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Never underestimate the physical, emotional  and mental pain of loneliness.It kills people.The elderly give up  slowly but surely. They've  lost their partners,sit in homes, wait for a visitor till that hope has  gone to the wayside as well.
I have a soft spot in my heart for lonely people of any age. It's like, every muscle is sore, every step is forced on a terrible day. Life seems to hurt and nothing helps. I can only hope we don't have this depressing lifestyle. Be there a bit for those who do. Not just at Christmas, no no..  but all year. I've been in that situation and out of it.     Loneliness is a heart breaker.
wiseowl wiseowl 61-65, F 19 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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Christmas is the loneliest time of the year for lonely people when the lack of family is most acutely felt as we are bombarded with adds of happy families on TV and we can certainly see them in shopping malls getting what is needed for the festivities,at least in some countries people do open their doors at Christmas,in the country where I live it seems to be restricted to family and close friends only,it certainly would be a faux pas if you were to knock on someone's door at Christmas.Yes, loneliness can kill slowly but surely,could not agree more!

Everything you said is so exact and sensitive. Thank you.Made me stop to read your post twice.

Thank you downspiral..I could feel you emotions..well said .

You've expressed my feelings so well.

Man Oh man Robert.You're gonna love my Christmas cookies.That's a promise! Good eats my friend, good cookin.

I will be right there beside you my friend in spirit, I want to get a good wiff of the fresh baked cookie's too. : ) My best to you my dear friend.

Thanks Babs..I'll be here with a smile and some jingle bells ta boot. I'll bring the cookies to the party.

I like your post Shep..those lyrics say it all.

I think even a young person who has people all around can feel lonely. One has to work at not feeling lonely. Giving to others is one of the best ways to help with your own loneliness.<br />
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Old people have a much harder time fighting loneliness. They are isolated and captive in their bleak existence. I've always had a passion for the elderly because of this. No one said it better than John Prine in his song "Hello in There":<br />
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You know, old trees just grow stronger,<br />
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And rivers grow wilder every day,<br />
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But old people just grow lonesome,<br />
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Waiting for someone to say,<br />
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"Hello in there".

should be Oak trees just grow older! Thanks Owlie!

Good point sciguy18 and TL..solitude and loneliness aren't the same at all. I like solitude .No person wants to be forgotten or assumed they're 'ok'.Home alone but ok. Not good enough. I assumed the same thing about my parents when I was a young woman. We may have to grow into being more thoughtful.Everyone is different. Last winter an elderly man(92) was found dead, frozen in his home.His heat turned off because he couldn't get out to pay the bill. I wondered why he didn't call the utility Co. or why this or that.He was just too old to take care of himself. .Why didn't the next door neighbor ever go over to see if he needed groceries? I would have. It was after one of the blizzards.That's tragic.

You're so right wisey. I've often wondered just how lonely I would be without my husband who gave me my children. For my children who gave me my grandchildren. How sad and lonely I would be without them. Happy that you got out of your lonliness...:-)

So true Destry.We all take much for granted.Hearing about those who have NOTHING or so alone they want to die . All ages suffer, despaired, needing everything ..including human contact. Makes me snap out of myself and give something back. Everything given matters.I will try to do better instead of thinking of just me..yea!

I can relate - both personally and ba<x>sed on my observations. Solitude is one thing, but loneliness is completely different.<br />
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I agree about the elderly. I've seen it myself while visiting a nursing home. These poor people with no one to visit them. Heartbreaking.<br />
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Reminds me of that song by America - Lonely People.

I'll be here on Christmas day and keep ya company.Actually, EP is fairly busy on Holidays.. we get out the food and munch .It'll be OK.Lots of people stay home alone but a friendly group, movies and junk food makes it better.

I'm feeling very lonely right now because I need someone to talk to right now but there is no one that i turn to. Normally I don't think about lonely often because I'm just trying to keep myself busy so that i can temporarily forget about it. However, I hate it when Christmas, or birthday or any special events come because that's when I have to really accept the fact that i am alone.

I know that feeling. I felt this way mentally and physically after I divorced my husband and sometimes I still feel this way. The world just seemed that much easier when someone was around wanting to know how my day was. Since then, I have had to do different things to keep my spirits up. I may not have romantic love but I know I am loved by family and friends and that helps to feel some of my lonely void. I have had one romantic relationship since I divorced my husband and it was at a time I was least expecting to meet someone. I had finally become comfortable and happy with my single life, I was being social and it didn't bother me to be around other couples while I was single. Then I met him. I think my point is that being single can be depressing especially if you have been used to having someone else in your life. But you can also look at it as a challenge and make something good out of it. Love yourself and it just may attract others into your life.

Amen to that

yeah!you're so right!It is also one reason I joined EP,to vent out my feelings.But what is the use of venting out if there is no one to listen to what I say?We ALL NEED LOVE AND AFFECTION to feel good about ourselves and make our life worthwhile and I BELIEVE that is the UNSEEN BOND that connects all the people in the world irrespective of what language you speak,which race you belong to and which country you live in. So imo you'll always find people who can connect to you it's just a matter of time.:)

Thank you Robert..as you said in a previous story ..a phone call can make a lonely person feel wanted and at least considered.Sad isn't it?

Well said Miss Owlie. My heart goes out to those forgotton one's. My Best.