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Girls No Longer Waiting For Sex To Come To Them

I am amazed at how sexually aggressive US young women have become. I used to teach at a large southern university, and would always have a certain number of female students who were just plain showing too much of their bodies in class. This was Florida, but still to show up to class like you just came off the beach on holiday!? In my 5 semesters teaching this class, not one male ever showed up wearing a tank top or short-shorts—kind of says something about these young women, doesn’t it?

I think this female-initiated behavior is ultimately about control. For instance, the explosion of high school, middle school, and even primary school girls who are now performing oral sex on boys, many of whom they don’t even know, is astonishing. What is going on? All the psychology on this seems to suggest ‘girl power’ and if you think about it, this is a very powerful position of control over males. Dressing provocatively seems to be the ad girls use for a ‘promise’ of casual (oral) sex, which one of my psychology professors at Columbia called, ‘selling their bodies’. The clear statement these young women are sending is, ‘I am valuable first and foremost as a sexual object’. So, what happened to feminism, as Christina Hoff Summers might ask?

Actually, the new and improved feminism, I think, is in fact to blame for this phenomenon. Once upon a time, in the late 70s, droves of women went out to go to ‘work’ and thereby ‘compete’ with men on a ‘level’ playing field. Fine, except these women quickly found out that the world of work was not at all fair or nice, nor frequently even reasonable. The point wasn’t that women could not ‘handle’ this extremely competitive environment, but that this was and is the kind of competition females are not comfortable with. Men are direct, they like something or they don’t, and they often accept things as ‘just the way it is’. Women are indirect and use manipulation to get what they want, and they frequently try to change conditions through ‘negotiation’—what men call ‘complaining’. On the opposite side of this coin, when men are put into positions where they are supposed to constantly ‘liaise’ with women on a project, it often drives them crazy. These two types of preferences are never going to change, but women didn’t know this in the late 70s and early 80s. While women have succeeded in the last 40 years in making some positive changes in workplace environments, to this day it’s still basically a male realm.

Still women were determined to find a way to negotiate power in this male world—which is ironically now often run by female bosses, who have ‘adapted’. My feeling is that many women couldn’t adapt and for good reason, considering what it frequently costs women in positions of power—their health, their sanity, and their families. For these women there had to be another way, and the path of least resistance was to resort to the manipulation that was normally part of women’s home, social, and sexual lives. Women began to more aggressively use this currency of exchange at school, work, and social events; dressing in a slightly to overtly provocative manner, kissing men on the cheek when greeting, and finding myriad ways to make the men around them feel good as males, particularly the powerful alphas. Feminism had ‘adapted’, as many human strategies do, to accommodate realities that the underlying theory never anticipated. I must admit I like being around women who appreciate me as a man, but there is a point passed which such behavior becomes nakedly self-serving (not so ironically).

In a workplace environment, provocative female dress sends one clear message to co-workers, executives, and clients alike—‘products and services are not the only thing for sale here.’ Female co-workers, especially those who are not as attractive, are often jealous of such behavior as it often gives these pandering females unearned advantages. And, men or women co-workers who DO follow the rules at work are resentful of these ‘privileged people’. It is essentially the same in middle schools through college; girls who bargain for the attention of cool guys, or for higher grades, or for special access to coveted social and/or academic opportunities are seen as ‘*****’, there is no other word for it.

It is time for females again setting the standards for respect from males, and for schools, colleges, and workplaces to be free of greater-than-background amounts of sexual capitalism.
Southpaugh Southpaugh 18-21 2 Responses Apr 10, 2012

