Confused

This started earlier this year i found my husband had joined dating sites for transvestites, I have always known that he had a fetish for silk but i thought that was as far as it went. I questioned him about going on the site and he assured me he wasn't gay and if he was he wouldn't have married me, he said  that he had done as his head was in bits. We have always had a good sex life for the 12 years we have been together but since the beginning of the year it is pretty much no existant. I work nights and last week i found that he had been watching **** of transvestites i have tried to talk to him again but he seems to dismiss the subject. I love him very much but i am so confused i feel that he may be gay and using me to hide behind so that family and friends will not find out. I don't know what to do please help
shushfoot shushfoot
46-50, F
1 Response May 7, 2012

As a husband who is doing similar, I'm happy to share what going through my head. I have been married for 12 years too. I feel for you.

You are abusing of your wife. Tell her the true and let her decide if she want to stay or she want to leave a man that isnt interested in her.