I Think About Having An Affair

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Just divorce that guy!

Do that when you are 40 woman. I am dating a 40 yr old woman, and now she knows what she wants. I am 25 and you could call me succesful. but we are damn happy !

no wonder your husband wants sex 5x a day. he 's not working !!

i understand your disappointment cuz does he really think you want to lay around and have sex all day while YOU are worrying about the bills and keeping the kids fed.

what is HE thinking?

Run get out do something with your life, if this loser won't work get someone who will I am married and my wife and I have a great relationship of freedom, but no matter what I have and will always work even at a job I hate for lower than normal wages but I work something anything the head of the house must work or he has to go. If you are as good looking as you claim you will have no problen finding a good descent man with a job.

Well I'm on the other side of the tracks. My wife and I have three kids and somewhere late 30s early40's anger entered into our relationship. Some from having less time with each other because of kids, some from me working and traveling so much. Money wasn't the problem but I felt I needed more attention (in the bedroom) It became a once or twice a month event. She on the other hand wanted me to give her more respect and consideration for her contributions to our household. I love her and thought I was. A line was drawn and neither of us were smart enough or knew better of what damage could come from not addressing the problem. I ended up having an affair and when she found out it nearly destroyed our marriage of 23 years. Luckily and because we got help were we able to salvage our marriage. Affairs seem exciting but the negative effects they can have on both yourself and your spouse can be devastating. If you want something different in your life being honest with your spouse first and maybe there is a way to find happiness within what you have and if not get out of the marriage. Affairs hurt

The old story it's the Bucks & the Bed........................

We all need a certian amount of money to live on, & when you are not able to meet the essentials in life. Yes that is tough !

A friend of mine was going through a similar situation as to what you have described, earlier this year, & I think it would not have taken to much encouraging to have got her into bed either, she had no cash, & bills just kept coming every day. Her husband seemed to be on a different planet. What was worse, my wife was o/s at the time (so noone would no). Except my friendship would have been utterly destroyed both with her & also her husband who I regard very highly.

So it's a hollow thing to think that all things will improve with more dosh, the more most people have the less happy they often are.

So without sounding to carss, "Don't go screwing around for a loaf of bread" - that just reduces you to a prostitute.

But I do agree with the others you probably do need some "breathing space" - with out hubby!

Yes,zoroman is right...just get away from him temporarily so both of you can have the space that you need and from there, you can analyze what you really want..do you still want to live with him?..or go solo to make yourself happy and do the things you like to do..you're so bored and burned out, just take a break..have some fresh air without your husband tagging along with you..get a life without him so you can be free and meditate at the same time.

You sound like the woman who lives down the road from me. So, I guess you could say there are others and probably many in your shoes. Not that that makes it any easier for you. Your situation sounds horrible and it seems as if you need time away from him. Can you take your kids and visit some family that might live out of town so you can get a break from him during the next school vacation? Also please feel free to private message me or others here if you just need to talk, vent or have a friend.