I Think I Am Ugly

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By: TomasBombadilio

Written on August 3rd, 2009

I am not your garden variety of ugly, and I suppose this could prove it:

I went out with some of my highschool friends last saturday, we were going to a club to meet up with a bunch of girls (I would be the guy who deals with drunk people, drives home, and makes girl talk with whomever girl is uninterested). All was well, we met up about a block away from the club, and I was already starting my girl talk routine with one of the girls. So we get up to the club, and get our money ready to pay for the cover. They were chargin about ten bucks for it.

My friends started going inside, and I was the last one, right behind the girl with the recent breakup. She went inside but as soon as I handed my ID and money to the bouncer, he told me I was 20 dollars short. I asked him about my friends and how they got in for ten, but he told me the cover was thirty dollars, for me. The guy is smiling while he says this, but since I didn't want to get left behind, and I had the money, I tried to give him the extra twenty. I tried, but failed, because he gave me back my money and told me that I would be better off finding another club. He was even nice enough to suggest another one right up the street, he said the place just wasn't for people like me. Now, he wasn't violent or anything like that, but he told me these things in a condescendent but nice tone. It was almost as if I was disabled and he didn't want to break the PC barrier.

I understand why he did what he did. The guy probably had orders to let in only a certain kind of people according to looks and such, and I assume that would be a very effective strategy to establish a club as a "hot" location. It happened to me in highschool too, at parties to which "everyone" was supposed to be invited. It was particularly problematic when I got invited to parties by the parents, because I had helped out their son/daughter with something from school because my parents forced me to go, hand over some present, and leave.

This sort of thing happens often. When I am at the mall and I go into a particularily expensive store the salespeople look at me as if Iwere lost. Like a homeless guy in an Armani store. It's mostly disbelief, that I would dare to go into a certain shop, or try to get into a certain place.

If there are any comments to this story they'll probably include disbelief as well. You'll probably won't believe me, and say that I must be either exaggerating or paranoid, but I assure you, most of the world really is this shallow.

By: TomasBombadilio

Age: 18-21 , Male

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8 responses

livinginfaith

I realize that this story is from years ago but I am new to the site and just wanted to comment on your story. I personally cannot believe that people could be so cruel and act so horribly! I am so sorry you had to experience that, no one should be treated that way. It's stories like this, experiences like yours, that diminish, little by little, my hope in humanity and basic decency of people...but luckily for me, I personally know some of the greatest and kindest people I will ever meet and they brighten that dimmed light and they help maintain my hope and belief in good, decent and kind people. So please know, that they are out there...unfortunately, however, it appears that amongst them are a few horrible and shallow people. But I hope that you at least have people in your life personally, that treat you as you should be treated, as you deserve to be treated. Surround yourself with those people, the ones that matter, the ones that love you and see you for who you truly are. I am so sad to hear that people can be so cruel and I am so, so sorry you had to endure such cruelty. But merely from your post alone, you seem like a strong and optimistic person, keep that up and I genuinely believe you will find people worthy of you!

Jul 3, 2012
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repro1

I don't **** with clubs because they're on that bullshit. They'll even let in an "ugly" woman for less than what you pay but shut you out. **** 'em. Let the "beautiful people" have their cliques and nightclubs.

Jan 3, 2011
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McGonagall

I understand because I've had similar experiences!

Sep 5, 2009
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Ashley868

I believe you. This stuff has happened to me too. Usually when I talk about it on the internet, people suggest that it's probably in my head. Another one told me I probably need therapy since I think I am ugly. I've been getting made fun of for over ten years for the way I look. It's kind of hard for me not think that, and therapy won't help. I could sit there telling the person how I feel, and she could try to help me feel better about myself, but then I'll get made fun of again. I almost had coffee spilt all over me when this teenager practically threw it across the counter at me. And I know it wasn't because he was a kid, as some people have said to me. I was in a line up, and he and the girl working were polite to everyone else. As soon as I came up, they were smirking. The girl even whispered "there's one for you" (didn't seem to realize I was too old anyways... they were probably 16/17 and I'll be 23 soon) so I know it was just because he was being a jerk.

I've also been called 'sir' so I think I must look like a guy.

Aug 13, 2009
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- barbaramacmillansce
  the people that gave you advice and said it's all in your head, probably told others that they are ugly. i have absolutely no problem believing any of the stories on here. i've seen the world. i know all your stories are more than one hundred percent true. i'm amazed that i find so many of you on here, because all i see in the world are the ****'s that you are talking about. Thank God for the internet, indeed. I sum my feelings about myself and the world in a video, under the search criteria 'fingernotonpageoropenbookquestionmark'. the video with the word 'depression' beside it, is the one.
  
  Apr 20, 2012
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lifedreamer

i believe you! most people are absolute c***s!! i am an unusual looking girl. up until about six months ago i was plagued by thoughts about how ugly i was and how everybody was disgusted every time they look at me - this stems from an incident when i was 13 and a 'grown up' stranger on the street told me not to look at him because i was ''the ugliest ******* ***** i've ever seen in my life!!'' and from that day on for nearly 13 more years i thought about it every day. and i became paranoid... i thought people were laughing at how ugly i was i was pretty sure i heard my family laughing about how ugly i was - it has taking me a huge amount of time to realise i have to chose not to give a **** what other people think because most of them are retards who don't think for themselves and who measure everyone (including themselves) on the accepted perception of beauty. i used to (so long ago! three months ago i was planning my whole life around plastic surgery plans...) accept their oppinions as fact and when i looked in the mirror i sometimes saw a monster, sometimes just an unnacceptably large nose and goggley eyes and lopsided drooping mouth. anyway, i'm rambling, my point is **** THEM! they have sad lives indeed and should be pitied if they have so little depth as to only be able to find beauty in things they have learned to find beautiful. it's probable that most of the things they look at and subconciously evaluate they find ugly. think what an empty boring life that would be.

my point? i can't remember... the bouncers on the club door, the owners of the club who employed those bouncers with instructions to only let in the 'beautiful', the industry they are competing in which caused them to make such rules, the media which informed those decisions which has built the stereotype of beauty over the last 60 ish years, all of the people involved along the way - **** THEM ALL! THEY ARE DRONES, THEY DO NOT THINK FOR THEMSELVES THEY ARE NOT EVEN TRULY ALIVE!! they just accept what they are given they go along with the accepted notion because they are weak minded. WHY would we want the approval of such limited people?

i am beautiful because i am unique. there has never been anyone with my life experiences, ideas, emotions, dreams, love....

life is beautiful

everything is beautiful

say it till you believe it

and the key??.......self belief and confidence (or the apperance of it...)

if you need to get some pretend you are an actor/actress and you are playing someone in this film who is unusual looking but charasmatic and loveable and quietly confident and comfortable with themself

act yourself happy

sorry i ranted a bit!!

xxxxxxx

Aug 11, 2009
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ayankee

That's just plain ignorant what that guy did.I don't care who a person is or what they look like,that is unacceptable behavior.If that's the way people are treated there then you didn't need to be there anyway.Forget people like that.What matters is how you feel about yourself.

Aug 4, 2009
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Socklord

Me too. But I'm cool, and people recognize that. I run broke and ugly. Maybe your cool is the problem.

Aug 3, 2009
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