I Think Men and Women Can Just Be Friends
For obvious reasons, I can't comment on Gal-Gal relationships, but I can give my 2 cents on Guy-Guy and Guy-Gal.
Different personalities have different bents. Different relationships meet different needs. By writing off the opportunity of intimate friendships with the opposite sex, people handicap themselves in meeting some very basic needs.
One of the most obvious benefits of having a woman as a friend and confidant is to have someone I can ask "Why did my wife do that?" If I were to ask one of my guy buddies, the answer would be "Who knows my friend, who knows." Not particularly helpful.
Sexual intimacy is by no means a given, even if both individuals are in their sexual prime and heterosexual. People are not (or should not be) controlled by their instincts. In my opinion this is what sets us apart from animals. The ability to use higher thought and reasoning to make choices that may go contrary to what our base instincts push us toward. As I think about the situations where I did not use said higher reasoning but allowed my desire to lead, I see how that often led me into a scenario I later regretted. I bring to my new relationships all of those experiences and to the thought process to how I behave. This is called maturing.
I won't claim to have gained maturity, but I am more mature and wiser than I was at this time last year.
That being said, I also know that I am a sexual being. Those appetites are powerful to say the least. Feeding appetites bring pleasure, it is a question of how much eating is good for me. Flirting and teasing whet my appetite.
My instincts for the relationships with women encompass, protection, provision and sex. All of those instincts can feed a wonderful friendship and all need to be constrained with wisdom and intent.
Thoughts bubbling in my brain. Thanks for the opportunity to let a couple bubbles break.
Different personalities have different bents. Different relationships meet different needs. By writing off the opportunity of intimate friendships with the opposite sex, people handicap themselves in meeting some very basic needs.
One of the most obvious benefits of having a woman as a friend and confidant is to have someone I can ask "Why did my wife do that?" If I were to ask one of my guy buddies, the answer would be "Who knows my friend, who knows." Not particularly helpful.
Sexual intimacy is by no means a given, even if both individuals are in their sexual prime and heterosexual. People are not (or should not be) controlled by their instincts. In my opinion this is what sets us apart from animals. The ability to use higher thought and reasoning to make choices that may go contrary to what our ba
I won't claim to have gained maturity, but I am more mature and wiser than I was at this time last year.
That being said, I also know that I am a sexual being. Those appetites are powerful to say the least. Feeding appetites bring pleasure, it is a question of how much eating is good for me. Flirting and teasing whet my appetite.
My instincts for the relationships with women encompass, protection, provision and sex. All of those instincts can feed a wonderful friendship and all need to be constrained with wisdom and intent.
Thoughts bubbling in my brain. Thanks for the opportunity to let a couple bubbles break.
By:
daveal
Age:
46-50
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Male
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