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I love my husband. But i think about being with another man. I have only been with my husband never anyone else. I married him when i was 16. Now that i am 20 i wonder i there some one else out there who fits with me better. I know he loves me but, he sometimes treats me bad. what do i do? give in to the temtation or live with the thought
tonia10148 tonia10148 19-21, F 24 Responses Sep 9, 2006

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You should really think about it because if you really love him and you go and cheat on him will you be able to make it with out him or will you still be able to stay with him with what you did. And how bad dose he treat you? If he hits you then yes get OUT! If it's just he can be an *** they all can be and so can we.

I think it is completely normal to have desires and curiosity. just think about things and realize we all have choices and they all come with consequences. I'd love to chat with you more

Give a brother like me a call hun. I'll take care of you. You're not a bad person for wanting something more. Your body needs certain things and if you're not getting it you will notice something missing. Thats where a guy like me can step in and fill that empty space that needs to be touched.

Don't give into the temptation. You will hate yourself for it. Take it from someone who knows. Once you make that choice you have to live with it the rest of your life. It is not fun. Especially if you are a Christian. Try to work things out. There are many places in on the internet that will help you fix your relationship before anything like this happens. Believe me if you don't give into the temptation you can remain a good person or at least consider yourself one.

Don't give into the temptation. You will hate yourself for it. Take it from someone who knows. Once you make that choice you have to live with it the rest of your life. It is not fun. Especially if you are a Christian. Try to work things out. There are many places in on the internet that will help you fix your relationship before anything like this happens. Believe me if you don't give into the temptation you can remain a good person or at least consider yourself one.

Don't give into the temptation. You will hate yourself for it. Take it from someone who knows. Once you make that choice you have to live with it the rest of your life. It is not fun. Especially if you are a Christian. Try to work things out. There are many places in on the internet that will help you fix your relationship before anything like this happens. Believe me if you don't give into the temptation you can remain a good person or at least consider yourself one.

Don't give into the temptation. You will hate yourself for it. Take it from someone who knows. Once you make that choice you have to live with it the rest of your life. It is not fun. Especially if you are a Christian. Try to work things out. There are many places in on the internet that will help you fix your relationship before anything like this happens. Believe me if you don't give into the temptation you can remain a good person or at least consider yourself one.

don't cheat...be up front and honest...let your husband know that you need a little wildness in your life...and if he can't give it to you, you'll take matters into your own hands. Cheating is when you are dishonest. Be honest about your needs and your plans to get what you want. Tell him up front that you want more, and that you know that no one person can meet all the needs of another person...and let him decide if he'll be the one to meet your intimacy needs or if he won't then someone else will. Let the choice be his, but don't deny yourself.

Discuss your desire with him openly. It's 2008, dear, and open relationships are very common. If he agrees to grant you the privelege, love him all the more for it. If he disgrees, your marriage is probably doomed anyway. The main thing is for you to have open, honest communication. Frustration, guilt, and secrecy never lead to happiness. Keep it open, keep it real.

I am with you. I married at 19, but have been with my husband since I was 15. I like someone else very much, but I don't want to hurt my husband.

I don't think you married too young, I think, perhaps, you married the wrong guy. If you are thinking of cheating, perhaps you should, after all, what is there to lose ? You have a lot to gain, you can learn if you want others, or if you still want your husband.<br />
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If you want someone older to discuss this with, leave me a message........no tricks....nothing but conversation.

Well, I am 24 and still not married. You must try and understand that marrying someone should be out of love. If you love your husband there is no need for you to be having this kind of thoughts. If he does not treat you well, then you should try and talk to him to see what is wrong. If he does not change his way then you should see some specialist about this and seek advice from him instead.

Don't cheat - I've been cheated on previously and it's horrible when you find out. Either look into counselling or leave him.

you will regret it. Just because someone treats you bad doesn't justify cheating. Seek counselling or tell him how you feel.

Oh sweetie..I'm the wrong one to give advice considering the things I have done lately...but I can tell you that I understand what you are going through and can relate completely....my hubby and I have been together since we were 16-got married at 19-had a baby at 20-and now we're 23....

