Fb Is No Place For Loners

i understand you a lot (ToT)

I actually stumbled across this site because of this post.
It made me wonder why you would feel so bad about having good jobs, earning loads of money and having lots of friends. I mean - there are more important things? And nobody on facebook has a lot of friends. They just have a lot of acquaintances and a lot of strangers on their lists. Just like they do offline. Their relationships in real life tend to be pathetic and that's just how it is on facebook. Posting shallow crap about unimportant things. It reminds me of what somebody wrote about the first story I posted here... "coming to terms with who you are" (even though I didn't agree with the rest of the posting). And through that also realizing who THEY are. Namely: not worth aspiring to.
Plus - one can't even have a decent conversation on facebook, unlike in forums, chat rooms or even comment threads (like here).
Why people insist on using that awful site is beyond me.

i know how you feel. all Facebook does is isolate people they don't want to have around. and all those people who host those huge parties on FB just do it tor the fame, and they just want to cause trouble and really, in the end, end it doesn't matter anymore. truth is, people will eventually grow out of it. you don't see old people using it. unfortunately, mankind kind is stumbling, with these people who have "swag", and any other wannabee poser, these people ruin this planet, with their drugs and this demented lifestyle. something needs to be done. i don't care about the methods that need to be used, it just has to change. vntis: that is for united as one.

I read your story and nodded the whole way through. I just closed my account a few weeks ago and I'm still suffering a little from the withdrawl, but I am still convinced that I'll feel better without it. I also had only the one friend I wanted to talk to, but as a Facebook novice I added pretty much everyone and ended up with a bunch of distant relatives I hardly know who just wanted to show off their vacation snaps or add another number to their friends list. My friend eventually started to treat me really badly on Facebook, so that gave me the excuse in letting go of the whole mess. I wholeheartedly agree that Facebook is not for loners. I'd rather do something that makes me smile. :)

I also at times get bothered by others who have such a so called good life. But I have come to learn some are just show boating and their lives aren't so great. If these people have such an amazing life, isn't it funny they have all that time to post on facebook....

I was feeling kind of depressed and went to google looking for some solace. Thanks for making me feel a little less lonely. It's kinda sad... so many lonely people but we're all still alone. Facebook just makes me feel sad. Like everyone else is living such a happy, fulfilling life, while I sit in my jammies, watching Hell's Kitchen and snacking on goldfish. I guess I can go to sleep feeling a little better.

Wow. I'm glad I deactivated, tonight. I thought I was going nuts thinking FB was depressing me...



I speak truth, and, after awhile, no one talks to truth. I was once reprimanded for using FB the way I wanted (honing my writing...I start out pretty raw) after no was talking to me on my posts for at least a quarter of a year.



Most recently, I was posting about a long process I'm involved in and have received very little support from persons who I thought would, so, I'm offa there. They weren't in touch with me before FB, so, why change things?



To quit takes one day at a time.

Face book kills me .. I so wish it would just go away. It brings me so much sadness and yet I keep looking to it searching and hoping that something will change, that I will just 'get it' and be able to join in? I don't want to be down on others for having such 'fantastic' lives but there is just something so off about it all and I feel so left out when I see photos of a bunch of friends at a dinner or some other reference after the event that I was not privy to. Had it not been for fb I would never have know about it and would not feel so left out of the loop. Not too mention when I write on someones wall and get no response ? what is up with that ... is this really a friend? I don't get it?

I am in the same boat. I am a loner and like you I made a FB page because someone told me I should. Now everytime I go there, all I see are posts by people on how great life is, that everyone should be happy to be alive, life couldn't get any better, blah blah blah. So sick of it.



And the sad thing is I keep going back for more punishment. Maybe one day I will learn.

lol same here.. im 16 and im not really the friendly kind but im not a real loner in our school, it just makes me depressed to see my 'friends' have a lot lot lot pictures with a other people and they seem so happy about their lives..

well no-one makes any of you go on. Dont go and slag fb users off for putting happy things on facebook and leaving out their low moments. You can say fb is immature etc all you want. IF you hate it that much then simply dont go on it. idiots

i just joined fb and hate it. after only a few minutes seeing old school friends with there family and friends. i felt sad but just kept on telling my self " i am a born again christan, and this is a tool from the devil to make you feel sad".

i belive fb is not for christans because it makes people covet. i am certain that fb is for people who are pretentious. these peole need to show off and compre them self to others and when they can find one who has less then them it makes them feel good. how empty and sad.

email is fine to conect with friends and family.

i found a friend from school and it turned out he became a doctor and has the great life. so it seems in my mind just by looking at his pictures. my mind started to to make me feel like i have not done enough with my life. all this from seeing pictures? was it his fualt he became a doctor? no. if it was not for fb i would have never ran into him on the street and known his story. and if i would have ran into him on the street it would have been short and sweet.

facebook is a "LOOK AT ME" website. the sad thing is no mater how great they think they are there is allways someone just a bit more better off. it would never end.

i am fine who i am because i am living my mind through CHRIST. if you are reading this and have had the same feelings, i am here to tell you. YOU ARE FINE JUST THE WAY YOU ARE.

