Insight Please

I need some outside insight. I believe that advice is something we ask for when we know the answer but wish we didn't. Anyways....

I have been married just over a decade and we have 3 kids. Five years into our marriage, I was with a woman, two years later, another, and yeah. They were both "hit it and quit it" events. Now, before Halloween, I met a woman online, we went out once, and term ourselves as FWB. She knows of my husband. I do not plan to leave my husband, nor does she want me to, and she has a boyfriend, too.

I like her and do not want to stop talking to her yet it would be difficult to have her as a friend when we have been physical but have not slept together yet. Hubs would prefer I not talk to her at all. Now, we are doing a lot of talking, almost daily, and plan on getting together again. It is just a matter of time.

I honestly feel everything, on both sides of the decision, all at once. Yes I am married and that will remain yet I want to be with her too and it is not as though I am hiding it. Although he would prefer no contact so that may be the answer?

Thoughts? She is simply amazing. He is a good husband. Both provide something different for me and I feel more complete with both in my life. I don't know.

Thanks!
Momma32007 Momma32007
31-35, F
2 Responses Dec 2, 2012

It's difficult for some people to be open in their relationships. It comes to others easily. Men fear that their partners are going to be sexually attracted to someone else and women worry their partners will fall in love with someone else. I've gotten to the point that I don't worry. I find that not letting a partner be themselves leads to insecurity in a relationship. Trust is a wonderful thing!!

Why doesn't he want you to see her? Maybe he should get to know her better? If they were up for it, do a *********. Maybe that will settle his mind! I hope you figure it out tho, sounds like you got a great thing going :o)