.  I do love my husband, but, I miss just sleeping with whoever I want to.  Before I was married, it was no big deal for me to just have sex with anyone I wanted.  When I settled down and got married, I missed that side of me.

But, that experience with the co-worker was the second person.  While my husband was overseas, I hooked up with an old lover.

It feels good to get this off my chest.  Honestly,  call me sick, but I don't regret any of it.  I don't feel guilty.  Is there anyone else like that?  I don't have any remorse.  To this day, my husband still does not know.

Coral Coral
31-35, F
137 Responses Apr 25, 2007

maybe he knew by hellospy and didnt tell you @@


You do love your husband and you cheated on him, I wonder, if you don't love him, what would you have done to him?!! What if you catch a disease and give it to him? What will happen? He will know sooner or later, I assure you, he will know...

I think I know how you feel. But if you have no reason to stay then why not leave. You are hurting yourself as well this way?

I have ****** and my wife doesn't have an idea. At times I have ****** her friends and she couldn't know it.its exciting to screw someone secretly

I love it

hmm. nice choice

My believe is that in life,married or not,some people will cheat on each other or simply cheat.If some woman is not cheating with me,she will find someone else to do it with for sure.So if she is a cute or decent woman,I cannot say no to her.I believe the most trusted partners seem to cheat the most.

im not exactly like you. i like this other guy and want him so bad but he wants to be with me.

Needs are need, would love to chat, please add me, Paul

Any of you white wives wanna cheat with a hing blk man?

Wife isnt on here at the mo but Id like to see her cheat with you bro

would you feel the same if your husband was the one cheating?!

Wow so over the years you stopped caring for the one you swore you'd be faithful to forever and now **** other dudes and don't even feel guilty about it. sounds like a ***** you should just confess so your dude can leave you and find a real women who doesn't let multiple guys get a piece of her.

Coral, that is sooooo hotttttt!!! I love it and if u were hot, i'd be chasing u as well

That is what scares me in the world.. I cheated with only a kiss when me and my bf were about 2/3 months but I did not have feelings for him until I finally said I love you and I meant it. I gave him my everything and tried to be good ever since.. as of now, I know I am capable of getting whoever I want and mingle with whoever I want but I choose not to simply because I know love within itself is much more valuable than having many guys behind me. I completely despise cheating.. even if I only shared one stupid kiss.. I cannot forgive myself.. and I have lost the love of my life for it. But the point is, I'm afraid of finding someone like you.. someone who will never tell me if they cheated or not.. whoever has been cheated on deserves the right to know.

and u shouldnt feel any regret or remorse, i myself like to sleep with whoever i want although im not married its the same for me i have done it many times and to this day my bf doesnt know.

Im not ready for a permanent relationship cause i dont want to give up feeling this way and my ability to do it!

If you are alone and have the need just do as you think is right. As long as you do not get emotionally involved and you do not get sick or pregnant there will not be any problems. Sex is a physiological necessity and an important one.

You have to evaluate the reasons behind the affairs and if you are willing to cuckold your husband on purpose.

Good luck,

I told my wife she can sleep with whomever she wants. I think women should enjoy there sexulality. That being said she has not, but I am sure one day it will happen and she has a free pass. I just want her to feel sexy and hot!

We don't choose to go over seas, when you're in several fire fights everyday and wondering if a stray bullet or lucky shot or ied might make this day your last you feel safer and more focused on the task knowing you have support and not turmoil in your mind. Whether you tell him or not, the damage is done and the relationship will continue to rot away with separation and deceit that you have allowed to continually and progressively break apart your relationship and him. Regardless of what you women think, we know when you cheat, I can feel it, excitement over her being with someone new as in taboo quickly leaves when the overwhelming pain pangs and sets in. If you were to end this relationship even the next relationships will be in turmoil because of an ultimate act of betrayal against you from someone you truly love. When you come home and you're looking for understanding and support, you will not have been the man on her mind and will not have the understanding and support you need. You feel as if your life could've ended and she would've gladly taken your life insurance with her new guy(s). Your world suddenly crashes around you and cripples you as if you need crutches to stand again. For what, a moment of selfish physical pleasure that shows you have no respect for his happiness, only for your physical pleasure. Cheating is cheating, women love to spout of all these excuses that issue blame on their man. Ie he wasn't there for me. Well he was, he was protecting the ideals and freedoms of your family. Men, women, everyone cheats for the same exact reasons. Men aren't dogs and women aren't justified by excuses. In the end you chose to do it for your own selfish wants and that's all that it amounts to. Monogamy is hard, no one claims its so easy. Anything in this world worth keeping will be a continuous effort. We all know this. Think about the level of destruction you will do to him. Some men never ever get over a pain that severe, believe it or not and become unable to function in a relationship anymore. Is your moment of physical satisfaction worth all this? Is it really? If it is, you should've never taken those vows and should never take any again. Ask yourself, do you really want to be that person?

