On Being "ugly"
You know what gets me are the people who say crap like "Oh, you'll find someone someday." Its always people who have never had this problem. You know, I'm not stupid, I realise I'm not a Brad Pitt, or Tyrese or some other quote unquote hot studly guy. But I'm not even desiring the types of women they could get. It would be one thing if I was upset that "beautiful" women weren't giving me the time of day, but MY STANDARDS AREN'T HIGH! They truthfully aren't. I seriously don't mean this to sound shallow, but I've seen women who I wasn't even attracted to in the least act stuck up and treat me with disdain. I know that's their own insecurity itself rising up so I'm not mad at them. I mean I'm 35, and have really only had two real girlfriends, and when I look in the mirror I don't think I'm ugly, I realise I'm not a hottie, but I DON'T GIVE A RAT'S *** WHAT ANYONE ELSE THINKS, I KNOW I'M NOT UGLY! Yet ultimately its not what I think, but what the other person I'm hoping is interested in me thinks. And you know, I'm really a great guy, very outgoing, smart, funny, respectful, I don't lie or cheat, but apparently I'm too unattractive for that to matter. So I maintain a profile on these online dating sites clinging to the fairy tale-esque hope that there will be a girl someday who falls in love with the real me and can look past this hideous person that apparently everyone else but me sees. But we're not in a movie there are no fairy god mothers or genies to grant wishes. Because I'm calling BS on all those who would say, there are people who look past that. That is a out and out LIE! No one not even those who've posted here before on this topic have the ability to ignore the lack of physical attraction to another no matter how nice, thoughtful, sweet, caring, etc. THOSE THINGS WILL NEVER TRUMP PHYSICAL ATTRACTION...EVER!