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In my younger life, I was preparing myself to become a college educator. In my mid twenties, I took a position as a teaching assistant for a physiology course. The class enrollment was heavily weighed by aspiring doctors and nurses, therefore considered a highly competitive course. Test averages rarely reach 50%...a difficult course, yet manageable and potentially successful with the proper preparation.<br />
My office hours, typically for the first have of the semesters...quiet as can be. Nobody came to see me. By Mid semester I had random students stop by and see me...<br />
All young women with low or failing grades (due to low scores, the overall grading of the class is ba<x>sed on the typical bell curve grading system). Some did not even bring there notes/work to show me what they need help with. I was appalled by a handful that outright asked me if I were interesting in a date.<br />
Of course I had some interest, but I was not going to jeopardize the legitimacy and integrity of my services. After three semesters of this, I grew disgruntled and ceased my pursuit. I figure I will eventually resume that in my next life...once my current one runs it's course. It's in my blood to be an educator. Even now with my current profession, I find myself helping people with mysteries and dilemmas...minus the aggressive young co-eds.<br />
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Back in that time...<br />
A less moral person may have taken an entire different route...

I hear you brother. When I was teaching academic and research writing to aspiring medical science sophomores I had two verbally abusive coeds in two separate semesters. I certainly could have handled these situations better, but it was so rare for me to encounter such outright vicious females that I was caught unawares—never again, trust me.

What I decided to do was to create a ‘contract’ between myself and my students for each semester. On the top half of the contract was my marking scheme, etc. On the bottom half was the university honor code and what behaviors students were expected to engage in and what ‘participation’ point penalties could be assessed against anyone not following this basic formula for acting properly as a student—I had absolutely no trouble in the 3rd grade doing my job as a student so this hopefully wasn’t going to be some Herculean task for these young adults.

Along with this basic set of guidelines, I told my students that although some professors partied, hung out, drank, did drugs, and/or slept with students—that this wasn’t going to be happening with me, period. I further made it clear that I was the professor, and they were the students, and that this relationship was not up for discussion / negotiation.

I finished off my class on the contract by stating two things:
a) ‘how class goes is ultimately up to you, the students; if you come prepared and prepared to listen, and with the spirit of learning a lot while having fun, then we can have a great semester—if not then not’. I got a lot of nodding heads when I added that only a few ‘bored’ or ‘lackadaisical’ students could ruin class spirit;

b) ‘if any student approaches me in a verbally and/or physically threatening manner, I will march out to the foyer, get on the phone, and call the university police, then you can deal with the honor court, etc’.

After I started using my contract and letting students know that there weren’t going to be any shenanigans permitted regarding female students, it was amazing how many coeds walked up after that lecture and extended their hands and said, ‘it’s very nice to meet you Professor Schneider’. I also had no more students who dared cross the line of threatening behavior.

I took a chance doing this, but I wasn’t going to be put in a box by the crybaby standards that some students have in college, which consist of nothing but manipulation, threats, and/or sexual bribery.

I too have been sorely tempted by some situations, but my job and my integrity fortunately won out.

I too am a born teacher, and began my teaching ‘career’ in the 6th grade as a result of the best teacher I ever had, Mr. Clark. He taught me that if I wanted to know a subject better I should try teaching it—wow, it really worked!

After teaching university level biology, anatomy and physiology, gender development and psychology, physical science, and science education (for primary school science teachers) for about 12 years I stopped because I wanted to find more interested students and more interesting colleagues—I found both in language teaching.

I have been teaching the English Language and assorted medical science writing and organizational science courses for about 8 years now.

I work in the Middle East, where I have found basically good students and some amazing colleagues.

Thanks for your response and very good luck meeting you goal of university teaching.

Let me know how it goes. Cheers mate.

Practically speaking, slutty clothing in the workplace is ob<x>jectionable because it's distracting. I don't we men should be blamed that we find it hard to concentrate when a D cup gal is showing as much cleavage as she can without her nipples popping out. Of course, if we let our eyes as well as our minds linger, then in the feminist mindset we are guilty of "sexual harassment", something as bad as skinning puppies alive. But if it's a bisexual woman letting her eyes linger, of course no problem.

That is an absolutely brilliant idea. When a guy was going to class nude at Berkeley, what stopped it was a coed charging it as sexual harassment. The same logic applies.