So Confused

So I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and I feel like he has completely changed. The first year everything was great he always said he loved me and always wanted to see me and cuddle. The last year everything started going downhill. We don't go out he always says he's broke yet he has money to buy other things. Every time we argue he pretty much just says okay so the argument just ends and he doesn't have to deal with it but then we don't solve anything! He's constantly texting his friends when we're together and i feel like he now has some power over me because i no longer have friends thanks to him. So i spend most of my time with him because i don't want to be lonely. I do love him and he says he loves me but i just don't feel it. We barely have sex anymore and when we do it's because I'm the one that starts it. We don't even have anything to talk about. When i tell him how i feel he honestly doesn't think he's doing anything wrong! We broke up once which only lasted 5 days and i felt like my whole world came crashing down. and is it weird that i often picture myself with other guys? I don't want to be alone what should I do?
undecided20 undecided20
18-21, F
3 Responses Jan 10, 2013

I'm in EXACTLY the same boat. I could have written this myself. I'm so hurt and confused..

omg this is like looking in a mirror. I had a boyfriend for almost 2 years and everything was exactly the same. we ended up breaking up in August. the next day, I missed him a lot, so I asked him to come over to my house so we could talk. He fought me, but finally did. Long story short, he basically said f u to me and I sat there crying and he didn't do anything. So I got out of his car (where we talked), walked inside, shut the door, and never said a word to him ever again. I'll be honest. It took me a long time to get over him. I was constantly sad, and everything reminded me of him. BUT, now I realize what an idiot I dated. He was lazy, a slob, and so many other things. I take it as a blessing that he didn't take me back when we talked in his car. I would've been miserable.

If you are unhappy, and things aren't going the way you want them to, and he acts like he doesn't care, then leave him. It will hurt, after all, you're leaving the one you love..But once you realize that you're not missing anything, you will feel so much better. You will meet a new guy who is 1000 times better. I did. And I have never been happier. I actually realized I wasn't in love with my ex, I just loved him. With my new bf, I love him and I am in love with him. Like so much. Don't worry. You will meet someone who is worthy of being with you. Keep your head up :)

This actually helped a lot, thank you!

you're welcome! If you need any more help, feel free to send me a message. I'll be happy to help!


I feel the EXACT same way. I hope someone can help us or tell us what to do as this hurts so much :(