Two things to add...<br />
1) No one who is 16 seriously understands love. I don't care what you say, it isn't. You haven't lived as an adult yet to even compare the experience to anything else. People who claim to love at that age are either delusional, or self-delusional. If you're feeling different at 20, it's because now you understand better, and that teenage glow you approached your relationship with has given way to the harsher reality of...well...reality.<br />
2) It's less about whether or not she cheats, then how she feels in the relationship. Betrayal or not, blah blah...honesty to herself is more important than honesty to someone else. I'm not saying she SHOULD cheat, I just don't think it's at the CORE of her problem. There are other, more substantial, concerns...like the quality of her existing relationship and her own feelings of inadequacy and fear. How she chooses to deal with that means everything to herself first, the effects on others should be less of a concern. Unless there are children involved...I have to add that because they aren't adults, but adult decisions do affect them.

If he's treating you badly, get out of the relationship. If you can't escape completely, escape one day or night at a time. Everyone deserves to be happy, and if he's being unkind to you, then both of you are likely not happy and it's time to move on.

IF you cheat on him, you can NEVER take that back. IF you love him, tell him what concerns you about your marriage and see if the 2 of you can work things through. IF you can GREAT and if you can't and have tried every avenue to *fix* it, than maybe the 2 of you should consider dissolving the marriage. But do not think that you can love him than BETRAY that love with infidelity. LOVE does not hurt, if it does, PLEASE do not define it as LOVE.

Alot of married folks wonder "what it would be like if." When you took those vows you made a life long choice, if you cheat you will hurt everyone involved. Wouldn't deciding if the marriage is worth saving and get out if it's not a better choice? Nobody deserves the pain of betrayl,or the wrath of the betraid.

If youre considering cheating, than you really dont "love" your spouse. Im sorry but ive been cheated on by my husband and its the honest truth. You cannot love someone 100% and think about cheating. Its one thing to daydream but another to actually imagine and want to cheat. If this is how you feel, than either seek help from a professional to prevent it or figure out what you need to do with your life......or just leave your husband so he doesnt have to go through the pain of his wife cheating on him.

DONT LISTEN TO PEOPLE WHO SAY YOU MARIED TOO YOUNG.THATS ALL IN THE MIND.WHEN YOU GOT MARRIED CAUSE YOU WERE IN LOVE.U HAVE TO FIND WHAT MADE YOU TOO SO GREAT AND BRING IT BACK.ALSO,THE LADY WHO SAYS YOU SHOULD SEE HOW ANOTHER GUY WOULD TREAT YOU IS WRONG.ANY MAN U MESS WITH ON THE SIDE WILL ONLY BE DOING IT FOR SEX-SO OF COURSE HE'S GONNA BE GREAT.REMEMBER THAT.MY WIFE LEARNED THAT THE HARD WAY.IF U DO IT SHE'S RIGHT DONT EVER TELL.THATS NOT FAIR TO YA HUSBAND.GOOD LUCK

OMG you sound just like me . its like i am reading my thoughts . i have a " friend" and that is all that is but i was married the fist time at 21 and stayed marred 5 years until i cheated on him and then i just left and now i am married once more and i am going through it all over again , and yet here we are again and i have been married to this one for 5 years and i am growing tired of him . i have like i said a friend and he tells me things i wanna hear but i have to think to myself . my hubby does provide for me what do i do well i have decided to stay with the hubby .but you have to see sometimes the grass isnt greener on the other side !!!!! what you think you need is only what you want ! have you talked to him about how you feel ? maybe you can recapture the love take sometime and get to knwo one another more //// i am here for ya

Join the club, baby! Marriage is an unnatural state of being. You got married way too young, and that made it even harder. I hope you can work things out.

If he treats you bad, and you know it, and it's excessive (whatever that means), then you probably should just divorce him. Or, have an affair, see what you think of your marriage in light of feeling valued outside of it, and go from there. Either you'll realize how much your marriage means to you, or you'll realize how hollow and miserable it is. Either way, NEVER TELL HIM. Telling him would just be a way of absolving yourself of guilt. If you feel guilty, keep it to yourself and think about why you feel guilty...and resolve never to do it again.