In reading your article, I began to think comments like, why would I want to be in a relationship with someone who is not emotionally available. I will not pretend that I have vast experience in creating healthy relationships, but do have a degree on what I do not want to create anymore because of my own part in the doing. It is hard to create, communicate and be vulnerable. As a man growing up I learned so many behaviors that it is no wonder how I came to be something I was not. Today at the age of 44, I can see hope for the true kinship that I yearn form myself and hope to attract that from a woman if its meant to be. The hard times is being alone, scared of living alone or never finding love again. Those are my thoughts that I make efforts to release out to the universe and believe that I am an asset and a value to a loving nurturing relationship. I just choose today not to violate my own integrity to run away from the situation that is just not working.