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What Happened To All The Real Men ??

I can't believe sometimes when I see the younger generation these days and the lack of respect they have for each other, the elderly and the opposite sex.
What happened to the words, PLEASE...or THANK YOU?
When did saying I'M SORRY lose it's meaning, it's now just a politically correct thing to say, no meaning, no feeling.

And when did the young men of today lose their ability to hold the door for a woman, no matter the age.
Open her car door first, pull out her chair, help her with her coat......need I go on?

Making sure she is satisfied romantically as well as sexually.
Flowers for no reason, a home cooked meal by candlelight, cuddling on the couch, giving her a massage......
And finally, not just using her to get your own self off and forgetting about her wants and needs in the bedroom. All of us need to take a step back and remember to say and do these very simple things for the people we care about.
Try it next time and see the reaction you get....maybe it will catch on.
harleylover1970 harleylover1970 41-45, M 11 Responses Nov 14, 2011

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I have to agree with the assertion that parents are seeming unwilling or unable to lead by example. My wife was a single mother until we got married when her son was 12. When I first met him, I was quite impressed by his sense of responsibility to politeness and the simplicity of the golden rule and I was surprised to find that all of his close friends were of the same mind-set! Over time, I met most of their parents and found that they too were thoughtful, caring people who taught their kids by example.<br />
My step-son and his friends are now in their late 20's and even though they're in the target demographic, not one of them is a fan of the "me first" reality shows like "Survivor" and "Last Man Standing". They're also dismayed that it seems that (especially in the political realm) if you're willing to compromise in any fashion, you're seen as being weak.<br />
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Don't abandon hope - we still have some younger people who are happy to put others first.

Manners are lacking, but I wouldn't say its confined to todays young people. They follow the example of the adults in their life, both at home and in the media. The bright side, is many of them do seem to grow out of it. Perhaps finding their attitude isn't getting them what they want in life, teaches them in a way their parents couldn't.<br />
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I certainly hope chivarly isn't dead :) The problem is a great many women seem to take offense at having the car door opened for them, their chair pulled out. That it lessens their independance or such. I've always wondered if thats one of the reasons I see less men do it now.

It is a very sad fact that respect, good manners and chivalry are lacking in the young of today. It is fast becoming a very selfish and materialistic society that we must live in. I think that traditional family life has changed dramatically in recent years with parents working longer and longer hours in order to make ends meet, somewhere along the way the teaching of and passing down of these all important morals and values has been lost.

I am around middle school aged children all day long. They range in age from 10 to 14. I'd say the majority of them are 11 to 13. I am amazed daily at how rude the boys are. Manners and respect for women are obviously not being taught at home. I've seen the same disrespect in their fathers at PTC Meetings, individual conferences, etc. Sad.<br />
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I'm considering asking you to marry me by the way.

You have my respect. I would be on the other side of my profession if I had to spend a minute in today's classrooms.

Btw....we all better hope HL1970 is into polygomy at the rate all of our proposals are fast headed his way! ;-)

Thank you, DFM. It's not always an easy profession but it's rewarding. It might be worth being the wife of a polygomist if he treats us all like that :-)...I'm thinking he's probably not into polygomy though..he has too much respect for women! Thank you HL1970..I hope you influence guys who read your stuff!

My dad worked for a shopping center in maintenance and my mom worked for a company that had office space in the complex. The shopping center was only two blocks from our house and my dad would meet my mom, bring her flowers from the florist's shop and they would walk home hand-in-hand. This is after40 years of marriage.These concepts were drilled into my head as we were growing up. We never acted up in public as I see young children doing now. My father only had to give you that"vulture" look-you know the one I mean? That was enough. I think this time out crap is jjust that-crap! I don't say put welts on a kid, but a smack on the bottom gets the point across. If kids know nothing much happens except for an interuption of their schedule, they will keep testing you. One day-Time out doesn't work anymore. I think the one who thought that up was a brat who didn;t like getting hit as a kid.

As a product of a STILL going strong 60+ marriage, I have NEVER heard my father raise his voice to my mother. They hold hands everywhere they go, sit next to each other constantly and genuienely show respect to one another. I watched my father literally pick my brother up by his neck and pin him to a way one day because he told my mother "No" in a tone my father deemed unacceptable. My brother was 23!!!To say we "respect" our parents is an understatement. My daughter has told me "No" ONCE. At 15 now, I guarantee she will never say it to me again. CPS? Hell I will DIAL the phone as I "discipline" her. I will not be responsible to producing an ill-manner, spolied heathen I see all around. PARENTS need to care enough to do just that...parent.*looks around, slowly steps down off the oh-so-high soapbox.....then trips*

You are so right! I hate when you go to a bar. Your drink is in front of your chair. You jacket is on the chair. You walk away, and someone is sitting in your chair! Does it not register in their pea brains-that someone is sitting there? Kids bump into you and don't say excuse me. When I hold the door for someone and they don't say thank you-I give them a very loud- You're welcome! I really just want to smash the door in their faces! DFM13-you are right too. It IS trhe parents. Mine taught me manners and respect. If I see a woman standing, I offer my chair to her, I say please and thank you, yes si, no maam. The ME First generation raised these brats and now they have spaws of satan themselves. They are too busy caring about what THEY nned and what THEY want and don't have any care for anyone else.It is so sad.

I had MANNERS embedded in my head from the moment I could speak and walk. My PARENTS sent us to church, private school, etiquette school and encourage all of our military enlistments. All of which guarnateed well mannered productive memebers of society. Not saying private or etiquette schools are required, just illustrating the fact that in MY life, there was no escaping civility.

What happened? Rhetorical? Or do you really want a few examples of what is killing manners in the younger generation? I don't want to jump on a soapbox so I will keep it simple. PARENTS are failing. Period.

I hear ya! I have always been more of a romantic more in tune with her needs than my own. My son is already showing to be a good considerate kid towards women too. A lot of it, I believe has to do with their upbringing. My wife and I make it a point to always show respect for each other, love, and affection in front of our children. It's amazing how many young guys have never seen their parents hug, kiss, or say " I love you" to each other, but have heard them argue and complain about each other. Maybe I'm looking too deep who knows?

NO, you are not looking to deeply. Everything starts in the HOME. Right or wrong, it is where the foundation is laid.

Good questions and ones I've often wondered myself. It's reassuring to know that there are still men who believe in chivalry and some of those traditional male/female roles that have shaped our society from the start :) <br />
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@Colt1969...Good for you....Thank you for doing your part at keeping respect alive! :)

It is fascinating when a guy my age - in his thirties or even forties - exhibits no understanding of the concept of respect! You sure got it down :)

Harleylover - I agree 100%. I'm raising my sons to be as respectful as possible. Watching the way their friends act toward their parents, other adults, and other kids can be pretty disappointing, though.