Would He Love Me More?

I am too fat.  There is not thinking about it.  I am overweight and I hate it!  I try to walk and be active every day, eat pretty healthy but I am still fat.  I have always been overweight.  My husband says he loves me just the way I am but I wonder if he would love me more or find me more attractive if I was smaller?
beaglewoman beaglewoman
26-30, F
4 Responses Dec 3, 2007

hi id like to help u when will u be online?

My husband and I talked last night - he actually opened up after I sat down in bawled. He says he doesn't think I am fat and he loves me just the way I am. He says he just feels different since we are married. Something about you can treat and do things with a girlfriend that you can't do with a wife (I don't know why, I am the same person just married to him now). He said he thinks that's why he tried so many different things with me before we were married but now we are married and he doesn't want to disrespect me. He also is sometimes afraid to talk to me because he doesn't want to hurt me and he knows I get hurt easily. He really is a wonderful guy and i think most of our problems are my fault. I guess I am scared of him falling out of love with me. Plus, here lately, I have been down and depressed so I haven't felt like "getting ready" with all the make-up and girlie junk.<br />
Thank you all for your comments! I really appreciate them! What other ways are there to lose weight besides walking and eating better? I tried diet pills they didn't work and I can not afford surgery.

Only you can decide what you want to be. If he says it, and sticks to his guns, then he means it. Not all guys care about what you weigh. I myself don't care. If you are a good person, then there's no reason why you can't be loved. I sometimes struggle to learn that, even though I'm in a slightly different position than you. People who are in love, love you whether you are skinny, fat, or in between. He seems to.

I doubt he would love you more, or even necessarily you more attractive just because you were smaller.<br />
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However, if having less fat meant *you* felt better and more attractive, then he might well react to that.<br />
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If you're really committed to becoming a leaner version of yourself, you will need to change your approach, I think. If what you are doing now is not yielding you the results you want, then you need to find techniques that do, and get the information required to make that change. :)