No More

I'm just now attempting to make a move on getting my son out of this mandatory Sunday church thing. My mother is very adamant about his attendance, and takes him every Saturday night to stay the night with her and attend church.

I haven't been an atheist that long, only about 5 months so far. At first I wanted to pull him out immediately, but I knew that this could be a delicate situation and didn't really know how to go about it, so I've continued letting him go.

His father has no issue with my atheism at all, so that's a plus. The bigger plus is that my boyfriend and I share the same views. Other than that, and an aunt and uncle who have pretty much been excluded from the family, I'm stuck in a world of believers.

They do not know about me yet, although I did have a pretty combative conversation with my mom about evolution. I could tell she didn't know anything about it, and after her yelling me down and continuing to be defiant instead of communicative, I had to resort to showing her a few videos. After seeing some things she said, "well, maybe it did happen and god gave us his knowledge after the process with us completed." I know she'll never change, and I don't want to change her. I just wanted her to be more informed instead of writing something off because someone else told her to.

I've had many conversations with my son, and little by little, I show him things and look for ways to communicate on his level. I don't push him, but I do push him to be inquisitive and think for himself. I told him he can say grace if he wants, but around me he doesn't have to if he chooses not to. There are times that he doesn't say grace, but he asked if he could one time, I said do you want to? He said yes, to which I responded "then of course you can."

When I go to work, my aunt watches him. Mainly with her is when I started seeing problems. She's always being fundamental with him, as if just watching him and being a fun aunt isn't enough. She's also fundamental with him about politics, the child isn't even 6 years old yet and she's teaching him not to like Obama. ?!?!?!?! He's too young to know about politics. It doesn't matter what my views of Obama are, the point is he shouldn't have any of those views yet. She has no business trying to conservatise (I know that isn't a word) my son. My mother and I both, already got onto her about that a year ago, so now she's just being manipulative and sneaky.

Another factor is my mother. She has tried to get me to tell her my income so that she can pay my tithes to the church.. um no thanks??? Also, around the time hurricane ike hit, I moved to la for 4 months, to which she cried. I thought she was crying because she would miss us, but no, she was crying because, "how will he get to church every Sunday?"

I know I have my work cut out for me. This is only week two that my son will not be attending church due to my interception. I'm going to begin getting berrated because of this and the truth will finally come out.

The final blow was this: My son and I were discussing things that aren't real. I said god and angels aren't real just to see what his response would be, and he didn't object. Then I said the devil wasn't real, and he objected rather vocally to that, saying, "yes he is and he's very scary." It dawned on me that my son believed in the reality of Satan more than God, thus giving him reason to believe in and love god.

No more. He's too young for all of the confusion and I'm not losing him to something that I have the ultimate responsibility for. Maybe when he's 10 and can think more independently, he can go. This is an indoctrination that is successful on kids because of an underlying fear factor. If your reason for believing in something is that of an evil being who will torture you if you don't, then how happy and fulfilled are you? I don't bully people into being my friend, and neither should god.
lynlyn85 lynlyn85
26-30, F
1 Response May 12, 2012

Really? Can you take a moment and explain what’s so abusive about these?

“YOU heard that it was said, ‘You must love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ However, I say to YOU: Continue to love YOUR enemies and to pray for those persecuting YOU; that YOU may prove yourselves sons of YOUR Father who is in the heavens, since he makes his sun rise upon wicked people and good and makes it rain upon righteous people and unrighteous. For if YOU love those loving YOU, what reward do YOU have? (Matthew 5:43-46)

"But now really put them all away from YOU, wrath, anger, badness, abusive speech, and obscene talk out of YOUR mouth. Do not be lying to one another. Accordingly, [] clothe yourselves with the tender affections of compassion, kindness, lowliness of mind, mildness, and long-suffering. Continue putting up with one another and forgiving one another freely if anyone has a cause for complaint against another. Even as Jehovah freely forgave YOU, so do YOU also. But, besides all these things, [clothe yourselves with] love, for it is a perfect bond of union." - Colossians 3:8,9, 12-14.