Im Pretty Sure Im Cursed

Hi there !!
It looks like you are cursed but trust me you are not.
You are looking to find somebody to hard,don't panic he will come one day.
Just relax and let the life flow.
It is better to wait then go for the wrong one otherwise you will end up worse in years to come.
Trust me i know what i am talking about.
And you are still young, no worry it will work right for you.
Take care
Devilsden 666

Look Girl................
Do not listening to any body but yourself.
Marrieg is just a paper , find love that is what count.
Make yourself visible and let the guys looking for you.
As you said you have nothing to loose so use your (weeknes) as your wapon and as a guy i tell you guys like to be the protectors so use it, make them feel you need a friend and soon you know if he is worth it.
Please do not give up.
And be more confident, show them you are in charge, dictate the rules !

I can relate 100% id need months to tell u my story...I was molested by my brother at a young age for a long time and I started to look for the true affection of a man at a very early age... I just always.felt that no matter the horrible things that life threw at me I kept a smile and told myself tomorrow is another day.... I've been repeatedly molested raped and abused and kept silent ! I've had three miscarriages and once widowed! I'm 21 and have no friends to relate with....and my mother and only sister are anything but confidants..... There's people like us out there...but I truly believe that we're strong enough to be alone in the world and god's got something beautiful planned for us :) excuse any misspellings or grammar errors.....this swype thing lol by the way my name is yesenia hope to hear back from u  

I wonder if the approach you're taking on this whole 'having a guy in your life' thing is what is causing a lot of the pain and dissatisfaction you are experiencing.

I am part of a Christian church and meet weekly (sometimes weakly) with a small group of friends who are part of my church. We've been discussing this concept of 'why bad things happen to good people' and have been going through a video series which actually turns that question around and asks 'why do good things happen to bad people?'. This perspective is based on the biblical teaching that we, as people, are inherently bad. Adam and Eve were responsible for ushering sin into our world, and we've been stuck with it ever since.

Jesus Christ died for those sins, but only because God allowed that to happen. Basically what we really deserve is death or, rather, we never deserved to be born, or conceived, or live what we consider to be 'normal, happy lives' because we, as a collective species, have turned our backs on God. His response to 'our sin' has been graceful in that He has not only given us life, but He has given us the ability to find joy, peace, love, kindness, beauty, and all the goodness of the Earth. This is all a gift. This life on Earth is but a small test of how we can manage to glorify a creator who has graciously given us the breath of life.

You want to find a guy? Find someone who can be your friend first, and your lover second (or third, or last) because this lasting relationship you're looking for won't be found in a temporary flash of sexual satisfaction. Don't get me wrong - I think sex is great fun and can be very satisfying. For me it always makes me feel closer to the person I am with. However when those relationships have ended I have always felt betrayed and cheated to have been brought so close to someone only to have them leave because they don't want the commitment or responsibility. Marriages don't end because of a lack of happiness, they end because of a lack of commitment. When I said 'for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, til death do us part' I meant every word. My former wife was not as sincere in her promise and decided to leave after 15 years. Now she's married to someone 20 years younger than her. I thought she would be my last and only marriage relationship and the person with whom I would grow old. We had what I thought was a reasonably fulfilling relationship (that neither of us deserved) and we have two great kids, but the whole relationship was built on a weak foundation and now it is no more.

Some readers are probably thinking, or shouting out loud, "...reasonably fulfilling...? You describe your relationship as 'reasonably fulfilling and you're surprised it didn't last'"?

I don't think, and have never thought, that a relationship can be based on happiness. Happiness is a feeling that is never permanent. We can often feel happy but eventually that happy feeling is replaced be something else - guilt, discouragement, fear, jealousy - you name it. And it can't be denied that happiness is not a foundation on which to build a permanent relationship. I'll take commitment over happiness any day because, in my mind, that's what will be there in 30 years. The fact that I've been blessed with someone that has the ability to follow-through with a commitment will give me more happiness than I'll ever hope for with just a smokin' hot body and a great smile. I met someone a couple of years ago who I've been spending time with on a regular basis. She is not only stunningly beautiful, but has become a good, trustworthy friend who has also had her share of failed relationships, and knows the value of a good friendship over a physical relationship. We aren't lovers but we love each other and are willing to wait for each other out of respect for God's grace. We currently live 50 miles apart and so we see each other as often as we can and understand that we will be brought physically closer together when the time comes. I'm happy to be a part of her life and she's happy to be part of mine. We both live very fulfilling lives outside of our relationship so building a permanent bridge over that gap is going to take some time.

I hope you can find a fulfilling relationship. I hope you can find a way to wait for the right relationship with a guy who can be not only devoted to you, but also to God, and to his family as well. He's out there, and just because no one can tell you when it's going to happen is no reason to doubt that you'll be brought together eventually. Choose patience. Appreciate life. Find joy in what you have been given.

Curses, I'll start by asking you to change that name. I'm sorry you feel as such. From what you described, the only thing that is not going the way you would like is the fact that there isn't a man in your life. The rest sounds great. You have friends, a job, etc.

