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I Think I Am Ugly

Enough Is Enough!: a Message to the Ugly

By: SouthsideBalla
Written on March 9th, 2008
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53 responses
  • emmy1127

    Beautiful is God' eyes.

    Jan 18
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  • assyrianpride

    this is a beautiful story. i happy for u that ur life improved so much. this is similar to my story except that i never became depressed enough to be suicidal. but still i found that with the help of god u can see things differently and change ur life. god bless u bro. take care

    Jan 8
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  • blissfullyaware

    "You are the handicap you must face." I love this whole piece, but I never got over this line. I have struggled my whole teenage life with feeling ugly, feeling like I was somehow lesser then people, even blaming them. It has always been me, though, that felt this. I am my own handicap...people (even strangers!) tell me I am beautiful. I don't quite believe it, but I just love the authenticity and truth in your words because I was "the handicap you must face." Someday maybe I will face it..

    Oct 29, 2012
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  • IrishEyes84

    Hi! wow, a wise statement indeed...I never felt beautiful in my teen years and early 20s. At 28, I feel better I have grown into my looks! :) I will say this though as for attracting the opposite sex, men have it easier if they are ugly. They can still get attractive women. Its harder for women as men are very visual creatures and most go for looks and that is the truth. I have a friend who is single, and she is a plain looking and over weight lady, who has a wonderful personality. Her husband left her for someone more beautiful. I will say it IS easier if you're a man.!!

    Oct 8, 2012
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  • gnorm1989

    enough is enough

    Sep 5, 2012
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  • EmmaRna

    You are very wise. I believe any people who try to build depth of character must try to understand what it means to be unlikeable first. Depth of character is more beautiful than aesthetics because it must be earned and then brought into fruition

    Sep 5, 2012
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  • ahishimasu472

    Wow! This is really a great story :) I think that our society is so centered around outward appearances and if we are not "attractive" by media's standards than we are not worth anything and we will never go anywhere in life. This is so FALSE! And I admit I fell into this trap when I was younger. I never felt as pretty as the girls on the magazines and TV and felt I would never be worth anything to anyone because of it. There is so much more to people than the way they look and as I began to realize this I spent less time worrying about what I looked like and more about who I was deep down as a person. I wish I could get this message across to everyone out there that is insecure with themselves. There is beauty in everything if you are willing to look for it and discover it. Looks will always fade, but a genuine personality and caring spirit will endure forever. I am so sorry about what you went through and I am glad you found refuge in God to bring you back on your feet. Life's happiness really is about the way you perceive things to be, not how people make you feel. There will always be negativity in this world and pressure to be perfect, but if you take it with a grain of salt and focus on the simple things in life to make you happy then you will be better off! Life is what you make it and if people do not like you for who you are they are simply not worth your time :) Very inspirational!

    Aug 13, 2012
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  • junhsiv

    Enough is enough.

    Aug 12, 2012
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  • littlemamauk

    Enough is enough!

    Jul 29, 2012
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  • Anelle93

    thank you

    Apr 25, 2012
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  • Leena26

    You have helped a lot of people-even me.



    If there is one thing I may add for people to remember,"GOD DOESN'T MAKE SCRAP!!!" ei

    Jan 27, 2012
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  • 4hisluv

    i believe the judgmental and shallow ways of the black Americans is the reason why i don't like the way i look.since i came to america ,all I've been hearing from people specially black american is the world ugly .i don't understand why u people r so cruel to others.i believe black Americans r the big problems in this world

    Dec 9, 2011
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  • Akausal

    ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!

    Nov 4, 2011
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  • jessii777777

    men can be ugly and find love and happiness... Women who are ugly cannot. I have a masters degree, two strangely beautiful children and the biggest heart... I go to bed each night and wonder why i continue to live... My own daughter, who I have given my entire life to even calls me disgusting, tall, fat and hideous and pathetic. She says I should die because no man would ever want me... I want to live but not like this......................

    Sep 20, 2011
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  • Richelle143

    ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!

    Aug 24, 2011
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  • Jennifer136

    Other than saying Enough is Enough, all I can say is WOW!!! Very inspirational and it definitely spoke to me. Thank you for sharing your story.

    Jul 21, 2011
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  • sabaviqar1

    Thanks bro. Enough is enough.

    Jul 21, 2011
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  • openarmed

    How great it is that there is a site for people who feel ostracized by society and can get all their pain out so they can better deal with it. And how incredible that there is a solution.



    I feel ugly because I'm not drop-dead gorgeous and don't attract cute guys. This site has opened my mind and heart to what some individuals have to go through because of their appearance. I know with certainty that people make cruel comments because they don't feel good about themselves and think that if they bring someone else down they will bring themselves up. They are so wrong. They reap the results of how wrong they are when they lose the ability to love after repeatedly shutting down their hearts toward others. That is true "ugliness". They are the ones to be pitied. The next time someone makes such a comment, say something like this (in the spirit of love) - "Your cruel words make you the ugly one." You will be telling the truth.