I am a veteran and you are right we do not choose to go overseas. However, we choose to join the military by our free volition. Sometimes we make the decision while ignoring other important people's desires because it is our God given right to execute our free will! For a wife, specially a young one, military life is very demanding . That is the reason why, for example, US NAVY Officers suffer a 50% divorce rate. Many wives agree that her husband join the service without really knowing the reality. Once in the military reality sets in and you begin to see the dark side of military life.

Many cannot stand it and divorce. While others do whatever is necessary to survive. You have so many wives that cuckold their husband while he is overseas that maybe you have no idea. If it is wrong or right, it is their way to cope with their personal life. Many soldier-husband knows it and apply the rule of don,t talk, don't tell.

So I disagree with your view. To each his own!

I understand ur way of thinking, hum i have a hunch a high % of guys do also! I want to get a sample of every hottie out there! But my dilemma is that I hate hurtting people ,so that keeps me in check.

I am a guy, and feels the same way. My life after marriage has felt like a prison in terms of sexuality. I have always enjoyed being able to sleep with who I felt an attraction to, and I must admit, I do hit on women, and have ended up in bed with a couple. But the issue is that I feel no love for these women, its just sex, but I would do it again.

My boyfriend cheated on me probably for same reason you do. Dont get married or in a relationship if you enjoy sleeping around. The pain and hurt you cause will show when he finds out and going through it is the worst feeling. Even though its your problem not his.I wish people would leave instead of cheat..easier to live life honestly. Not trying to be mean just letting you know the other side.


You aren't the only one. Just don't **** somebody who knows him. That would be very disrespectful.

You don't love your husband if you did you wouldn't cheat karma it be funny i'd love to see how you explain your pregnant like my ex turned out the unborn kid turned out not be mined

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If you want to do in future..............
Get divorce from him and do with any one you are free bird
But when you are married and he believes she is my wife
You should not do that.

There is nothing wrong with what you did but deceit can never be justified.. Would you be ok with him doing the same? If so you'd have an open marriage which is fine. Do you feel your actions should have no consequences? We all learn early in Life.. if you cant do the time don't do the crime. No have no guilt and no remorse yet you are afraid to tell your husband. I'm sorry but nothing but immediate gratification will come from this and your husband will ultimately find out. You should be prepared. .

I certainly don't condemn you, having been with another woman and had a couple of bisexual sessions. I would love my wife to take another lover. She did some 5 years after we married. This was with my full knowledge and my wishes. It went on for 5 years before he moved away. I wanted her to do it again, but she didn't.
Do you discuss your sexual fantasies with your husband? Maybe he feels like I do. There are an enormous number of men who are more than happy, even desirous, of their wives taking a lover. Just Google cuckold and see how popular this is.
Maybe when you're making love you should start to whisper fantasies into his ear or get him to whisper his fantasies provided you're prepared to be shocked. But I feel your marriage would be safer if you were taking lovers and your husband was aware and supportive of your actions rather than you cheating on him behind his back.
BTW, we've been married for over 40 years now. She knows I still want her to go with other men. Contact me if you want me to discuss it further.

sloots gonna sloot

Same boat here girl, I am cheating literally right under my hubbies nose, and have before as well, and have no regret or remorse or even guilt, I love my hubby but he just cannot be sexually what I need.

