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Good Hearted People

It doesn't seem fair. People who always try to do the right thing, give out of the kindness of their heart and believe in forgiveness are always getting the short end of the stick. They always get manipulated, used and taken advantage of. It's always the narcissistic type of individuals that seem to always profit.

It makes you wonder....what's the point of being good? Good people deserve to have happiness more than anyone else....why is it that they are the ones who are always unhappy?

If karma was real...don't you think that morally good and generous folks would be receiving some good luck? They don't.
hadyourchance hadyourchance 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 15, 2013

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As advanced as human beings are, you would think they know to exercise the golden rule more often. Instead, they default to their animal instincts most of the time. What I mean by that is that there are two types of people in this world. The conqueror and the conquered.

Most people fall into the conquered category. I was too one of them.

Now, I am a nice guy that has the ability to hunt the hunter or conquer the conqueror... at least most of parts of my life.

And there you have described my lack of confidence in life. I can be the nice guy with confidence, the catch is the nice guy gets nothing, the nice guy with confidence gets a kick in be nuts in return, at least when it's me. Almost rather just be invisible

I hate the saying..."nice guys finish last". I don't buy it. It's not just guys....it's all good & nice people. It's not gender specific. Sure, good people are always getting the short end of the stick...but what's important is how a person reacts. It's frustrating but it should never effect your confidence. Not believing in yourself is more of a insecurity issue not a "nice guys finish last" problem.

Not always the case. I was involved with a very good guy...in the end he hurt me more than any bad boy I've ever been with. His fear of not being good enough had him abandon me and disappear without a trace thinking I deserved better and be happier with someone else. Destroyed me.

He obviously wasn't a good guy in the end then.

Not believing in myself/insecurity is an issue created partly by myself, and partly by track record, how many times can you take being passed by for whoever walks threw the door of life next? And this is not limited to one subject unfortunately.

I don't think it's about being or nasty or nice. It's just people being people and not thinking resulting in their animal instincts taking over.

In nature, either you are the hunter or you are food. If you are the slowest deer, you are by default ... food.

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I think you can be nice and not be taken advantage of. At least not chronically. If someone treats you wrong, let them know how you feel. If they continue to do that, let them go and move on.

Sometimes it's not that simple.

I know that it tough when our hearts are involved, and we should always try to make a relationship work through by trying to reach that person, but there is only so much we can do. I'm still learning about all this myself, but at some point you have to fish or cut bait.

I don't remember telling you my story. How come you know it so well? :(

It's my story too :(

I hear you, You know what they say about good guys...

Yea...all good guys think they finish last. Not completely true. Good girls do as well.