Hey You.

yes, you. stop being unhappy with yourself. you are perfect. stop wishing you looked like someone else or wishing people liked you as much as they like someone else. stop trying to get attention from those that hurt you. stop hating your body, your face, your personality, your quirks. love them. without those things you wouldnt be you. and why would you want to be anyone else? be confident with who you are. smile. it'll draw people in. if anyone hates on you becuase you are happy with yourself then you stick your middle finger in the air and say screw it. my happiness will not depend on others anymore. i'm happy because i love who i am. i love my flaws. i love my imperfections. they make me me. and 'me' is pretty amazing.

Source: Unkown
EbonyAndIvoryy EbonyAndIvoryy
18-21, F
15 Responses Nov 23, 2011

I like the part that states, "don't try to get attention from those that hurt you". ... yeah, that's me in a nutshell. I've been hurt by them, but yet still miss them, so it's hard to let go.. but need to.

I had a similar feeling to what your describing here a long time ago its really hard to let go from those that hurt you

<p>as was said, easy to say for someone who looks desirable already... you are physically pretty, lose that then lets see eh...</p>

this is so true

I remember reading in a book that went along the lines of, It is no wonder I didn't love myself, I never realized that everyone else is hiding their dark side and act like their life is perfect, when they were really crying in the inside. Almost like everyone has a mask. Remember the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Even if it was, you just need to water and take care of your grass. Which reminds me of something else I have read. Everyone is in some way discontent with themselves and their lives. But you know what? that is a good thing, because if we were content w/ ourselves we would have no reason to keep living, we would have done what we wanted to do and lived as we wanted. I believe that because we are discontent, we have a purpose, to do the best w/ what we got, and try to be our best selves!

I appreciate the compassion, but please don't suggest we wouldn't be ourselves without our flaws. When you've never had a boyfriend/girlfriend, it only makes you feel alone when people say "you're not ugly." Then why does no one have any romantic interest in me? I find ourselves asking. It increases that sense of loneliness when you realize that no one 'gets it.' I get it. I was miserable because I thought I was fat... turned out, I WAS fat. I fixed it. I lost about ninety pounds. Am I no longer myself? I got a girlfriend for the first time after I lost that bulk of weight. I saw the real me in her eyes. I still feel ugly from time to time, but that is psychological residue brought out by struggling to maintain my weight loss. Losing weight was very very very very very VERY difficult. Food is as addicting as herion, you know. I had to reach into the very depths of my will power to follow my diet. The first time I ran a mile I puked and passed out. It was worth it, every mile I ran, every bit of chocolate I passed up. I'd do it all over again. It's self-regulation. How bad do you want it? What is it's not a weight problem? While the potential for abuse is very real, cosmetic surgury can be right in some cases. Consult a psychologist first before consulting a surgeon, your case may be very valid (or you might have some body dismorphic disorder). How will you get the money? The same strength that let me lose weight, self-regulation. Ambitiously seek out the work, then live on the absolute minimum and put it away little by little. God made you beautiful by design, and he's given you the tools to fix your flaws. Refuse to be anything but who you know you are. Refuse to be anything but beautiful.

Well technically no one is flawless becuase nothing is perfect, they are only seen in the eyes of other people because everyones views are different.

I think thats a real credit to you loosing the weight like that.

And I can relate to not having a partner it does make me feel somewhat unattractive. It really does hike up that loneliness.

"you wouldnt be you" ... well alot of people that write in here dont wanna be themselves. they think they're ugly/fat etc. so..

It took me a while wo realise i was unique so my aim to share that knowledge with others. Yes there are some who want what someone else has got, in the sense that they dont want to be themeselves. However i think it makes who you are having these quailties.

Easy for a beauty queen (IF, of course, that is you in the pic) to say...

I hate it whe people say this beauty is in the eye of yourself. Thanks for saying im beautiful but its not easy for me to say this I have been struggling with it for a long time, and found this sotry to help me and others who dont feel adequate, usually by means set out by the media and such forth.

Take care

easy for you to say..

You think so?

easy for you to say..

You made me feel pretty again :)

Wooo!! *happy dance*

great post:):)....."be the reason behind ur own smile...that way no one else can take it away"....words i follow when i start to feel down over something someone has said or done...

I will keep this in mind too..

Easy enough to counter. If I was not me then the world would be a better place. My mom would have a career and friends. My sisters would be closer. I would not be wasting the time of others in general. Because I am ugly I am a waste of perfectly good resources that could be used on another human being who is worth while.

Hi ebonyandlvory great advise you wrote up theres no such thing as ugly people only ugly minds.. thanks for posting :)

Nice post, thanks for sharing! <br />
It's very good advice, especially for younger people, with low self-esteem. <br />
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"Be yourself, everyone else is already taken!" By unkown

May I say thats an awesome quote? :D

Indeed you may =) I like it alot as well.. No idea who said it though... It might be possible to find out I guess :)

wonderful words to live by :) Unfortunately, sometimes it's easier said than done. Best wishes sweetie.

Yes i understand, but i think all the little things add up.

Take care hun