I Need Advice

In my own opinion , talk to each other in a positive way like mother and child relationships. They need a lot of assurances and love. Get know her first, its difficult for the kids to trust you . Trust is the hard thing to do, Talk about her future and what she wants . Can some conversation anything that might interest her , just go with what she says for the meantime. Probably i think she try to learn from you based on her experienced. It takes time, effort and compassion and love. Just be patience!

Hey Guiltmonster,

I feel your pain. My chillins are 9,11,13 and they would much rather be anywhere than at home with me, and I am divorced as well. If I have something planned or want to spend time with them I tell them what is going on. If they want to spend time with their friends I simply remind them this is my day off and if that's what they want to do, then ok but I don't want to hear they miss me or never get to spend time with me. I also remind them how they are lucky to have a mother who wants to spend time with them because I didn't have that growing up. I hope this helps, if not private message me and I will listen to you vent. It hurts when they don't spend time with you but I have found when they know you will be there for them no matter what, they start to cherish you and understand what a mother's love is and that they have a lovely woman to rely on no matter what comes their way. I am always here for you if u need anything. It is really difficult to be a mother and hope you are doing the right thing, especially if you are a single mother. Hang in there, it will be worth it:)