In The Absence Of

. . effective communication, there are so many pitfalls in life. It effects our jobs, our children, our parents, and above all our inter-personal relationships. I can attest to the fact that I have experienced many a sleepless night or nervous anxiety over mis-communication or lack of, especially with my family & loved ones.
My best friend and I have known each other for over 30 years. We don't get together often these days, since I moved away. Without regular communication I would be detached, miserable, and possibly in jeopardy of allowing our friendship to gradually slip away. It is an undeniable & vital human connection that we share and appreciate.
Many people have difficulty with it. There are those that struggle to share effectively with each other. It is an art, a conscious effort, a necessary path to intimacy and understanding. In my marriage our communication was lacking so badly, and created such turmoil that eventually it broke down completely. This was one of the primary contributors to our divorce. Communication can fall apart, but it can also reinforce and sustain. It is a way to feel connected, important, heard, and understood. It is an expression of our inner selves and emotions. It is the sharing of thoughts, ideas, perspectives, and opinions. EP is a perfect forum to exercise these skills. I am enjoying doing just that. Whenever the feeling strikes, I am here typing away . . exposing myself, without fear. Expressing my feelings, about whatever it is that happens to cross my mind. I am an open book. I too am here to listen for anyone that needs and wants an audience. No judgement here.
KattG KattG
46-50, F
1 Response Jan 11, 2013

A beautifully written story; rich in meaning, wisdom, and artistry. These two sentences stuck with me most: "It is an art, a conscious effort, a necessary path to intimacy and understanding," and "It is a way to feel connected, important, heard, and understood." This is all so very true! Regarding conscious effort, that is something that I am starting to get more in the swing of. I think, by conditioned default, I don't reach out to others. But I don't want to remain that way, as I am very fond of the benefits and needs of communication.
Thanks for sharing. Take care.