I read through everything posted and I don't think you are looking too hard. You didn't mention being on any dating services or going bar hopping every night. Please don't think I'm suggesting that. I'm not. I'm just pointing out that you are at a normal pace by looking around for a nice smile every so often.

I agree with the comments made about 'happily married'. I have been divorced twice. I married my first wife in my early 20s... WAY TOO YOUNG. It ended 7 years later because as we grew older, our paths changed. We loved each other but were no longer seeking the same things in life or in our relationship. We were separated for 2 years before the divorce. I got very lonely in that time and went out with my friends to clubs and such. I ended up bumping into a woman that was the exact opposite of my soon to be X wife. She was fast paced, high charged, aggressive individual and she happened to like me. As odd as this was for me, I went for it. Felt a bit uncomfortable but stayed with her (was afraid to turn her away) and eventually let her guilt me into getting married because I was being deployed with the Army. Well that marriage lasted less than a year. Once I was away I realized just how stressed out I was and how domineering she was being. This was clearly wrong for me. This is totally MY FAULT for not saying "no" earlier in the relationship and continuing the search. This speaks to the 'know what you want' response in someone's comment and not to be afraid to let go of a relationship because you don't think another will come along.

I am currently in my 3rd marriage (after a 5 year single period) and have been married for 8 years. We have been unhappy for somewhere around 3 years but I am very committed to my wife and will not cheat on her though I suffer through some pretty heavy depression because of our situation. We just recently talked about the severity of the underlying problems. I had been talking to her but she bottled up her feelings which was not good for her or our relationship. I suggested we got to a family counselor and have started going myself already. She will join me in the next few sessions. That is the commitment of marriage but it should also show you that all those friends on FB who appear to be happily married may not be. Surveys on this site show almost 60% of married users here are unhappily married but faithful. How happy do you think they are day to day if they can make that comment? The lack of affection from my wife hurt me so deeply that I started to day dream about crashing my car during the day, and dying in my sleep at night. I'm not saying it is all her fault by any means. She was unhappy too so I can't blame her for withdrawing.

You perceive your life from your oldest point so you say I'm already 27 years old like it's the end of the world. I'm 43 and can look back at age 27 and say "Holy cow was I naive at that age!" All things in their time. Trust me. You don't want to rush it.

You said God has a plan for all of us and that he will not give you anything you can not endure. I believe this in my heart as well. That said, you might want to reverse your opinion on your 'curse' and consider it a possible blessing that you don't yet understand. God may have been protecting you from getting into relationships that would have ended in misery. To keep the positive going regardless of our mere human understanding...

God bless you and watch over you as you seek out a meaningful relationship with a partner that will love and support you and be committed not only to his own life's goals but also to what you desire in yours.

msg me if you ever want to talk or get an honest, direct opinion from an older married man. Be Blessed.

get a pet dog, then you will at least find true love, people are like the lottery, you may if lucky win once or twice, life changes mostly for the worst, as only plastic loves will approach for fortune rather than hi think that maybeeart, if you truly feel you are cursed then reverse the curse by way of sending it back three fold three, i dont think you are cursed,i think you are paranoid, thats wha is chasing poss relationships away, or you have a very large collection of skeletons under your floorboards, a lot of your poss relationships seem to dissapear,hhhmmmmmmm i fear to think of where they are, a dog a rescue dog, walk it regular and you will meet other dog folk, good luck with your quest as i think you may need it,jam

I have exactly the same problem. I'm 29 and always been single. Most of my friends are in relationships, not necessarily married, but its still hard to be around. I have to listen to everyone at work talk about their boyfriends, and I'm older than most of them. I definitely now how hard it is. I have always felt "cursed" too, even though I don't actually believe in curses, it's hard to shake the feeling that some outside force in preventing me from finding someone. I wish I had suggestions for you, but I haven't figured out how to deal with this myself. Just thought you might like to know that your not the only one.

Cursed, schmurshed. You'll never really look at and apply yourself to your problems if you believe that a great, big bearded face in the clouds has it in for you. Live an earthly life. Figure out the things that make you happy right now, and do them. You're in the driver's seat.

wow...i know what you mean by cursed!!!! My story is pretty hectic and i feel the same,just gotta have faith xx

Hi! There was this New Member ("Gully99") that came around here yesterday and was looking around in this Group. I was Fanned and returned Fanning and became Circle Friends. Then I have noticed the person is gone. I have at this time am looking at something here of yours, that I haven't seen here before. Your Story is similar to mine invertenly = The other way around in genders. I do not know what became of this Member ("Gully99") and if they or EP found this person doing something wrong? Just makes me wonder with a bit of curiosity. What's worse is women got better chances of over coming this curse on this kind of thing then guys do, in the other way of things.

Im in the same situation (a guy), every opportunity ive had, ive messed up by being stupid.

The "curse" is no more than a lack of intelligence/awareness.


You cant leave it to chance, you have to work on yourself, really look to see what your heart is saying.

I hear many people talk about their hearts and the pain, but never do they try to listen to what their heart is saying(very useful skill, very rare), pain is an indicator of a problem, one must look to see what the heart is saying and then work to correct the problem.

Sometimes the solution is not immediate, but continuous work on the problem will eventually turn into the solution.