Mr. Nice GuyI remember a few months ago I was complaining about how much I was fed up of being the nice guy to everyone, with the occasional feeling of being used or being taken for granted, and I had somehow convinced myself to push away whoever caused me some sort of pain and hurt.
But recently I have realized that it's sort of a blessing to be nice, because it's nice people that change the world bit by bit. Like Gandhi once said "You must be the change you want to see in the world".
I really came to this conclusion when an old flame of mine contacted me to express her sympathy of my father's passing, and we started chatting off and on to catch up on old times. After a few weeks of this on and off chatting she ended up getting pregnant by her abusive ex-boyfriend whom she had just recently broken up with; now she is one of the people who I had distanced myself from because of the heartache that I went through being with her.
Upon seeing the distress, panic, and stress that she was going through, the natural thing to me was to console her and just help her come to terms with what is going on so she has a clear mind to prepare for things. Later that night I wondered to myself, "why am I helping her with all of this when she caused me so much pain? Would other guys do the same? Will I get taken for granted again?" But the truth of it all is that, in times like this when someone feels like they've hit rock bottom and they can't think right because of what's going on, if there isn't that someone who you can turn to with a shoulder to cry on, then all is lost. I really don't care if other guys would do the same, or if I will be taken for granted, but instead I see someone who needs help and I gladly take that role regardless of the outcome because it's just the right thing to do and no matter what happens in the long run, knowing that I did the right thing is most important.