I appreciate your candor. I am new to the forum and have been reading a lot of posts. I have also perused posts on other forums. There seems to be a lot of pontificating on the subject of infidelity but little serious discussion of the pleasures. I had an affair many years ago and am seriously thinking of doing it again. It gave me back that excitement and spice that I no longer have. Counseling, long intimate conversations with my spouse, etc - none of it has made a difference. I believe that as long as I am discrete and safe, so long as no one gets hurts, then all is well. I too felt no guilt then and feel none now for the plans I am trying to set in motion. Nature backs me up ont this, there are few monogomous animals in the world, humans included.

This is very much how i feel, so good to know im not alone im my thoughts. Seeking intemasy is so important to the sole
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Yesterday, I cheated on my husband. I don't love him anymore. He has left me on 2 different occasions (Once the day before Christmas 2 years ago, and then the day after this year.) He likes to hold the divorce card over my head and I hate it. So I came up with a plan to spend some time with a man who I know has been in love with me for years... and I feel myself falling for him more and more everyday. He is kind, a gentleman, holds a steady job, does all the things I feel a husband should do. And the sex is amazing... more amazing than I ever thought it could be. I want to leave my husband. We have been married not even for 3 years, with a 2 year old son. We got into it too fast, and it hasn't worked out. I want out, and I want to be with the man that wants to be with me.

I regret nothing.

I have cheated all my married life and he has never known nor do I want him to know. We spent over 20 years in the military and I cheated every time we were apart and he likely did as well.
I do not discriminate either, black or white or young or old. Actually I have had more young than old. Young ones don't want to marry you and they don't fall in love with you. Just plain sex.

Guilt is for the young and catholics. Monogamy is NOT natural it is a social convention imposed by society, like male run societies and racism. Completely outdated the concept was valid when women needed men to provide for them. It is a real shame that you cannot tell him. An open relationship or cuckoldry would be more healthy as long as you protect yourself against disease or unwanted pregnancy. You only get one life and wasting it obeying rules set by somebody else hundreds of years ago is a crime against nature. speaking of which, there are only a tiny percentage of animals who practice monogamy and only serial monogamy and even then only because there is an obvious advantage or survival strategy.

Love your story.

Cuckolds are făgs in denial. What really turn them on is thinking about the pleasure of the other males, and how he enables them to get that pleasure by giving them his woman.

This is the proof that sexually liberated women WILL cheat. Men beware. Sexually active young girls become cheating spouses, don’t fall into that trap.

Well I'm submissive, I would like to think I'm understanding of her sexual wants and needs, but the truth is I'm a cuckold.The night I found out she had been cheating. Was when I came into our bedroom while she was about to shower. She had been out with " the girls", yeah right. Any way, she was getting out of her jeans, while bent over it was pretty obvious, wearing pastel pink panties while having a soaked crotch isn't very smart on her part, I mean really? I was running my fingertips up and down her back while she was changing, asked her to sit down on the bed and talk for a moment. Can this wait till I get a shower please, she asked. This will only take a minute a replied. Fine, what is it baby? While still running my fingertips on her back I started kissing her neck, she moaned only very slightly and said after my shower OK? There was a slight musty smell I assumed coming from down there. I was very upset but not showing it. After my shower I promise, she said. She went to get up to finish undressing. I asked if any thing was wrong. No! nothing is wrong,why? She asked, You want me clean don't you? I was asking because you have a massive wet spot in the crotch of your panties, why? She said she don't know, don't worry about it. She is a very horny girl normally. We have good sex just not enough, she has complained in the past about this. I sat her down on the bed. If that is what I think it is I'm a little excited about it I said early reluctantly. What do you think it is,no expression on her face. I don't ever not say what is on my mind, so bluntly I said, if I didn't know better, I would say you have a **** full of ***. Bluntly she replied, you don't know better, what now? I said, you need to be cleaned, still upset, I took her back to the bed and pulled her panties off of her. I wouldn't do that she said. **** hard, I licked her inside and out, it was great, I loved the thought of her ******* other men. Go figure.

