I'm writing this story because my wife and I have really grown separate from each other. We've known each other 14 years and have been married for 10 of them. We've had the big talks and opened up big issues - well, issues we've always had.
To describe them all here would take awhile and although they are important, I dont want to get sidetracked on the real reason Im writing. One of the issues is sex - she really wants it and I am not that motivated. Truth is - she doesnt turn me on. I've tried telling her how to do things and how to please me but she won't listen or take suggestions. I know I satisfy her through a variety of ways and she always climaxes at least 2 times. As of late - I dont. I try with her and try and I just dont. Its not good. Its terrible. She rails into me about how I dont want to etc and I just acknowledge I've heard her. I dont know what to say or if I should say anything directly to her about it. We've been in a sexless marriage for a few years...several actually. What I need advice on - what do I tell her if anything? I feel discretion is the better part of valor and dont want to hurt her feelings. Among all the other issues - Im tired of the bad sex! I want better - don't I deserve it? Or is that too selfish. Please tell me what has happened to you and how you dealt with it. :(