I'm So Ugly

As looks go, I am not attractive at all. That's why I never share my pic online, only in rare occasions. But, it's not a self-esteem issue, it's just a fact. I have a wonderful personality, I'm smart and highly spiritual. Also caring and understanding of most people. I'm told that I'm hilarious at times and I'm always fun. These are the things that "pretty people" don't have, or so the ones that I know of. Because they were born with their looks, most of them didn't have to develop a personality, they just show up and bring the pretty. Therefore, having a conversation with them is like having one with a rock. But this wouldn't bother me so much, for the fact that most guys will give the pretty girl a chance over me. It has happened, time and time again. And later I would catch the same guys who ditched me for pretty, sitting at a table in a restaurant with the girl, looking SO bored and miserable. This should make me feel a little better, but it doesn't... not by much. Well... as the song goes, "I'm so ugly, but that's okay. Cause so are you, we broke our mirrors."

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7 Responses Dec 13, 2007

Shadow u are not ugly. you may not look "nice" to certain people, not matching up to their standards or whatever. But u are not ugly. God made you and He made you pretty so STOP SAYING THAT RIGHT NOW :)<br />
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I'm more taken with your inner beauty NOT that there's anything at all wrong with how you look.

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Keep your chin up, my friend! I'm sure someone, somewhere will think you are the most beautiful person they know. Just keep your light shining by keeping your heart open - but protected! Use your head and don't let it be turned by the first person who shows you affection. Guard yourself from predators who would take advantage of someone who is sweet and kind. There are SO many sickos out there and you have to keep a level head.

The truth is that it is ALL about preferences. I've seen attractive girls w/ ugly guys and attractive guys w/ ugly girls. You just kinda scratch your head and say, "Ok, that's not an equal match!" Well, that is because SOME people (people w/ depth) will give a not-so-attractive person (physically speaking) a chance. They understand that the whole relationship thing is NOT all about looks. It IS about personalities matching, getting along, supporting and loving unconditionally. Also, it is only a matter of time until even the prettiest people get older and won't necessarily continue to maintain what the world considers "pretty." Bottom Line: Better think twice before you marry someone JUST because they are good looking. That is not a good foundation for a lasting relationship.

It really depends on your perception when it comes to looks and personality.

It can differ from person to person, but it's one of those "more often than not" type of situations. Not every ugly person has a good personality and not every pretty person has a bad personlity. It's just a majority are like that. At least that's what I've found to be true. Might be different for others.

Nah. I don't think its true that a great personality only exists to compensate for "not being attractive enough". Attractiveness and the appeal of one's personality differs from person to person.