My Husband Truly Hates MeI really don't even know where to begin. I started dating my husband because i truly felt that God sent him to me. we were the same religion, worked at the same place, liked the same things, and were both looking for "the one". i feel that about a year into the relationship, the real him came out. a completely different person than i thought i knew. I just can't seem to do anything right at all according to him. he even tells me that my asthma is "in my head" when i wake us both up wheezing and cannot breathe. when i fell and broke my foot chasing our dog, he screamed at me because i didn't wear the right shoes and that it was my own fault - wouldn't even take me to the hospital...my little sister had to come pick me up. he screams at me if we have a difference in opinion as well, and tells me that i'm a stupid ****, or that i'm ignorant. he has a daughter whom i absolutely love and adore like my own (i cannot have children). i have known her since she was 6 months old, when we started dating. we have shared parenting, and when she is here, i am the primary care taker (which i don't mind because i love her), but he just seems so removed from our lives. all he wants to do is play that stupid xbox and drink beer. (but that is a whole other issue in itself). Like last weekend, I wanted him to go with me to pick something up from the store and he didn't want to go, and i practically had to make a bargain with him...well he was instantly in a bad mood as soon as we left the house and i nicely said "just go back home...i won't mind at all, and you won't have to run around with me to the stores" and his reply was "no, you made your fu***** bed, now you have to lay in it". he used to get upset that his daughter and i were too loud in the morning when we would wake up and i would take care of her and make breakfast, so one night i went to bed for work, and he came in the bedroom and turned the lights on and screamed at me every two hours saying "how does it feel??"
Another night we got into an argument and i went to the bathroom to cry and locked the door. he beat the door in with a hammer!!! sure he apologized and saw the wrong in it, but that doesn't negate the fact that it happened in the first place.I do EVERYTHING in our home - all the laundry, all the shopping, all the bills, all the cooking, taking care of our daughter, make all the appointments, etc. on top of working THREE jobs!! (one full time, and 2 part time). there is no appreciation for me at all. Just snide remarks. when we disagree, i always try to talk in a calm matter and approach it delicately. His immediate response is "f*** you, stupid b****". and he starts shouting. the worst part is that he always fails to see when he is wrong. even days later!! after a fight, he either leaves for a few hours and drives around, or he ignores me for 3-4 days.
here's tonight's story - we had already committed to going on vacation with my family. well now the cabin is not good enough for him and said we are not going and now no one can go because they were depending on us to pay our share. so i decided to let it go. then, he threw a tennis ball way to close to me. he claims he was throwing it at the dog next to me for trying to jump on the counter, so i confronted him. and he said "i would have hit you if that's what i was trying to do" and then threw the tennis ball at my face twice. luckily i am agile, and missed it both times. i didn't even say anything and just came into our bedroom and started reading all of these posts. about an hour later, he came and slammed our bedroom door shut. so i very gently opened it back up. he came and shut it again. i simply opened it back up and said "is there a reason the door has to stay shut? I would prefer that it stays open..i don't like feeling locked in" and he said "well i want it closed and you don't trump me"...so to avoid an argument, i just closed it.