Three years. I have not been allowed to make love to my wife for three years. It is related to medication she takes which eliminates her body's estrogen production. Knowing that,I have tried to be understanding. We get along fine, married over 30 years. I keep myself in good health and looks (sounds vain, sorry) in order to not add to the lack of libido. I don't pressure her, I hug her, hold her hand - everything that all the intimacy counselors say to do in order to encourage closeness. Nothing. Not only will she not allow me to touch her, she cannot bear to touch me sexually, (maybe once or twice a year). I have never committed adultery. I do not want to. It is a sin against God and my wife, even if she refuses me in every way. I am cursed with being in love and desiring a woman who wants nothing to do with me physically. I talked her into bioindentical hormones (non-estrogenic), but they haven't helped. I think the most difficult part is I know she loves me, yet how can someone allow the person they love to live in such frustration when just a few minutes of physical comfort would get them through. Is it that repulsive? I am getting less able to cope. It effects me emotionally, mentally, and physically.