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Nothing wrong with that, Coral. My wife does that from time to time and tells me if I ask her. Usually, it is affairs that last for a few months.

very nice wife
add me please

I'm not a big proponent of monogamy. In my opinion it doesn't really work. That being said I am completely against lying in a relationship. Just man up and tell your hubby what you want and be willing to deal with the consequences.

inspiring thought..

Faithfulness isn't all it's cracked up to be. In fact it can be a real downer. I'd want my wife to **** my brains out, be there for me, keep her sights on us as a couple, and put my wishes first - but also feel free in general to **** anyone else she wants to. Wouldn't matter who, when, or how, as long as she is having fun, not catching anything, and it isn't interfering with our activities.

Don't worry babe...I spent a long time dreaming about my last girlfriend before I got married. She was the sex of my life. I still long for her...

Wow I've got an old college friend that been telling me that for the past 15 yrs an I'm remarried but I love him too, an don't know what I'm gonna do

hillary: its hard to deny your feelings. Even though it's hard, follow your gut feeling. What is it telling you? Don't concentrate on what it tells you about the old college friend, but on what it tells you about our current relationship. But, proceed with caution. Know what I mean?


Hi Coral, I'm almost a year married, and I do miss that part of me too... at the beginning I felt horrible, because my husband is a very family guy, old fashioned, with high values and all that stuff... I really do love him for who he is... but there is the fact that I can't deny who I am and how I feel, even its not compatible with his beliefs. I haven't cheated on him yet, but I still turn to those flirty games sometimes... I even have constant thoughts about having intimacy with other men. It gets confusing often... Its not that I'll search for it desperately, but it I have opportunity with I guy I like, I'll probably won't regret it... :)

Hey Coral, I actually encourage my wife to find a boyfriend, or two! There are lots of husbands out there who find it hot that there wife gets it from other guys, don't know what your guy is like but maybe bring the idea of a mmf up, maybe he's into it and you don't know it yet.

You shouldnt stop if you like it...as a matter of fact inbox me and I'll give you my email address and we'll take it from there!

I'm in a similar place.
I don't feel bad about it, most of the time.
But I just miss sleeping with whoever I want and satisfying my sexual hunger.

im into this situation now... my husband is also an overseas... living with him deprives me from so many things... no frnds no social life just work and home thats my life before. now i met this technician of our car he is also married but not happy... he was stocked to an authoratative person. we became frnds then frnds with benefits hhhaha now we are lover... its been 14mos of being together. i can say i havr a life now real life... we are happy no regrets. l

Stop calling names. This woman has a right to use her own body as she see fit. Her husband can either like it or leave.

Stop cheating and openly cuckold him.

Why does it seem that all you cheaters are apparently incapable of putting yourself in your spouse's shoes? "When I settled down..."? What a friggin' JOKE! Apparently you HAVEN'T settled down, hmmm? D'ya suppose that maybe he just might miss HIS his old sexual freedom too? "I don't regret any of it. I don't feel guilty." How do you suppose him having not the slightest regret about his affairs would strike YOU? No big deal? I sincerely doubt it. "Before I was married, it was no big deal..." and now that you ARE married, it IS a big deal; it's an effin' HUGE deal. It's a deal BREAKER, in actual fact. Hope the risk to your marriage was worth it! As I said to 'bbyogiza,' I hope you have the integrity to not go all hypocritical when you find out that your 'unknowing' husband is cheating on YOU! Karma can be a *****! *****!

Ill drink to that! As for your questions there are tons of people that feel that way i know im one of them. It was all fun and games at the end it felt good so i see nothing wrong at all. <br />
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A well known rapper said it best "on to the next one"... lov married women lol

All fun and games... for YOU! AND for your scumbag 'lovers.' You think it'd still be all fun and games if he knew? I can only hope you'll be as open-minded when you find out that HE has cheated on YOU... you *****.

Dear kharrisma

I totally respect your comment...
Ive been cheated and have done the cheating.. i mean it happens does it suck surely but cant let spilled milk get you down. I am open-minded ive had open relationships and closed ones but again we all make mistakes. Do i want my next significant other to cheat no but if she does oh well going to hurt for a bit and lets see whos next to join me at the bar.

