My Daughter Is Emotionally Draining Me.I have a daughter who will soon be 17. I also have a son who is 20 and another daughter who is 18. My son recently got married to a girl that does not like or respect me, our family, our religious beliefs or our personal values. This is difficult for all of us, and she has verbally attacked me on a number of occasions. To be fair, I respond with anger and I yell.
My youngest daughter has been dating a boy for a little over a year and a half. They have worked hard at becoming true friends and until a few months ago I believe he truly loved her. They are not physically intimate... AT ALL. They have maintained the right boundaries. My daughter is, however, quite difficult. I don't understand how anyone could treat others the way that she does. She lashes out over the tiniest thing, then apologizes for her anger, but maintains that it is BECAUSE of what someone else did/said/thought. She literally drove this boy away and she does not even see it.
Meanwhile, because they have become best friends, he is still texting her and telling her he is sorry he broke up with her. What he really means is that he is sorry he HURT her. He has also told her he still loves her. She asked if it was as friends and he of course, not wanting to hurt her more, said it was more than friends. The violent emotional response she gave when the broke up probably scared him. It scared me. I know that she will get through this, but he is also the very first truly close friend she has ever had.
I have asked her to have no contact with him, but she refuses. When I try to get her phone away from her she loses it and becomes violent. I wish it were just a case of her being spoiled , but it isn't. She is also in denial about the break-up and over eating. I am so frustrated and sick of the drama. UGH
Thanks for listening.
thouroughlyhurt 46-50, F 1 Response 0 Jun 5, 2012