    God bless you, know that you are loved beyond what any of us can imagine, you are far greater than you think you are, and the principles in the story above are true. See you in the Winners' Circle!

    Jun 30, 2011
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  • burnedheart911

    Enough is enough!!!

    Apr 27, 2011
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  • amhark

    enough is enough

    Apr 23, 2011
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  • amhark

    enough is enough

    Apr 23, 2011
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  • UnderneathThaStarz

    Love it. I read this book, too.. and although I'll admit I am not 100 percent in love with it, there are definitely some things I have taken away from it. We are much more in control of our lives than we think we are.

    Apr 3, 2011
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  • RealAnn

    I just wish there were more people thinking like you..It's the worst thing fighting

    with yourself and trying to find out some encourage to continue life..Espesailly

    when you think it's not even worth it.But you have to keep going at least that's what i do

    cause there's no other way.

    Mar 3, 2011
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  • desertedangel

    beautiful and inspiring story.

    enough is enough

    Jan 10, 2011
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  • HopefullyWilting

    Enough is enough...You are completely right. One of my life's belief is insecurity and the types of insecurity we all deal with. Some of us are fortunate to realize our insecurities and embrace them- some of us have insight. But there are still many of us who are afraid to face our insecurities. I find that these type of people tend to be the weak that prey on the strong. They are the lost that have no path. I agree with your thought process. The way you think does effect the way you act. There are many times when people attack me because they think I am ugly, or skinny, or stupid. I do get hurt by this but then I think...they are just lost. They attack me only to feel a temporary relief from the insecurities that they refuse to face within themselves. They see that I am stronger than them and it scares them. I am supposed to be afraid and weak like them. I am not supposed to be so comfortable with being me... And when I complete these thought I usually go about my way...I still have a life to live.

    Nov 27, 2010
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  • byebyelife

    Enough is Enough. Such a true statement. I certainly wished I had the hope that many of you have. I recently went on a camping adventure with some of my "friends". An experience I thought that would be very enjoyable turned out to reveal a lot of information and awaken the truth in me that I am very ugly and nobody wants to be around me. Imagine friends, friends leaving you in the middle of the desert? Some told me a story about a man who almost died in the desert, that he was out there for 5 days with no water and was on his death bed. All my "friends" hiked up these rocks and then disappeared. I called to them and no response. I kept calling to them.. and no response. They didn't tell me where to go, they just left. It took me about 30 minutes to figure out where I was and get my barrings. I tend to get lost easily and they all know that. I found my way back to the trail and waited for them for almost an hour to return.



    I recently posted a picture of me on hotornot.com and I got a 2 rating. So while many people may say that I have a delightful personality (which I believe I do) my appearance is not so friendly to the eyes.



    I thought I had good friends I don't. I see their look in photos of them taken with me. One of my friends who I thought was a dear friend looked away with a sad frown in one of her pictures with me. She took another photo with another new friend and she was smiling ear to ear.



    I recall when growing up there were NO photos of me in my mom's house. There were pictures of my brother and my sister and the grandchildren, but not one of me.



    I have been working out with a personal trainer (she is the personal friend) for 3 years now and I haven't lost much weight at all. I have gained much strength, but I am as fat as ever. I can't running for too long, as I get out of breath fast.



    I am 47 years old and STILL have acne and just recently lost a cap in the back of my mouth so now when i smile I look even more horrid.



    About 3 months ago I was let go from my job which I held for over 9 years.



    I am involved in 2 court cases.. one ending here real soon, Oct 25th. My sister and I are doing this one together. So I write to all of you.. as my last words. My voice is out in the Internet now. Sometimes harmful words, stares, being ignored, and being alone is just enough to make life not worth living. Some might want to just get rid of the pain.. I am not in pain. Life is simply not worth living anymore. Life is meant to be LIVED. I am not living it.. I am surviving it. On Oct 26th after our court case win I will end my life. Oh wow just typing that makes me feel so much better.. I will finally be free!

    Oct 11, 2010
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  • crazychickx

    ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! HELL YEA!

    Sep 24, 2010
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  • DeadOfDecember

    ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! Thank you, SouthsideBalla, you just healed a piece of my heart.

    Sep 19, 2010
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  • deangelobetts62

    enough is enough but sometimes I still get that feeling of sorrow. But it was worsen than it used to be, because I had suicidal thoughts too, and even tried it as well. Used to cry about it and everything. Feeling depress everyday like i shouldn't be living at all. I try to have a little confidence in me, but once I go to school I lose it. Looking at other ppl and there clear skin just give me low self esteem again. I still think I'm ugly now that's why I don't even try to talk to girls like that. Hel I don't even like looking at ppl when I talk to them. I know they be getting tired of looking these bumps on my face. I don't even like taking pictures or look at myself in the mirror.

    Sep 19, 2010
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  • amar2278

    hey i truly respect you and the way you look at the things.



    I also know you are right from your side.



    BUT



    even if i follow or change my thinking, i will NOT BECOME HANDSOME AND PRETTY.



    i will stay same ugly and ignorable.

    Sep 10, 2010
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