By the way..course its all fun and games. My life is what i call "the me show".. i am going to enjoy living and make plenty of mistakes.


you are just a ***** who likes a variety of ****. so don't be married. simple as that.

my bf and are completely open and we promised each other to keep on cheating each other forever! I love him!!!


You obviously disrespect your husband and only care about yourself. I feel bad for the people in your life. Wow, you are broken. It may be a good idea to seek pus historic help instead of seeking it on this web site before some gets hurt or worse.

tell him - if he is like me - it will excite him. I;m encouraging my wife tomtake a lover - she has so far balked. I have no interest in having a lover - but get very aroused thinking of my wife having a regular lover outside our marriage.<br />
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It started when she told me of an affair she had with a black co-worker during her previous marriage. I've been turned on ever since and keep asking her to tell me of their meetings,

can you add me please , I also want to cheat my wife

Indeed u r in your peak, but my question did you relay enjoy it or its just ok

You're in your PEAK time! Go for it! I bet if you asked, your husband would be in for a ********* with one of your friends!

Hi-You are not the only one. I travel on business about once a month and that is when I am a "bad girl". I think the taboo is part of the turn on.

I hope you don't bring a disease home to your unsuspecting husband. Are you sure he isn't doing the same thing when you are away? A friend of mine had girlfriends all over town. His wife traveled all of the time and wasn't to happy when she got an STD. She was faithful to him and now they are both a shell of their former selves.

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Don't listen to anyone who tells you to share your feelings with your hubby. Chances are he'll go total apeshit if he knows his sweet wife has been dropping cotton for other men. Or even thinking about it.<br />
Keep it on the downlow. <br />
It's evolution. A woman will want different men spilling seed inside her. Fact.

Hi, may I know what are you doing now? Did you save your marriage? Did you tell to your hubby about it?

my thinking is before people get married, they probably think about having sex with different people. when you get married, do those feelings/desire just go away? absolutely not.<br />
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instead of cheating, i'm sure it would be better to explore those fantasies/desires with your spouse and maybe get into the swinging lifestyle, but absent that, some people feel the need to stray. and i totally understand that.

You're not alone. I recently did the same to my bf who I'm living with.<br />
You seem to be happy anyway and don't seem to feel much guilty... Don't know if it's good or bad, not judging you... in fact I don't know how to feel about this situation too... if guilty or still infatuated with the lover thing lol<br />
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It didn't change anything in our relationship, I still love him and things are going better. Uncommon, isn't it? Perhaps it's your case too.

Frankly, people like you are malignant cancers in our society (I am a fairly balanced, middle-of-the-road person, and I am still saying that). The damage done to not only one's family (including, importantly, children, if you have them) as well as the family of those with whom you are stepping out with is both downright profound and long lasting. You may feel smug in your perceived ability to have fun on the side, but the karma will get you eventually, and when it does it will not be pleasant. <br />
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Do all of us a favor: do some research on near-death experiences and the life reviews that occur during them, and how the person having the life review vividly feels the pain they have caused others (at multiples of what we perceive here on earth).<br />
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Want to truly feel good about yourself? Go help another human being who needs assistance -- you would be surprised how your luck in life genuinely changes over time.

i feel the same way,I like the fact that I did i guess.I am married to a woman and I cheat.

I don't think I could accept my wife if she were doing what you did. At the same time, sitting back on my couch, I have no issues in accepting your views as normal! That being said, I don't know what happens to the others... And the biological relationships... they could really be difficult for the others because you may not be able to change them at all...

mmmmmmmmmmm i like what you did. You should tell him face to face to humiliate him and see the look on his face lol

Personally, I feel that cheating on your spouse is a big NO. I am very understanding of the swinging lifestyle; if two people agree on that it is not cheating. However, going behind their back is wrong. Mostly when people get married they give vows to each other and these days vows are viewed as insignificant, just words to be spoken out of tradition. Some of these people on here say that it is your life and to do what you want. Well, that's basically true. But is it right? No, it isn't. If you were single, serial fornicating is just fine. I would if I were single, but I am married and I love and respect my wife. I say, if you want sexual freedom then leave him. It's obviously not easy at first but it will be much better in the end. If you can't leave him then stop what you are doing. It's not right. Another thing. If your marriage isn't very solid right now (which I take leave to doubt that it is) then don't try to introduce the dynamic of swinging into it. That is not a lifestyle that two people enter into who are looking to fix a marriage. If you're solid and want more, then it is said to take you two to new heights. But if you're on the rocks I would leave that one be....

