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Show Me Don'T Tell Me

I have always been like this. It has nothing to do with the fact my husband's actions have always meant he hated me. Before all that, it was the same.
I have never been affected by sweet talk, compliments and praise.

It just doesn't resonate with me. Not sure why, even in college when guys would try to sweet talk me, I really could care less and I still feel the same. I would much rather see someone show me what they mean instead of tell me.

Of course this can't be realistic in every relationship, but with personal relationships with friends and such it can. Don't blow fairy dust up my behind, just show me how you feel. 


soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 18 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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I promise to stop talking about my junk.

Okay! *pulls your pants down slowly as I kneel at your feet*

that's an interesting prayer...

*Hard giggles*

I was going to show you something...but I got it jammed in the photo copier,and well...you'll just have to take my word for it.I like you.:)

LOL!! Darn copier!

That's not me. Actions do mean more than words but I can appreciate the fact that someone even says the words even if those words carry no weight. I like to think that the person giving voice to those words it's caring about me right at that very moment, at least caring enough to blow fairy dust up my ***.

I think it just depends on the situation.

Maybe. I don't get many people offering to do anything for me. If it does happen, I still appreciate what they say, even if it is just lip-service. I don't rely on them. I assume that they won't actually do anything and it makes the action sweeter if they actually do it.

I don't like sayig those words.

What words?

sweet talking

To your lady?

I'm the silent type. It doesn't help my love life.

Yea, I know someone like that. Communication is important...but do you show what you feel?

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No kidding.
Words are nice. I like getting compliments and praise just as much as the next person, but if they are not followed with action, they are empty. Don't tell me you think I am hot and sexy and desirable when you never reach out and touch me unless I ask.

Yea, what's up with that...saying you wish this and wish that. DO it! LOL I totally agree. Thanks.

*hides fairy dust behind his back*

You better be showing me something! :)

I am! My fairy duster. :-p

LOL!!! Wow, it's so sparkly and magical!

Its not everyone I make it`ll all sparkly for. :-p

Awww *grabs the fairy duster*, FOR ME!!!

Ah yeah! ;o)

LOL!! Thanks for that...I needed it so bad!

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I think you are really, really, really nice.

*giggle*

I don't think that's an appropriate response for this group...now show me! :)

It is my understanding that Fairy Dust is quite abrasive and, much like Frank Zappa's French mystery blow job, it will turn your peter green...so...no...I will not blow Fairy Dust up your hinder. Now, on the other hand, I have this bottle of Vaseline that mysteriously appeared in my possession. Do the initials J.P.F. ring a bell? *scratches head* Ah well....no matter.... bend over please!

Well rough is good sometimes...*bends over and grabs ankles.*

GT is that the same Vaseline you nicked from Joey?

*rubs initials off bottle*

lol Too late. ;-p

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Wow, I agree...Thanks

Makes sense

Thanks..

welcome

So now you may understand why I watch my behaviour and others behaviour all the time ?

My brother was an alcoholic for several years.

He lost his licence several times. His wife left him. His son lost respect for him.

He denied that he ad a problem.

Only after he lost his liver, his employment and then went to rehab did he accept he had this illness.

Well I can see your point in this case. That's too bad he had to go through all of that before he would acknowledge his problem. Thanks for sharing.

Someone told me that behaviour never lies.

So words should be ignored......just watch behaviour.

Don't you think that is extreme? I don't think we should totally discount what someone says, but actions tend to seal the deal, yes.

I'm very much the same.

Thanks for reading.

So true, especially for me today.

Hugs

Thanks. Not a good day here.

Me either...blahh! LOL Tomorrow is a new day.

Is blowing fairy dust up somebody's arse a local custom? I'm intrigued by that but I'm not too sure that the fairies think that it's aceptable.

On a more serious point, words and actions should go together, I think. One reinforces the other.

HI! Hugs...
You aren't familiar with fairy dust up the butt? LOL :)

No................Nothing UP the butt actually :0

I agree with you - actions speak louder than words to me as well. It's different on EP, though, when words are really all we have. I've learned to read through the messages to get to the meaning and determine the sincerity. Actions speak to me more in real life, though. Love your last line - totally agree! :)

Yes, I meant in real life. I don't overlook the words said here by my friends. That is totally different, you are right. :)

This is surprising to me. Yes actions speak louder than words but words are nice to hear too, especially from the heart.

Yea, not sure why Im like that. I am always saying nice things to people so I don't know why I feel this way. Im an odd ball!

Not an odd ball, a unique individual. :)

Oh, uhm, okay!

You aren't odd Soul. That didn't come out right. I meant it as you are a unique person who appreciates actions but I'm surprised heart felt words aren't enough.

C, that's totally different. Im talking about peoples intentions towards me.

Shoreguy, I get what you meant. So many times words are empty and just spoken because they sound good but the intention isn't behind them.

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