Married and Bi-curious

I think I'm bi too, I think about it pretty much all the time.  I'm married though, and would feel way too guilty cheating on my wife, so I will probably never act on it.

bcg56 bcg56
36-40, M
9 Responses Oct 15, 2008

hello, welcome to , it's a pretty good dating site for bisexual, bi-curious singles and couples

I feel the same but my relationship is not good at the moment and I can't stop thinking about it .......leaning towards trying but only with another married man.

In a difficult situation. My wife has a disability that has limited sex to nothing for about 3 years now. I had a thing with a guy friend (bj's) but I liked it. I need to have some physical contact and don't know what to do.

I think a healthy relationship is having the ability to be open with your lover. If you truly love them, and they truly love you, then they will accept you for who you are. Of course it will take time to adjust and they may be shocked at first. Let them cool down and explain to them what it is and educate them, pretending they know absolutely nothing about it. Explain to them that you wanted to tell them because you love them and you want to be open about it. Too often couples hold back and refrain from being open. Not openly talking about sex in a relationship may make it uninteresting over time. Talking about it, on the other hand, brings a couple closer together because they understand each other in so many new dimensions. Don't ever be ashamed of who you are...just be yourself because life's too short to pretend you're someone your not.

This is to bcg56 and although a bit unrelated to your post I just wanted to say tha t I love your pic and was curious as to where you found it.

At the end of the day, when you are married to soeone you should love them enough to never betray that promise of commitment, straight gay or bi the vow still means the same to committ to one person. Also I think honesty is everything in any relationship, you two are married so i would assume the trust you share is binding so open up to her let her know what you feel, if she is open to it you can watch gay or bi ****, or experiment with sex toys, but if she isnt which is very likely then don't feel the need to take it any futhere, at the end of the day, if the tables were turned you will most likely bot be too impressed yourself, chaeting is cheating, so do't break her heart. Good luck...

True, she might be upset with you if you just up and told her. There is a way to approach the subject but you have to think about and wait for your turn. I might have missed some opportunities with my wife's bi leanings if it had been my idea but once she got the idea she went for it.

Ever wonder if you might become more attracted to your own gender than the opposite? I have had similar experiences to redherring, and agree that being with another man is FUNFUNFUN, but know it also affects my relationship with my wife... that might deserve a "well duh!", what do you think?

Funny lonelyblueeyes ... do you say that to all the guys that you meet on gay and bi forums?