Can anyone explain to (what must seem like an idiot to you intellectual cultured and science informed americans)<br />
why, if you have a sexuality, would you get married at all? Or not change the vows?<br />
Am not sure how that works but if I get married I wouldnt promise anything of the sort - but stipulate the opposite - any man who does is perhaps an idiot, mentally ill, or both - the irony is that men have always been the victims of the institution of marriage - ironic because look what feminism makes of it! <br />
Why would a man do this? Well I'll put it simply for those who are well educated:<br />
my bollocks have been around for a few million years than marriage -<br />
work the math out - as you say in America.

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Good for you. Life is short fulfill your desires and be happy. If that means getting some strange **** now and then so be it.

There is nothing wrong with you nor should you feel bad. Sex is natural and being with just one person forever is not typically within our nature. I say have fun but be careful not to hurt anyone in the process.

you are most certainly not alone. my wife is faithful and treats me very well. I'm not unhappy, it's just the sole fact that cheating is a thrill. I love sex, and I can't stay with just one woman, enough said :) and no my wife has no clue, and I do not feel any guilt whatsoever. bite me if you don't like it

I've never cheated on my husband, but I've been 'involved' with married men twice before. I have to admit, that I didn't feel the slightest bit guilty about having sex with these men. I wanted what I wanted, and it didn't matter to me if I caused pain to someone else. Now that I'm married, I do miss the excitement! I felt so sexy and desirable. But, there were minuses of course. I couldn't be with either of them when I wanted to. They weren't emotionally available. After sex, I immediately lost that exhilarating feeling I got from it. It got old pretty fast.

hmm do you think there was anything that led you too cheating ? I want my gf to cheat on me

I guess I have reached the point where I would most likely cheat with someone, and to me it feels like it would be more for survival tight now then just doing it for the sake of sex.<br />
This whole sexless marriage thing has a way fo destroying a man's self esteem, and if the oportunity presented itself it woul be more about the touching and cuddling , arousing the woman orally and let things happen naturally. I miss that passion so much, and I am not just looking to have quick sex. I want to be with a woman who is missing the same thing and who can be responsive and enthusiastic and feel like the center of attention for a day or several hours. Then we could both just go back to our marriages and enjoy the other parts of it we do want to hold onto.<br />
Personnally I could use this so badly right now it's driving me crazy at the want of a woman that way.

This is my post to your husband if he ever read anything that you post I hope he dumps you for he's own sake "After 14 years and my life destroyed I was mentally hurt BY the type of girl your girlfriend is. Do you know all that I want right know. Is that I had the strength to kick her out of my life when she was just a fiance, not the mother of my children. DO IT NOW, THIS PERSON IS NEVER GOING TO CHANGE, SHE DOESN'T RESPECT YOU, SHE'S A WORTHLESS SCUM AND IF YOU STAY WIT HER THE PAIN THAT SHES GOING TO CAUSE YOU ITS GOING TO BE THOUSAND TIMES WORST + THE TIME THAT YOU WASTE THAT NEVER COMES BACK + YOU ARE GOING TO LOOSE YOUR PRIDE, I JUST WISH THAT I HAD MY FATHER TO TALK THAT TO ME WHEN I WAS YOUNG. Now I'm older and single father the pain is 1000 thousand times worst than when I discovery the first time, I kick her out of my life but she completely destroy my life, create the biggest trauma in my sons life by don't care about him. If you follow her things only going to be way worst."

I think if we really knew how many married women cheat in the workplace and their husbands don't have a clue we might be surprised. Men do it as well!

