Here' A Novel Question On This Internet Chat Board!I am a 40 year old male who is in a loving, mature, monogamous marriage with a wife whom I love and respect. We have a two year old daughter who is well adjusted and appears precocious for her age, all underpinned by the stable, loving environment my wife and I provide for her.
My wife and I are committed to an honest relationship, free from deception. We recognize that marriage is never easy, and that there are no perfect marriages or marriage partners -- but understand we are both ultimately better off by having one another in our (and our daughter's) respective lives.
Because we don't need to worry about our spouses stepping out on us, we are both doing well at work. In fact, our collective family wealth is well in excess of $15 million, after years of educational achievement, hard work and moving up the corporate ladder. Like many, we have encountered our share of adversity in the workforce, but have survived it through the support from one another.
We also recognize that cheating on our spouses will destroy not only our little family (including, again, the prospects for a happy life for our daughter), but will also badly damage the lives of the families of the people we would potentially cheat with. All actions have ramifications, often beyond the thrills we see immediately in front of us. Again, children are typically involved, as well as others whom we don't know but to whom we owe a societal duty of care. We also recognize that the grass is rarely greener. Problems in a marriage are best handled by directly addressing them with honesty and compromise.
My question is this: with all the coconuts on this (and other) chatboards espousing infidelity, are we doing something wrong?
AmericaninHongKong 36-40, M 4 Responses 2 Jun 25, 2012