I'm Not Sure Why It Bothers Me So Much.I know a handful of people who will always come to me for advice if they're in a tough situation. I try and give them my frankest advice after racking my brains, I don't always tell them what they want to hear - but I pride myself on being honest with them.
For instance I have a friend who is 20, and she is currently in a relationship with a guy who is 36 and going through a divorce as her first serious relationship. I told her that I thought he was going to mess her around, and to be careful and be sure about what she is getting herself into - and then she took off with him for a couple of days out of the city - I actually worried that I wasn't going to see her again.
We're only young at the end of the day, and I just can't understand why she's gotten herself into a relationship with so much baggage when she is the most naive person I know.
I know I can't control her life, and that her mistakes are hers to make, and that I'm only a sounding board at the end of the day - but just really annoyed me that I poured my heart out to her, she agreed - and then completely ignored me...I just feel so used.
And it also bothers me because she's got it so romanticised in her head, but at the same time knows that it's not going to end well - and that all I can do is stand back, watch it happen, and then try to comfort her when it all goes wrong...
ClosedBook 18-21, F 75 Responses 22 Jun 6, 2010