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I put my photo on a site where people rate you 'hot or not'. 1 is ugly and 10 is hot, I got a score of 3...I knew I was ugly already but my mum said I wasn't that it was just all in my head. So I put my pic on the site and got a big fat 3 as an average score, some people even gave me a 1. Now this pic was taken on my 18th birthday where I had tried to dress nice and put make up on and obviously I am ugly so just imagine what I'm like without make up and nice clothes which is just everyday of my life. I have pretty much given up hope of ever having a boyfriend, I never have and probably never will. It just contributes to my depression and the meds don't help. I long for someone to just hold me and tell me they love me, but I think it's impossible to love someone as ugly as me.
thesoundofsilence thesoundofsilence
18-21, F
10 Responses Jul 30, 2007

The same thing happened to me. I put my pic up on rating site and got a 3, many 1s, nothing over a 4. That is why I will never put my picture on this site or any other sites.

if you tell yourself that you are ugly, you will be ugly. if you tell yourself that you are hot, you will be hot. people are attracted not only by looks but by a person's behavior as well! yes, if your looks aren't the best right now it can be hard to spark that initial interest from everyone you meet, but that just means you have to be that much more confident in your actions. and, over time, once you start to think positively, your looks will improve since you will look for ways to improve them instead of putting yourself down all the time.

look, the people who gave you a low rating probably thought that they were being smart ***** and taking you down a peg. Do you care what people like that think about you?These web sites are not reliable for feedback about yourself - whether it's your looks, your personality or your brains. Try not to upset yourself over it.We all have hang ups about our looks and one day you'll meet someone who thinks that you are utterly beautiful, I'm sure.

Love has nothing to do about this: You love someone because of who they are; so try to be positive and optimistic, and soon you'll find a boyfriend...<br />
Good luck; stay strong. And you ARE beautiful :)

'Hot or not' sites are hardly a good place to get an idea whether or not someone will find you attractive. What's more, most people look kinda odd when they're not being their natural, unmade-up selves. :g BESIDES all that, the fact that you had an average of three and not of one meant that you had to get higher scores too - that's the way that averages work! Maybe you should be focusing on the high scores, not the low ones. :g After all, it only takes one person to think that you're pretty to *them* :)

I wouldn't trust what people say about you from a picture. Many people love to be judgemental of others because they are so insecure in themselves. I'm 31 and have only had one girlfriend since I was 18. Depression is the major reason why. I have been so unhappy and had such low self-esteem that no woman has wanted me. I'm trying to get better though and I'm less depressed than I've been at other points in my life. I bet if you work on you and your depression that you might see the beauty in yourself that you cannot see now. It is there it's just difficult to see through the cloud of low self-esteem. I wish you the best of luck and try to take care of yourself, don't worry about those others out there until you take care of you.

Geez, why does everything I type come up twice? Am I doing something wrong? By saying that you are beautiful, I meant inside and outside, I meant something different than what society usually portrays.<br />
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Licorice

Beauty is only skin deep......remember that.... not many people are beautiful - or pretty... but it's what is in your heart that counts my friend... I would love to see this picture... if you would allow me to...

I think you are BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<br />
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Licorice

I think you are BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<br />
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Licorice