Healthy Release

I think it can be a healthy and productive way to relax and let your guard down after living day to day in a world that seeks to put restrictions on behavior and puts us through one stressful situation after another. When practiced among consenting adults, it can let the mind be free with a partner. A submissive can let herself relax in a situation in which she feels protected and a Dominant can find the acceptance that his primal side needs to be free. Just as importantly it lets us explore new roles and behaviors in the privacy of our own home or play areas without worrying about the acceptance of others. It is a type of relationship that requires more thought and care for safety and sanity, but if both partners are concious of healthy procedures and have their safe words in place, it can be a fulfilling lifestyle!

Leatherheart Leatherheart
36-40, M
2 Responses Jan 30, 2010

Dear Sir Leatherheart, I want to thank you and tell you that what you wrote is an answer to my prayers and is a beautifully worded explanation that I can use to explain to the naive people and I 'm happy for the first time in a long time. I was uncertain if indulging in my kinks would lead me to be stuck in the negative unhealthy coping after being molested or .. then the rest was kinda a wish or a "wow look at all the kinky ones turned out to be healthier than the so called main stream icky **** of the most common type. It completes my Life Theme: Irony, a 39 year search thru the depths of abuse and mental illness to a true spiritual gratitude that I am so in touch with my sexuality and it is a powerful blessing for all my dues paid. I'm 44 and can just about not contain the coming ******, I'm sorry but women's can be so much better, deeper affecting my entire torso and part of my brain that is busting with the possibilities and opportunites in front of me. I sound a bit bizarre but that's ok. I 've wanted to get involved in a club for so long but still fearful of not being able to trust. Thank you so ******* much. I gotta date on the way over and I already let hime know that this isn't about anger or fear or our recent hate of each other, but I need and want exactly what you said. I've serviced his needs and now I deserve to exactly what you said: feel protected, I like playful hairpulls and hard squeezes that don't hurt but I just realized that instead of lightly licking or stroking just makes me feel like an ob<x>ject on display. I need full body contact to feel secure and touched all over at one time instead of a finger in a hole which is how I was molested. Wow, you just helped me more than I'm so freakin' excited to share this info and help others. There's really alot of good men out there huh? I only hear the same 8th grade locker room mentality and guys who are so vanilla they get scared of me. lmao now. This is the start of a revolution in my redneck, beer drinking, small minded circle of friends.

It's no race. It's always a wonderful thing to see someone new enter the lifestyle and its even greater when it is part of a strong established relationship. Good luck, wScars!