The sex is so carnal and raw. I love how married women do things with other men that they would never dream of doing with their husbands. I love to bring out the inner **** star that lies beneath that church going soccer mom type. No one would ever think they were capable of these acts.

I have been reading all these post and have noticed that no one has suggested for you to have an open marriage or even become swingers. You should just bring up the subject swingers to mention to him that your coworkers were talking about it at work. Just to gauge his reaction, if you think he will go for it then you should suggest it to him. You two must trust each other 100% and not be jealous or other people at all.

I can say that you're not alone...I feel awfull to cheat on my husband but I can't stop. He just knew of my second cheating episode...it's most likely I'll get divorced...I don't know, sometimes I think I need to be locked in a mental hospital

You are perfectly normal!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have cheated on almost every woman I have ever been with. My gf now, I have cheated on with 3 different women and the sex was amazing each time. Maybe it's true that we shouldn't but sometimes it is the spice of life and spark we need. So by all means do what you want to do and don't let others tell you how to feel about it.

Sorry but it's wrong... I'm no super conservative or anything but it's a trust thing. You are deceiving him and that should make you guilty. Now, if you both agreed ahead of time that you could have sex with others (many couples have this sort of relationship) then it would be ok but the fact of the matter is you deceieved him

Only you can judge if what your doing is right or wrong, just please be careful, and discreet, so your husband won't find out. Because most certainly it will hurt him deeply.

I wish I could be one of your addictions...:)

Same boat... except a lil different... i LOVE my man to death... he CAN make me the happiest person in the world, we have the same goals n dreams, we make each other laugh... but there are times he treats me like dirt and makes me feel worthless, ugly, unwanted.. all that... he has put his hands on me before as well as cheated on me in the beginning of our relationship and continued communication with an ex for almost a year while i was pregnant... before we were together i was like many young women had a great social life, lots of friends, would go to fetish parties, had a few "male friends".. but i always knew that i wanted a family n to be married so all that stuff went away when i met my man... i have a huge sex drive which he could always fulfil but now we are at the point where he just tells me to suck it n bend over or we only do it when he wants it n only till he comes the kissing the grabbing the wanting me is gone :( ... i never cheated on him because i KNOW its not right.. n i know he wouldn't be happy about it n most of all because i want my family to stay together for my son... but after 4 years n our relationship not ever changing (still treating me like dirt, calling me names, putting hands on me) i started flirting a lot with a co-worker... one day at a company party we ended up kissing after walking away for a cigarette... i was pretty drunk.. (not that that's an excuse) but that was enough to give into the lust... we only kissed but it was amazing i felt beautiful, wanted, sexy, just flat out on top of the world... another 6 months passed with us still flirting via text n occasionally sneaking a kiss in here in there... i felt bad... at first.. i kept telling him i didn't want to take it any further n that we needed to stop... although those were just words but my body was still craving his touch... finally one day after having a HORRIBLE weekend with my man fighting the whole time...we wnet to his house on our lunch break n he started kissin on me n playin with my hair makin me feel all sexxxyyy.... i gave in.. i was just in the mind state that i didnt care... n **** it... n the ****** up part of all this is that i feel better about myself & my relationship because of this.... i refuse to leave my man because of our son.. n i know i shouldn't be cheating however i will say that now that i am cheating our relationship has gotten a little better... & for the record i do NOT feel bad about it.. i come home with a big smile on my face.. n i feel sexy... n i guess him seeing me like that (even though he doesn't know the reason why) makes him remember me how i was when we first started dating n it makes him want me more... so now i am EXTREMELY happy cuz im getting it from my man n my coworker (which is still not enough with my sex drive) but i am just all around more happy... the co worker knows that there can never be any feelings between us that its just sex nothing more... n now when my man does treat me like dirt i just dont get as hurt by it.. i may be a seriously ****** up individual, i definitely have daddy issues... all i know is at the end of the day im a good person and i am happy with what i see in the mirror! thats all that really matters

Ask yourself this...would you mind it if he was sleeping around with other women? If you get jealous and don't like it then you NEED to stop.............