My wife has been seeing another man. It may not be sexual this is what she says. But at the very least it is emotional But I say physical she helped him move(but was actually staying in a hotel in a different city) Internet searches show that. But the hurt, the wonder, the betrayal, the abandonment, the depression, the what did I do to cause this, all the questions and bad feelings. I can say with certainty that it is not only wrong it is one one the single hardest experiences that a spouse can go through. I am ready over the last month to forgive and forget after a good conversation about it. But make no mistake committing adultery is wrong on every level.