LOVE,

ADRIAN

Everyone of you sounds Jealous, and quite stupid. Do you really think people are going to put their real problems on fb? Why would anyone do that ? there things u share with people and stuff u don't. i just lost a baby..do you think i'm going to write that as my stat..uh no i won't!!!!..and oh jus cause someone doesn't rmr u doesn't mean a damn thing...No offense but u ppl r crazy and quite insecure!!!

You couldn't pay me to create a Facebook account... Who needs such drama anyway? Definately not a loner. Like slow, painful torture to read all that 'extrovert material'. Maybe I could be tempted by the thought I could snoop into the lives of old school friends (haha) but really, then they'd be snooping into mine. And I really don't want that.

I opened a facebook account after a couple of friends kept asking me to. Well for me it was a big disappointment. I live in the Bible belt and most of the people on my facebook take themselves way too seriously alternating between their professions of faith or seeking pity for stuff that I just suck up on a daily basis. It really annoys me because I know a lot of these people very well and I can guarantee they wouldn't bother to **** on somebody if they were on fire. I only have 20 friends on my facebook and I would like to delete all but about three of them that I email privately. Long story short- I regret joining facebook but would love to get to know some like minded people.

Wow I thought I was the only one who felt this way about Facebook. I too have experiened the fakery and fronting that left me depressed and comparing my own life unfavorably. I have a co-worker with over 600 "friends" (how is that even possible?) and her wall was a constant flurry of parties, trips, etc. However, I later discovered that her marriage was falling apart, she was drunkenly hooking up with random men, etc! Her whole "social butterfly" persona was an facade to escape from her deep real-life problems.



I had another Facebook friend that would make comments on how much $$ they were spending on renovating their kitchen. This struck me as extremely insensitive, considering that many of us are just trying to scrape by in these tough times. Tacky, tacky.



I found that I was spending too much time fretting about my FB status, comparing my friend count to others', etc. Finally, I deactivated my account and it was the best thing I ever did. I now don't think about FB at all,(except when someone mistakenly thinks I unfriended them and I have to explain that I really didn't). Not thinking about FB on a daily basis has removed a huge source of anxiety from my life, and I couldn't be happier about it.

Trust me - you don't have to be a loner to feel depressed by FB ;)

I'm a loner too, with no friends except my family in "real life" and just a few friends online. Facebook to me was depressing, shallow, and boring...my account's deactivated right now, though I might reactivate it sometimes to stalk people when I'm bored, lol. EP is a gazillion times better, at least when you know how to mostly avoid the dark and weird groups/people. :p

I couldn't agree more with how facebook can make a depressed person worse. It indeed at times has made me feel like my life is worthless. Seeing as I am a loner myself and facebook just does not clash well with me. I was never social so joining a "social network" just brought me lonliness. I try to not be pessimistic and be happy for others, but with the constant cheerful updates about what everyone is doing on their weekend (mine is stuck at home alone) and the vacations or the my bf is so great! I just feel so alone and unloved. I am at a place in my life where I would like to be experiencing such things, but my depression has got the best of me and is holding me back. Whether it's being social and putting myself out there to achieve such wonderful things. I know that anything is possible, but with facebook I am very pessimistic. It makes me not care to compete with such peoples lives. I feel I will never fit into the perfect mold of being a social butterfly with a group of bffs and tons of cool stuff clothes and money. I am an introvert, a loner, but I sure feel like a nobody.

You can delete your Facebook. Don't deactivate it. Here's the link of what you should do. http://www.wikihow.com/Permanently-Delete-a-Facebook-Account Wait 14 days, and don't even dare going back, it will activate your account. After that, you should be happier so you can do your stuff.

Well your just as good as them echo! It should be called Ego Book!!

face book reminds me of a public ring like the roman colosseum, where people try to make themselves the spotlife of our age. It seems like a total waste of time and effort to mantain such an account.

Exactly Lotus! *big hugs*

Exactly the reason why I DON'T have a FB account. Don't worry Ever, those people obviously aren't worth your time. *HUGS*

I love you too sis! *boobie squeeeeeeeeeeeeeessssssssssssh*



(your the only one keeping me sane right now and i love you for it)

Hey, you just joined aswell! Not as good as it's cracked up to be is it?! xx

Amen!

*Applauds* KathKennedymelb. You are soooo right!

Your story sounds exactly like mine. A social commentator I heard on the radio the other day mentioned that social network sites have the same effect as the class room heirarchy, and the only way to feel comfortable on facebook is to be the type of person who conforms to the group. this really spoke to me and made me realise that this was the mentality that I had tried so hard to leave behind all those years ago. If you view facebook as the absolute lowest common denominator, you will realise that people like you and I are above this mindless drivel and it is the equivalent of the fan base to a tacky sitcom. you are not alone in feeling alone, believe me

If you don't like fakebook, just quit. I committed facebook suicide today actually after being mildly "successful" on there, i'm satisfied in finding out who's banging who and marrying what, it took up so much of my time stalking people i used to know and sniffing around their lives on FB i just discovered they all have patterns and routines in their boring lives, their updates having the same flavour about whatever and as time goes by they go from school to college to work to engaged to married to getting a home and having children and pretending to be excited about it, at each step.... boring!!



My star is falling and if i have the outlets i tend to use them to vent, so I wasn't going to update people on the view on the way down as i become nothing, so leaving now was the right time for me.