It's Now Been 3 Years!!!

This is ridiculous!!!  I have been married for four years, I will give him the nine months of being pregnant for not having sex but now....it's no excuse....it was a joke, when the doctor says at a check up after I had delivered...oh, you can have sex now....yeh, whatever...and nothing happened...I am so tired of bringing it up over and over again...especially for something that is supposed to be natural...I would be GONE...if it weren't for my child, so now I need someone to just give me a "fix" even if it's just once a month...as soon as I can, I am going to get a private investigator on him to see what the real deal is...if he's not gay or having an affair of which he both denied...then something is definitely WRONG with him...at least, be man enough to say what it is, and stop hiding behind being so moral about stuff...like homosexuality, drinking, etc....hey, if he needs a cover, fine...just let me do my thing in this ONE area....I know it sounds crazy but I KNOW he won't divorce me or if I file, he'll just give my life hell or use my child to raise havoc....so, at this point, since I know he WON'T go to counseling, or take Viagra..since he told me that he doesn't need it and laughed at the request...then, I will wait for an encounter...hopefully, someone that is not wacko, that has just as much to lose as me, that is "clean" and that won't be clingy and just understand that it's just about sex.  I hate the fact that my body is being wasted...I am very attractive, smart and loving and I definitely don't deserve this B.S. I have tried to do it the "right" way, and look at where it got me...oh, and he just loves to turn everything around on me to make me seem like I'm the one with the issue....or that it's supposed to be normal for a REAL man to go for this long without being intimate with his spouse....so, if anyone has any better ideas...let me know...I'll just repent when the encounter is over...at least, I would've had an ******!!

 

P.S. I saw a former co-worker the other day that I would just LOVE to have...I fantasize about him all of the time...but he's married and he's had enough issues himself with infidelity on his part so I know he would be resistant...

lm88069 lm88069
41-45
9 Responses Mar 9, 2010

i am available to scratch.

Thanks to everyone that took the time to comment and wish me well...nothing's changed...except more lip service but no action behind it..if it doesn't get better by the end of this year...that will be it for me...if we didn't have a child..it would be sooner..thanks all for the support...someone had mentioned looking into the madonna syndrome and I have and now I really wonder if that's what's going on...wow...thinking I'm doing things right before I get married to end up with this...I may have to just settle for someone to scratch that itch for the mean time...

I am so sorry to read about your pain. Sounds so much like my spouse. Whats wrong with these people? Making love, the care, attention, passion, just to touch, kiss. I miss it all so much. This is Gods greatest gift to us, and yet we, like so many others end up married to someone that just doesn't get it. (no pun intended) or maybe they do, and we just don't know about it. Like you, I believe I deserve more from life. I wonder if I do nothing and endure this torchure for another dozen years, will I look back and regret allowing her to steal such an important part of life from me.Odds are that you are 1000's of miles from me. I hope we each find someone like each other, I wish you all the happiness and passion you desirve.

Hello,<br />
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I think you are absolutely right about either him being gay or cheating. You deserve better. Hell we all do. I live way to far being in Hawaii to help you out but I would love to have a new email pal that understands the frustration I am going through. Shoot me an email if you need a friend to chat with. Dn96720@gmail.com. Hang in there and good luck.

This is bad, bad, bad for me to say and truly mean...But I feel ya sista! **** 'em. Literally. I live in this kind of BS too. I asked the same questions about "are you gay or having an affair"....because I just don't think it's natural to not get aroused every now and then or a whole lot. What is wrong with these *******'s that don't know what they have, and very soon if they don't start playing their cards right, til it's gone!<br />
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Best Wishes and Warm Thoughts~

quite a profound remark there jack lol

The most astonishing thing I've encountered is the fact that the desire and drive is so strong, we would go to the ends of the earth yo full fill our needs, as if it were a journey of some sorts. Our hearts crave what we don't have, we dream of the possibuilities. The entisapation of the connection.

Hit me up. Hopefully we both live in the GTA area. I would love to get together and just talk. Hell, I don't even care what you look like. As long as you have a pulse and will WANT me, too.<br />
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this loneliness is suffocating me. I need to either find someone who feels like me, or I need to simply ******* die.

you've been married for 4 years, how old is your husband? is he over 35-40? if so there is a condition that happens to males age 35 and up, the males testosterones hiot an all time low, effecting his sexdrive and performance. Most males do encounter this. That is why it is known that males sexdrive is at its peak at 18 years.