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I Don't Know What To Do

I have been thinking about having an affair because my husband and i hardly ever have sex, i like and need the intimacy but it's just not there. i'm lucky if we have sex once a week and it's making me kind of crazy and i don't know what to do. i've tried talking to him about it but nothing changes so now i'm always thinking about meeting someone and having an affair, i know it's not right but what else can i do?
lapinesandy lapinesandy 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 12, 2011

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It starts with thought and fantasy. You long for things to be different and you try many ways to fix it. The restless heart never sleeps. The hard part is when you do find it as I once did. Your life will be at a point of know return. Either you'll wish you never did it or the desire and what you feel on the outside will make you realize you never knew love like this and why did I wait to find it. I found it and now find myself looking again. Years have passed since my first affair and it changed me forever. Not in a bad way I don't feel its just very unfair to your spouse. But I don't take all the blame for that my home life is like yours. I want more then this. And now know what it can be.

I looked up your other comment about being recently reunited, a weekends only marriage stimulates the sex drive and minimises the irritations of actually living together. If he was working away is he likely to go again. Casual affairs are bad for your health if not carried out discreetly and I have always found they require more care than a marriage. You seem to have two options look for an affair and accept an uncomfortable marriage or decide if you want your freedom to find a new partner but remember casual sex does carry health risks!

In the same boat, hoping I find some kind of fun and satisfaction on here to help.x

So am i

I haven't found anyone yet